On this episode, Monica Helms (she/her) joins Caroline Penny, Jordan Braxton, Kaz Philips and Tess White for a conversation about her life, work, and enduring impact as a pioneering activist and creator of the Transgender Pride Flag.
Monica reflects on childhood in Sumter, South Carolina, and upbringing in Arizona, tracing her path through military service, transition, and advocacy. Serving aboard nuclear submarines from 1970 to 1978, including during the Vietnam War, Monica’s early experiences shaped her commitment to resilience, integrity, and visibility in spaces that excluded trans people.
The conversation moves through her post-military life, the creation of the Transgender Pride Flag in 1999, and the founding of the Transgender American Veterans Association (TAVA) in 2003. Monica shares how her work has fostered community solidarity, visibility, and practical support for trans service members and veterans. Themes of courage, creativity, and continuity run through the episode, emphasizing the tangible impact of one person’s dedication to collective care.
This episode honors a living legend whose work continues to ripple across generations. It is a conversation about persistence, creativity, and the belief that every person deserves to live authentically and be seen in full color.
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About the Guest
Monica Helms, who uses she/her pronouns, is an activist, author, and U.S. Navy veteran. Born in Sumter, South Carolina, and raised in Arizona, Monica served in the Navy from 1970 to 1978. After coming out as transgender in 1997, she became a pioneering advocate for visibility and equality, founding the Transgender American Veterans Association in 2003—the first organization dedicated to trans service members and veterans.
Her creation of the Transgender Pride Flag, first flown at a Phoenix Pride parade in 2000 and now housed at the Smithsonian, has become one of the most recognized symbols of trans pride worldwide. Through her memoir More Than Just a Flag, Monica continues to educate and inspire, centering authenticity, advocacy, and dignity for trans people everywhere.
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About the Podcast
Preserving trans voices, one story at a time
The Trans Narrative Podcast is an international storytelling and archival platform dedicated to preserving trans and gender-diverse lives through long-form narrative. With over 150 episodes across five seasons and listeners in more than 80 countries, each episode captures lived experience from beginning to end, treating every story as historical record rather than soundbite.
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