The Transformational Leader

Conversation for transformation and conversation for survival are two important distinct conversations valuable when leading, coaching, and supporting someone.

In this episode, we will see the distinctions between these two types of conversations.

Some distinctions include conversation for transformation is different from our default conversation or the conversation we operate regularly in our daily lives.

Our daily life is a conversation really for survival. It is a conversation about what is going on with your life and what you have to do.

A conversation for transformation is a conversation that exists in the realm of possibility, and that possibility is everything outside of what is already predictable for you to have.

When we engage beyond the transformational conversation, we are stepping beyond the balance of "here's why I can't do that."

There are more things to learn about this topic, so listen and enjoy the show!

On this week's mid-week episode, Adam is live coaching Laura Camacho, around the topic of how to make more money without working harder, and all of the layers that are at play around this topic.

There are two types of investment for yourself. The first type is where you make an investment that does not cost you much financially and is not of too much concern. This type of investment is common for most people.

But what happens when you invest in something you couldn't afford to fail? This is the type of investment that arrests you.

In this episode, we will talk about the ontology of investing in yourself. Investing in something that makes you confronted by fear. The type of investment that diminishes your desire to go beyond the threshold of your fear and go beyond the possibility. Enjoy the show!

If you ask people who are high performers how they experience disappointment, they will tell you that they don't have a lot of disappointment in their life. Disappointments are uncommon for these people.

What is going on is that people learn to perform and put out some excellent work, and they constantly try to outrun the specter of disappointment for themselves and other people.

There is a pattern for high performers that leads to a great deal of burnout because there is an inability to slow down and take a rest. It is the trait or pattern where someone hurts and injures themselves and drives them crazy.

In this episode of The Transformational Leader with Adam Quiney, we will start to look at it from a different perspective. We will look at it not on how they have always been, but on how they became. Enjoy the show!

In this episode of The Transformational Leader, we talked about the Ontology of Patterns, the nature of a pattern, and how we stay stuck.

The nature of a pattern is that over time, we do something and are rewarded for it. We learn a particular set of thoughts and beliefs, and we learn to take a specific set of actions from those thoughts and beliefs. We are rewarded for those actions.

As time goes on, those neural pathways get optimized and become more efficient. Over time, we stop thinking about this as a pattern or even as a choice.

In transformational work, we talk about how you work on the technique. At this point, you stop using it. Now, the technique is using you. You are no longer consciously doing it, it is happening for you.

Listen and learn more about this topic and how it affects the transformation in you as a leader!

On this week's mid-week episode, Adam is breaking down all things related to the topic of Empathy. You'll hear him discuss What is in the way of our empathy, How empathy is related to our aging process, How empathy can provide access to our own blindspots, What the consequences of opening our heart empathetically are, and more.

In this episode of The Transformational Leader, Adam Quiney talks about the danger of the typing model.

The trouble with the typing systems is that they are ostensibly in service of helping people transform and grow, but what they do is diminish possibility. They take it off the table because if you relate to yourself as low emotionality, you will not bother investing that much time in it.

You learn that emotions are a liability or you don't like how it feels when you are sad, so you start cutting off your sadness and thinking about it. When we cut off one emotion, we end up covering up the other emotions.

A lot of these typing models are very ironic and they celebrate the fact that you are being diminished.

Listen and know the dangers of labeling ourselves in a particular way. Enjoy the show!

In this episode of The Transformational Leader, Adam Quiney talks about the Ontology of Indecision.

If you find yourself indecisive, what often happens is you conclude "That's just the way I am, I am indecisive." It doesn't give you any other options but to label yourself indecisive.

Looking at it ontologically, we are looking at how this way of being comes to be and discern the depth of being available there.

Indecisiveness is someone who takes so long to make a decision. When you are looking at something through this lens, what it does is it tells us indecision is something learned or a pattern you learned along the way.

As we understand that pattern, it helps you to see what is it that is causing this. When you get to the root of the issue, you can resolve it and have it go differently.

Listen to learn more about this topic. Enjoy the show!

In this week's episode of The Transformational Leader by Adam Quiney, we will talk about the interaction of ontology and other models. It is the ontological layer and how it interacts with various models.

Once you work with people ontologically, it's not so much about a model as it is about cultivating in ourselves, the ability to deeply feel, see, listen, and speak to someone who is being below what they are doing.

Most models are about a particular approach to speaking or a lens on how it is being done. The ontological layer interacts with these modalities so that we can have a deeper understanding of how these all play out.

Listen and know more about how the ability to look, see, and experience the ontology of the moment of how someone is being will support us no matter what model, modality, or approach we are using. Enjoy the show!

The ego has one straightforward job. It is to keep you safe by keeping you where you are. It is not geographically keeping you where you are, but it's keeping you surrounded by circumstances and experiences on how you currently know them. It keeps you playing the game that you are already playing.

The ego allows us to move forward or backward. It provides two directions, and they seem radically different, but ultimately they are the same way of being.

Listen and learn how ego affects our job and accept changes in our lives. What can we do to change it? Enjoy the show!