The Unlearning Podcast-Unlearning Conditioning, Embodying the Heart-Forward Bad B"tch

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Common decency expert and author of Rooted in Decency: Finding Inner Peace in a World Gone Sideways (book linked here) Colleen Doyle Bryant strives to illustrate the importance of self-respect and the impact that it can have not only on one's personal mental wellbeing, but the way that they interact within society as well. Through these discussions of morality and decency, Doyle Bryant displays how we as a society can and individuals can begin to work towards a shared sense of morality. 

Utilizing research from experts in psychology, sociology, and philosophy, Rooted in Decency uncovers why people are acting the way they are right now and helps readers define their own personal values. Each chapter is a short conversation that presents brilliant insights—from neuroscience to happiness science, from Aristotle to Buddha—that bring new light to today’s moral dilemmas.

We discuss the 4 common values that tie a functioning society together: truth, respect, responsibility, and compassion. (around 23 minutes)


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10:47-10:53 people don’t react to shame the same way they do reason 

10:57 -  natural instinct to care and respond when they see harm 

13:01- unpacking religious shame,  "going to hell", and the LGBTQ+ community

13:56 - 14:40- getting people to agree with you 

19:19-19:25- if the goal is to change minds, I need to go about it in a way that they’ll listen

23 minutes- 4 common values among religions and ancient wisdom systems 

WE'RE BAAACCCKKKK and talking about the fear of failure, the drivers underneath, and overall how living a creative life or working for yourself is a path of personal growth.

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Heart forward

• Human first 
• Empathetic for others and the collective 
• Awareness of intersectionality and trauma 
• Radically self-expressive
• Trusting in the co-creation 

Bad bitch 

• A heart forward bad bitch stands in their  power, speaks their truth, lives their deeper purpose, embraces their humanness, and is committed to unlearning all the ways they’ve been told to stay small.  

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What you'll learn (and UNLEARN today):
- the problems with perfectionism in goal setting

1- understand and reflect on the beliefs that are driving your subconscious (perfectionism, people pleasing, our beliefs on the strength of the follow through muscle) 

2-become aware how the ego brain works and is driving self-sabotaging behaviors**

3-focus on the high-impact patterns, what would add the most life to your life? Create reasonable and specific behaviors "when this happens, I will_____" 

4- Connect your actions with your greater vision and purpose**

5-Make space for easy wins to break old beliefs that you can't stick with anything by using slacky goals 

6-Create a failure plan and walk through it as an opportunity for self-compassion and forgiveness. We are hoping for resilient long term life changes here and those won't come from shame, blame and guilt

7-Aim to improve your habits (by say 1, 10, or 20 percent), rather than to eliminate all self-defeating behavior from your life.

8- Create reminders and visuals that interrupt the hum drum regular routine and remind you of what you're trying to do. Its not going to feel natural at first. and if you're neurodivergent you'll probably need a nudge to remember. its not that you don't care about it, its that there's a lot in your brain space you DO care about and needing a nudge isn't a sign of weakness. set that calendar reminder, baby 

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Doing well doesn't actually change your perception of imposter syndrome. It leaves you thinking things like..."What gives me the right to be here? Who am I to charge that rate?" Even tho that's what would actually support you and your growth. It's like, the more you accomplish, the more you just feel like a fraud. It's as though you can't internalize your experiences of success.

We also go over:
Signs of imposter syndrome
Questions to ask yourself
Affirmations 

Follow people who bring not just their wins but their humanness to the table,

@RachelGibler , @evolvewithevelyn @themoneyinstitute

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What you'll learn (and unlearn today)

• 1-Sometimes you’re pushing things off because you truly don’t have capacity, somethings its because you’re scared… sometimes its both.
• If you’re having perfectionistic tendencies getting in the way ask:
  • WHY are you doing this anyway? Get clear on the purpose and servitude underneath the 
  • Is this an aligment issue or is this a fear of being seen or trauma issue?
• 2-We cant control the shit that gets delivered to our door, but we can choose what to do with it
• 3-When going through trauma, we are going to reach for some kind of consistency and grounding– its our job to choose what we allow ourselves to reach for for that grounding and connection
• 4-Setting new habits and breaking old habits is easier to do when not steeped in the environment in which they were created in order to cope
• 5-Its a real ass power move not needing to be understood and heard in order to heal and move on. I’ve had to disconnect from my sense of self and the perspective that was being projected onto me.
• 6-Emotional pain is just emotional pain
• 7-The internet is craving more authenticity-not just a highlight reel

Welcome to the Unlearning Podcast- A show about heart-forward bad bitchery, taking up space, and unapologetic self-expression!

Every other week, I'm going to bring you a topic to inspire, heal, and embody the purpose you know deep down you're really here for.

This season look forward to more trauma healing, more inner-child work, more practical manifestation work, healing through change, and finding lessons in the spiritual smackdown.


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Hello you beautiful human- how have you been? 

Season two is going to have more solocasts with some interviews sprinkled in. Definitely more of me coaching and educating like the solocasts that you have told me you’ve enjoyed.  

I want to hear from you, what topics do you want to hear from me? 

I invite you get caught up on the rest of season one if you havent already and  to download my heart-forward goal setting free workbook to start this work on your own. 

What should we unlearn next? Send me your questions, comments, and episode suggestions to [email protected]