If you ask 5 people for their advice on how women should speak up at work, you're likely to get 5 different answers. 

That's because, it seems, everyone has something to say about how women communicate at work. We're either too much or too little, too loud or too quiet, too direct or too passive, depending on who you ask. 

In today's episode, I share the more complex reality underlying all human communication, and why at the end of the day, the most important power women have is to choose how we speak up for ourselves. 

Related links:

• TIME: I'm Sorry, but Women Really Need to Stop Apologizing
• NYT: No, You Don't Have to Stop Apologizing
• SLATE: New Chrome app helps women stop saying "just" and "sorry" in emails
• Business Insider: This one piece of viral advice for women at work is actually terrible.
• GOOP: How women undermine themselves with words
• NYT: Women Know Exactly What They're Doing When They Use 'Weak' Language
• Bossed Up's Speak Up assertive communication course
• The Courage Community on Facebook
• Bossed Up's Group on LinkedIn