The Tuned-In Mom Show (formerly The Inspired Weekly Podcast)

We all have the power to choose our thoughts on purpose and with intention in order to create a life that feels better.  We get to decide what to think and believe based on what our brain offers to us, and how we allow those thoughts to shape our life experience. In other words, what it means to be human. Which we know, encompasses feeling everything from happiness and joy to sadness and heartbreak. The discomfort in this though, is part of what grows, changes, and moves us forward into the next right thing.

Because it hurts to hurt. It hurts to let go of someone. But it hurts more to hold onto feelings that no longer serve us.  It’s not a good feeling that I’m just going through the motions each day and life is passing me by.  No, not at all. When we move into forgiveness, it brings us back to the present moment. Allows us to focus on what’s happening right in front of us. And I read a quote or theory somewhere, that grief is just love, with no place left to go. And in that moment, I  knew exactly what I needed.

It isn’t getting the degree, expensive car, a bigger house, or what the number on the scale says.

What it comes down to is really how much we know, like, and trust ourselves to get to the next destination on our journey.

That’s part of how we grow.

Maybe you’ve heard of know like, and, trust factor as a marketing strategy, but...

What if we see that in a whole new light?

Because...

It’s important to know, like, and trust yourself, too, right?

You need to---the person you spend the most time with is YOU!

And how can you move into a calling in your life, if you feel broken or unworthy? Lost or confused. Feeling stuck.

The truth? You can’t.

But, when you are in your own corner and have your own back.

You create a plan.

You set it in motion.

You take action.

And show up how you want to, and you become more effective in every area of your life.

So, friend...

Can you count on yourself?

Do you follow through?

Will you keep the promises you make to yourself?

And the most important question...

Do you know, like, and trust yourself?

Because how we show up matters---and it starts with the relationship we have with ourselves. <3

It’s never too late. You can always take an opportunity to reflect on the past year, of where and who you’ve been,  where you are going, and who you are becoming.

I feel like this year we've been collectively holding on, anticipating what’s to come. I hear so many of you talking, that it feels like you’ve been in the same spot for months, and that you should be making more progress. Tired of going through the motions every day, checking off the to-do list, and seemingly going nowhere---even though you want to move forward in life. And the biggest challenge right now? You are faced with stress and overwhelm.

So, that’s exactly what we are going to discuss today. Why are we falling so easily into overwhelm? Why does it all feel so hard to navigate life these days? Ways to prevent overwhelm from happening in the first place.

Circumstances happen in the blink of an eye, totally out of our control. And we’re left wishing it was easier than it is. And that there must be another way. Why does change have to be so hard, we wonder? 

In previous shows, I mentioned that thoughts create our feelings, feelings influence the action we take or don’t take, and the action produces the result. Todd Kashdan of George Mason University says, “What we know from science is that our greatest regrets don’t come from trying, and failing, but not approaching at all. That inaction bothers us more.”

In other words, it’s much better to come from a place of curiosity because if we are constantly judging what’s going on around us, other people, or ourselves.  Chances are we block a lot of our ability to make progress or change.  We miss the opportunity to take action and create the outcome we desire.

Knowing all of this, if we observe our world, thoughts, others, and ourselves from a place of curiosity, we are more likely to build the life we want, right? We grow. We learn. We connect. We relate. We open up to other possibilities around us.

So many of us get stressed out thinking of the unknown, of the future.

Not a single one of us is the same as we were yesterday. And that is the best news. Who we are today---isn’t who we’ll be tomorrow. We are constantly evolving, changing, progressing, and growing into who we will become. Something so very powerful happens when we can see that all of our life experiences, mistakes, events, and all the things we’ve been through have shaped us into who we are right now. But...what about who we are becoming?

I want you to think for a second how it makes you feel---or what comes up for you when I mention the idea of saying no. Kinda cringy, maybe? OR Oh, gosh, I could never! Just know that you are not alone. In our never-ending pursuit to make everyone around us happy, we say yes to so many, but we forget to say yes to ourselves. We fail to see just how life-changing saying no can be.

Today, I want to talk with you about why we struggle to say this small, yet powerful word. When is the right time to say it, how can we say it (without the guilt), and why we need to say it to save our sanity. It’s time to get real about what we want for and in our life. When we are honest about that, we can discern how to use yes and no---so that it aligns with our values, and what we view is most important.