You're not overcompetitive. You're just competing in the wrong arenas.

I asked my dog's groomer what he'd need to do to get an A+ instead of an A. The lady next to me thought I was crazy.

She was wrong.

I break down why being wired to win isn't a character flaw — it's a competitive advantage most people are too afraid to claim. Plus, the etymology of the word "compete" will completely reframe how you see your rivals, your industry, and the people chasing the same finish line as you.

The real question isn't whether you're competitive. It's whether you're competing for the right things.

Hit play. This one's for the winners.

Who This Episode Is For If someone has ever told you that you're too competitive — this one's for you.

Social Caption Everyone's competitive. Not everyone's honest enough to admit what they actually care about winning.

Key Takeaways

• Being wired to win isn't overcompetitive — it's a sign you take your limited time seriously
• True winners don't just excel in one area; their integrity, values, and execution make them winners across all areas of life
• Everyone is competitive — just not about everything. Find your arenas and own them.
• The etymology of "compete" means striving together — your rivals make you better, not worse
• As you grow, the skill isn't wanting to win less — it's choosing your battles with more precision

Questions for Reflection

• What areas of your life are you pretending not to care about winning — when deep down you know you do?
• Are you competing in battles that drain your energy without advancing your actual goals?
• Who are the competitors in your life that are making you sharper — and are you grateful for them?

Action Steps

1. List the three arenas where you are genuinely, unapologetically competitive. Own them — stop apologizing for wanting to win there.
2. Audit the battles you're currently in. Identify one you need to exit because it's costing you energy without moving you forward.
3. Identify one competitor — in business, fitness, or life — and genuinely root for them to get better. Iron sharpens iron.

Featured Quote "Don't compete for everything — but the things you do compete in, give it your absolute all."