Are you feeling inclined to treat yourself from time to time with bubble baths, manicures, chocolates and shopping sprees? As women, it seems perfectly natural for us to have these images in mind when we think of self-care. While there is certainly nothing wrong with having your hair or nails done, or even bingeing on fancy chocolates if that’s what you’re into, we must realize that this side of self-care is vacuous and superficial. The fact that we have to be constantly reminded to treat ourselves is very indicative of how we are socialized as women in patriarchal society. For self-care to truly become a radical feminist act, we have to understand what it really is. Putting yourself first as a woman is not all glitter and gold. We have to realize that true self-care is less Instagram-able than we fancy it to be. It’s about time we learn the ugly truth about self-care. Let Meaghan Lamm lead the way.