Being abandoned is the best feeling in the entire world. If that sentence made you go, “Um, WTF?” then you’re going to looove the rest of this episode. I know it sounds fucking insane, yeah? How could anyone LOVE being abandoned?  It’s more common than you think, actually. A lot of us have an addiction to being abandoned…but the root of that addiction is buried so deep in our subconscious that we don’t usually recognize it. I know, because I used to be addicted to being abandoned. And if you can’t wrap your mind around that, think about it like this… Do you lose interest in a guy when you don’t have to chase him? Do you get major ick when you start to feel safe around someone? Do you only think you’re “in love” when your nervous system is in total overdrive, leaving you “lovesick?” Yeah, I thought that might sound familiar. Let’s talk about where this addiction to abandonment comes from.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Ep 102: The Thrill of Abandonment: When The Unavailable Becomes an Addiction

Welcome to Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast! I’m your host Michelle Panning - intimacy alchemist AKA your love, sex, and relationship bestie, trigger queen, and founder of my signature program The Connected Woman. 

I get it, you’re done being left on read, getting ghosted and being caught up in a cycle of attracting emotionally unavailable men. Let’s be real - you have NEEDS. You deserve it all, you deserve to feel worthy and confident. You deserve a fulfilling love life.

For years I was going through the same experiences with men over and over again that left me feeling confused, anxious, and pissed off. I silenced myself in dating and relationships because I was terrified of being judged, rejected, and abandoned. I just wanted a meaningful relationship and thought I was doing all the right things. But none of it was working.

I knew I couldn’t continue to repeat the same cycle with different men. 

Something had to change. 

I decided in that moment that I was going to finally work on healing my own wounds and work on myself, so that I could experience a beautiful and fulfilling relationship. I decided to put myself first. 

And now, with this podcast, I want to share with you the exact internal work strategies that I did to get to a place of confidence, peace, and worthiness. 

You can kiss ALL of your worries and limiting beliefs around love goodbye. Are you ready? Grab your favorite glass of wine and let’s get to work, because it is time to reclaim your self worth babe.
 
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Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought about getting back together with an ex. My hand’s up. No shame here. Pretty much everyone has, right? It’s natural—when you lose your safe person, no matter what reasons there were to break up, you’re obviously going to miss them and want them back… But that doesn’t mean it’s the right choice to make. Doesn’t mean it’s the wrong one, either. Reconnecting with someone after a breakup—whether it’s a romantic OR platonic breakup—can work. It can actually be an amazing thing. But only if you go about it from the right place, with the right intentions and motivations. And “I miss them” is not one of those motivations. Navigating reconnection is never easy. I recently navigated reconnecting with an ex, myself…an ex-friend I went through a “breakup” with last year. At the time, it was almost impossible to find any advice on how to process that kind of breakup…so why don’t I make it a little easier?   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Ep 149: Requirements for Repair: What You Need to Do BEFORE Getting Back Together With Your Ex

Here’s a spicy little take for you… So many of our “limitations” are self-imposed…because we glorify our own convenience and comfort over actually seeing some growth. I recently signed up for a training I’ve been wanting to do for years. Actual f*cking years. I signed up, I paid in full, I booked for a single room, and… They messaged back and told me they only had dorms available. Shit. If you don’t know this about me, I haaate sharing my sleeping space, period. My partner and I don’t even sleep in the same room. So when I found out I’d have to stay in the dorms, I started finding reasons to try and undo the plunge I already took…until I realized I was limiting myself from something I really, really wanted for the sake of nothing but my own comfort. And I told myself what I’m also going to tell you: Get the f*ck over yourself. If you let yourself set limitations based on your own convenience and comfort, and you feel as though you’re experiencing intense stagnation…news flash, babe. You’re actually the only thing standing in your way. If we want something bad enough, we will do ANYTHING to make it happen. And yes, I do mean ANYTHING.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Ready to MASTER your shadows so you can magnetise high-AF-calibre men and fuckloads of money? Join MEN, MONEY, MAGNETISM now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mmm/  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Ep 148: Get Over Yourself, Babe: Why Comfort and Convenience are the Least of Your Concerns

When I first started trying to be emotionally vulnerable with my partners…it did NOT go well. At first, finding my voice looked a lot like dumping all my emotions onto my partner and expecting him to hold them. And according to our guest this week, that’s actually very common…but it’s also not ideal. If you tend to bury your partner in an emotional avalanche when you’re trying to share your feelings—or you struggle to share them at all—then I’d like you to meet Chantelle Raven: founder and lead teacher at the Embodied Awakening Academy, world-class facilitator in Tantra, and all-around mind-blowing human being.  Chantelle is all about teaching people how to express authentically from their heart…without all the BS. She’s got some fan-fucking-tastic advice for avoiding emotional dumping, coming to a place of clarity before you share what’s happening for you, navigating conflicts with your partner, and so much more.  As Chantelle said to me when we started this episode: “Let’s unf*ck some people.”   WORK WITH CHANTELLE: Website: https://embodiedawakeningacademy.com/  Follow Embodied Awakening Academy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embodiedawakeningacademy/    CONNECT WITH CHANTELLE: Follow Chantelle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_chantelleraven/     WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/ Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Ep 147: Cutting to the Core: A Discussion with Tantra Teacher Chantelle Raven

Confession… When I first heard about scripting manifestation, I thought it was suuuuch bullshit. Like, I’m sorry…you mean to tell me that if I write down what I want, it’s just magically going to happen for me? I don’t think so. Well, that is exactly what I f*cking mean to tell you. Because scripting manifestation is actually THE shit, not bullshit. Scripting is a powerful manifestation tool I use aaall the fucking time…and when I tell you it works, it WORKS. If you think you’re shit at manifesting, if you think manifestation is total nonsense, or if you’re brand-new to manifestation and don’t know how to start…this episode is perfect for you. Let me teach you how to become the screenwriter of your own life.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Ready to MASTER your shadows so you can magnetise high-AF-calibre men and fuckloads of money? Join MEN, MONEY, MAGNETISM now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mmm/  It’s time to step into your LUCKY GIRL ERA and get absolutely EVERYTHING you want: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/777/  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Ep 146: Scripting the Scene: How to Manifest the Life You ACTUALLY Want

Let’s talk about unf*cking your relationship…with MONEY. Yes, you do have a relationship with money—everyone does. I do, you do, your next door neighbor does, your best friend does…you get it. Some people love money. Some people hate it. Some people are afraid of it… But mostly, people are ASHAMED of it. Our society puts sooo much money shame on people…especially women. It’s taboo. We’re not supposed to talk about it. If we do, we’re bragging. If we spend it, we’re reckless. If we hoard it, we’re misers. Idk about you, but this relationship is starting to sound toxic AF. If we want to heal our relationship with money, we can’t keep feeling shame around it…and I, for one, am not afraid to talk about it.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Ready to MASTER your shadows so you can magnetise high-AF-calibre men and fuckloads of money? Join MEN, MONEY, MAGNETISM now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/mmm/  Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/ Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Ep 102: The Thrill of Abandonment: When The Unavailable Becomes an Addiction

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