Jimmy Evans, from Marriage Today, provides insight into the internal issues that inhibit intimacy so couples can remove the negatives and then understand the ethics of intimacy, so couples can work to create an atmosphere of true and lasting intimacy.

While submitting to and serving others may not come natural to us, it is the way Jesus calls us to live and that posture makes for healthier and safe relationships.

God’s math requires supernatural help. He says in marriage, 1 + 1 + 1 = 1. The only way that a marriage can work is for both parties to pursue God so that He can be the fulfiller of all their deep needs. He must heal them, set them free, forgive them, etc. Once we focus on God, we can learn how to love, serve, sacrifice, submit and lead.

All of us want and even expect life to turn out good. I think it¹s a byproduct of being raised in America. We simply expect to turn out good or get bailed out. The problem is that we don't plan and live in a way that leads toward what we really desire. Are we willing to make the commitment to live on a path that leads toward the biblical goals? Every decision we make sets our lives on a path somewhere. Will we make decisions that lead towards what God wants for our lives?