Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

In this tell-all episode, we rip the mask off one of the lifestyle’s most whispered-about topics: the No-Fly List. Who gets put on it, why they’re there, and how it feels when you find out you made the cut. From unspoken boundaries to repeated STI scares, we’re digging deep into what keeps people “off limits” in open relationships and Lifestyle circles.

It’s raw, it’s real, and sometimes… it’s personal. We swap stories of awkward “not with you” moments, playing politics in play parties, and the awkward truth about why some people just can’t get past your partner’s rules. Plus, the surprising ways being single changes how couples treat you—and why some flirtations never make it past the DMs.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I being respectful… or am I about to get grounded from the hot list?”—this one’s for you.

💥 In this episode:

- What a “No-Fly List” really means in the lifestyle

- The fine line between safety, jealousy & politics

- How STI patterns can land you on the list (and keep you there)

- Why being single changes the party dynamic

- The real reason some couples won’t play with you

- Respect, boundaries & calling out repeat offenders

🎧 If you’re navigating ethical non-monogamy, Lifestyle etiquette, or just want to avoid the “banned” list, grab your drink and buckle up—this one flies close to the sun.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project

0:40 – “No-Fly List” 101: What It Means & Why It Exists

2:15 – Have You Ever Been On One? Confessions From the Crew

4:10 – The Role of Trust, Safety & Past Drama

6:00 – Pikme Behavior & Disrespecting Couples’ Dynamics

8:15 – Playing Together vs. Playing Solo

10:00 – STI Patterns & Drawing the Line

12:45 – When Being Single Changes the Game

15:10 – Why Some People Feel “Silently” Rejected

18:20 – Navigating Insecurities & Hotness Ratios

21:05 – The Siren Effect: Attractive Energy as a Double-Edged Sword

24:00 – Respecting Boundaries Without Killing the Vibe

27:40 – Do You Confront Repeat Offenders or Just Add to the List?

31:15 – Being Misunderstood in the Lifestyle

34:20 – Flirtation, Friend-Zoning & Why Men Don’t Approach

38:10 – Power Dynamics & Party Hosting

41:00 – The Slap Heard ’Round the Playroom

44:20 – Lessons Learned: Communication, Respect & Reputation

47:30 – Final Thoughts: Flying High Without Crossing the Line

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!This week, we left a play party… to crash a gym crew happy hour. Yep, it was that kind of night.

In this cheeky yet vulnerable episode, Layla and Brian unpack everything from flirty gym crushes to emotionally confusing “friendships” that only show up when someone’s single. We’re talking about hot bodies, hotter boundaries, and the real communication gaps hiding in open relationships.

From sweaty workouts to sweaty situationships, we explore what happens when fitness motivation meets lifestyle temptation. Is it ever safe to hook up within your gym crew? Why do some “friends” vanish into monogamy and pop back up like clockwork? And most importantly—are you washing yourself correctly?

Whether you’re navigating modern love, trying to avoid cheating tales, or just here for the real talk, this one’s packed with humor, heart, and a little sweat.

💥 In this episode:

• Leaving a play party for a gym crush

• Flirty friends, emotional boundaries & communication skills

• When “he’s just a friend” hits different in an open marriage

• Why your gym might be the new lifestyle hotspot

• Confessions about hygiene, hand towels, and honesty

• The power of couples therapy (and group chats)

🎧 Whether you're on a fitness journey, a wellness journey, or just trying to find your people, this episode serves gym motivation and romantic insights.

We’re sweaty, unfiltered, and still your favorite unmasked crew.

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⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project0:13 – Guys who are “100% straight”... but watching what?0:31 – Inside LA’s hottest gym party1:52 – We left a play party for this?3:06 – Gym happy hours: messy, sexy, or both?5:00 – Why we don’t date at our gym7:16 – DIY cut-offs & Michaels cart therapy11:27 – When friends only text you single14:15 – Flirting or emotional cheating?17:00 – How to keep the peace with your partner20:35 – Fitness motivation or forbidden vibes?24:20 – The great washcloth debate28:00 – Soap, sex, and sweat: body talk gets real30:00 – Reddit reactions: swingers, poly, and play rules34:10 – Do couples who swing together really stay together?37:00 – Emotional growth vs. hot mess express40:00 – Dating profiles decoded: what those bios really mean

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

In this no-holds-barred episode, Layla reads a ChatGPT-generated breakup text that stirs up serious questions about communication, ghosting, and emotional responsibility in polyamory. The relationship started fast—but ended faster, with guilt trips, AI scripts, and passive-aggressive silence.

We dive into the messy emotional terrain of non-monogamy, sex parties, and swinger dynamics in a community that's evolving—sometimes for the worse. Are the parties getting younger and riskier? Are people using poly to avoid deeper issues? And what happens when emotional intelligence goes out the window?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I really poly, or do I just like falling in love?”—this one’s for you. Whether you're deep in the poly lifestyle or just curious about the swinger scene, this conversation hits hard with raw truth and real laughs.

💥 In this episode:

• The AI breakup text that ended it all

• Emotional boundaries in open relationships

• Ghosting, guilt, and poly dating etiquette

• STI awareness & why vetting matters more than ever

• Are you actually poly—or just addicted to NRE?

• When the lifestyle starts to feel... unsafe
  

🎧 If you’re exploring ethical non-monogamy, sex positivity, or navigating a poly breakup, this one pulls no punches.

We’re bold, we’re raw, and we’re still your favorite unmasked truth-tellers.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project

0:12 – Layla Reads the ChatGPT Breakup Text

1:15 – Ghosted: “My Silence Was My Communication”

3:30 – Guilt, Boundaries & Emotional Labor

5:40 – Is He Just Not Poly?

8:00 – Sex Party Etiquette: How Soon Is Too Soon?

11:30 – Why Some People Aren’t Cut Out for This Life

14:00 – STI Spikes & the Responsibility of Vetting

17:20 – Are You Poly or Just Addicted to NRE?

21:00 – Relationship Coaching: Intentions vs. Impulses

24:40 – Lifestyle Fatigue: Are the Vibes Off?

29:10 – When the Scene Feels Less Safe (and Less Sexy)

33:20 – Emotional Intelligence, Party Culture & Calling It Out

36:00 – The Crew Gets Real About Checking Your Friends

40:00 – Getting Off: Rants About Michaels Carts & Costco Carts

43:00 – Final Thoughts on Communication, Sex, and Self-Respect

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Why do so many women feel pressured to change their bodies? In this raw, revealing episode, Jacki Schechner joins Layla & Brian to talk about boob jobs, Botox, body standards, and the surprising things men actually notice (and don’t).

From straight pubes to shrinking boobs, they unpack how the algorithm fuels insecurity, how cosmetic surgery plays out in the lifestyle space, and how aging, sex drive, and confidence evolve with time.

This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation. Subscribe so you don’t miss next week’s episode.

⏰ Timestamps

0:00 Welcome Back: Jacki Schechner on Beauty, Sex & Pressure

1:30 Botox, Fillers & Cosmetic Work in the ENM Scene

6:15 Do Men Really Care About Cellulite, Scars & Small Boobs?

9:45 Do People Think Breast Implant Scars Look Bad

13:00 Penis Size, Disappointment & Bedroom Etiquette

17:00 How the Lifestyle Space Boosts Body Confidence

20:30 Lingerie, First Parties & Feeling Sexy Again

24:00 Peptides, Weight Loss & Testosterone After 30

30:00 Can You Tell If Your Sex Drive Is Declining?

33:00 Jacki’s Breakup, Alcohol Journey & Learning Control

38:00 The Algorithm Is Lying to You About Beauty Standards

43:00 Part 2 Is Coming Soon. We're Not Done With Jacki

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Sabrina Baldini—TEDx speaker, sex educator, and host of After Sex Ed—joins us to explore what she calls “The Third Sexual Revolution.” From porn literacy and ED to dating app burnout and non-monogamy, we dive deep into how young men are navigating sex, relationships, and connection in a post-digital world.We talk about what’s broken in sex ed, how porn is shaping sexual expectations, and why so many people are craving something real—both in and out of the bedroom.Whether you're a curious dater, a parent, or just someone questioning what sex means today—this episode will challenge, educate, and probably make you laugh.⏰ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: Who is Sabrina Baldini?2:00 – Why adult sex ed is more needed than ever6:30 – Teaching consent in kindergarten: A Canadian model10:00 – Sex ed trauma in the US: Robot babies & scare tactics13:45 – Porn literacy and how young men learn about sex18:00 – Why erections ≠ love (and why many men think they do)23:00 – Premature ejaculation & what it really means26:30 – The problem with 25-minute sex scenes31:00 – The Third Sexual Revolution: What it is & why now34:00 – Dating app fatigue and the rise of in-person connection38:30 – Can men and women really be friends?45:00 – Why non-monogamy might be part of the future51:00 – Is monogamy a spectrum?55:00 – What the cheating numbers really say about monogamy🔗 Want to Connect with SabrinaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@LearnwithSabrinaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/afters3xed/Sabrina's Website: www.aftersexed.com🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Listen to all of our episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uOOhjA...🔥 Follow us on IG: / theunmasked_project 🔥 Follow us on TT: / themaskedswingers 🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]

Welcome back to The Unmasked Project, fka The Masked Swingers! 

In this live relationship coaching session, Layla opens up about the emotional intensity of dating while married in an ethical non-monogamy setup. Her partner, brand new to both polyamory and serious relationships, brings passion—but also insecurity and emotional dependency. With the help of renowned relationship coach Mary Jo Lorei, we dive deep into what happens when love overload meets emotional labor and blurred boundaries.

If you've ever struggled to balance autonomy and connection in an open relationship, or wondered how to say no without guilt, this is the episode for you. Whether you're navigating non-monogamous dating, redefining love, or stuck in emotional overwhelm, this conversation is packed with clarity and courage.

💥 In this episode:

• Breakup advice that honors love and self-respect

• A real-time live coaching session on polyamory coaching and boundary setting

• Tools for overcoming relationship guilt, emotional burnout, and over-functioning

• Insights on conscious relationships and redefining the role of “boyfriend”
  

🎧 If you're seeking polyamory advice, exploring relationship communication, or craving emotional clarity in love, don’t miss this one.

We’ve dropped the masks, but kept the raw, unfiltered vibe. The Unmasked Project is the evolution of our show—still hosted by Brian and Layla, still diving deep into intimacy, identity, and human connection. Only now, we’re going even deeper. Same bold energy. New name. Fully unmasked.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project: Live Polyamory Coaching

0:58 – Introducing Mary Jo Lorei: Relationship Coach & Self Mastery Mentor

1:40 – Layla’s Polyamorous Relationship Setup: Married + Dating

3:15 – Dating a Poly Newbie: The Risks of Being Their First

4:50 – When Poly Love Moves Too Fast: Emotional Burnout Begins

6:30 – The Breakup: Navigating Guilt and Emotional Overwhelm

9:15 – Coaching Breakdown: What Do You Really Want from a Relationship?

11:50 – Redefining the “Boyfriend” Role in Non-Monogamous Dating

14:20 – Boundaries in Polyamory: When You Love Them, But It’s Not Enough

18:40 – Coaching on Emotional Labor and Intimacy Fatigue

22:30 – From Guilt to Clarity: Taking Back Your Energy

27:00 – How to Stop Doing Their Work for Them in Relationships

31:45 – Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset in Poly Dating

35:00 – Redesigning the Relationship You Want—Not Just Finding a Person

41:20 – What It Means to Be in Charge vs. In Partnership

47:10 – How to Hold Space and Set Limits in Ethical Non-Monogamy

52:00 – Monogamy vs. Polyamory: What Works for You?

56:45 – Final Reflections: Intimacy, Autonomy, and Redefining Love

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– Insightful posts, coaching gems, and a peek into her soulful world.

🔹 Buy Mary Joe’s Book – Practical Inspirations: Where Bumper Sticker Wisdom Meets Real Life:

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– A powerful collection of life lessons to live by, straight from the heart.

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She’s Married. She’s Poly. And He’s Brand New to All of It.

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Poly Breakups, Brazil Temptations & Billionaire Messes — This One Has It AllLayla’s breakup hits hard—and Brian’s response? He hires a relationship coach to get to the root of their patterns. This episode dives into the emotional chaos of poly breakups, why ending things can still feel like failure, and how coaching (yes, even for emotionally intelligent people) can uncover what therapy sometimes misses.Plus, Brian spills on a moment in Brazil where his commitment was tested, and the duo breaks down the recent scandals surrounding billionaires — like Diddy’s "Freakoffs" and Elon Musk’s wild family tree. What do power, ego, and control have to do with intimacy? Maybe everything.This one’s messy, honest, and unexpectedly healing.🖤 Come for the heartbreak. Stay for the billionaires.🎙️ Whether you're here for laughs, insights, or some spicy oversharing, this is The Unmasked Project — where love, kink, and chaos collide.Products featured in this episode: Twinkle Tongue Layla is obsessed with Twinkle Tongue. Get $5 off your order when you use our link: https://twinkletongue.com/TMSPOD or the code TMSPOD at checkout. HOP WTR Brian has been drinking this non-stop during all of our recent episodes. Use the code TMSFAM for a 10% discount on your first order: https://hopwtr.com/🔥 Bonus content in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Our favorite toys & tools: https://www.unmaskedpod.co/products-we-love📩 Email us: [email protected] Timestamps00:00 – Cold Open: Are We Cool? 00:45 – Layla’s Latest Obsession: Twinkle Tongue 04:30 – Layla’s Breakup: “I Had to Let Him Go” 08:30 – Dating Outside the Lifestyle: Can It Work? 12:30 – Breakups Still Hurt (Even in Open Relationships) 16:45 – Coaching vs Therapy: Which One Actually Helps? 19:00 – Brazil Temptation: The Loyalty Test 25:45 – The Bigger Test: What Happened Next in Brazil 31:30 – Billionaire Intimacy Problems: Diddy & Elon 35:45 – Life Updates, Uber Trunks & Final Thoughts

Formerly The Masked Swingers, Welcome to The Unmasked Project!

In this powerful and candid episode of The Unmasked Project, Vudu Dahl opens up about her life as a cult survivor raised in the “House of Maro,” and how she began her healing journey through s*x work, kink therapy, and somatic healing. From escaping abuse to becoming a kink educator and running her er*tic wellness brand Dalier, she shares her inspiring path toward personal liberation and emotional healing.

We’ve dropped the masks, but kept the raw, unfiltered vibe. The Unmasked Project is the evolution of our show—still hosted by Brian and Layla, still diving deep into intimacy, identity, and human connection. Only now, we’re going even deeper. Same bold energy. New name. Fully unmasked.

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⏰ Timestamps:

00:00 – Welcome & rebranding to The Unmasked Project

01:30 – Introducing Vudu Dahl: cult survivor turned kink educator

06:03 – Life in the cult & control dynamics (cult story, cultural trauma)

09:04 – Isolation, homeschooling & early questioning

12:06 – Groomed for servitude: early childhood lessons (consent education, female empowerment)

14:01 – Deciding to escape: signs of abuse & questioning authority

18:05 – Exit strategy, emotional fallout & being ostracized

25:00 – Struggle after escape: abusive relationship & rediscovering autonomy

32:00 – First forays into s*x work & kink therapy: reclaiming power

37:04 – Navigating identity, trauma & dangerous patterns

43:06 – The first play party & introduction to BDS* consent

45:12 – How kink therapy and BDS* consent rules helped her heal

49:00 – Defining boundaries, aftercare, and community building

52:00 – Launch of Dalier: combining s*xual healing, somatic therapy, and empowerment tools

56:00 – Why trauma-informed kink matters & intro to somatic release

58:00 – Lighthearted Rants: bo*ty preferences & Uber pet peeves 😅

1:02:00 – Final thoughts on somatic release, therapy techniques, and taking control of your body

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BONUS EPISODE 🚨 In this raw and urgent drop, we break format to talk about what's really going down in LA — and across the country. From ICE raids and media spin to the fear of speaking out, we're confronting the uncomfortable truths behind today’s protests, immigration policies, and our own responsibilities.

This isn’t just about politics — it’s about power, purpose, and protecting our communities. Layla shares how mutual aid is her quiet act of rebellion, while Brian unpacks why being angry might be exactly what’s needed. We don’t have all the answers, but we’re damn sure not staying silent.

👊 Feeling helpless? You’re not. Let’s talk about what we can do — right now.

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⏰ Timestamps:

00:00 – BONUS drop: why this episode matters

01:15 – The fear of getting political

02:45 – Media distortion vs. protest reality

05:30 – ICE tactics in LA — what we’re seeing

09:10 – Family hypocrisy and immigrant scapegoating

13:00 – What Republicans aren't saying out loud

16:40 – The myth of the "model immigrant"

20:30 – Why anger might be your power source

24:10 – Mutual aid in action: Ila’s ride network

27:40 – Should you still support Trumpers in your circle?

31:00 – This is political — and that’s the problem

35:00 – The land, the labor, and the lies we live by

38:00 – The illusion of lawfulness

42:00 – Starfish story: the power of helping one

44:10 – Final thoughts + what you can actually do now

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Layla’s got a new man—and he’s checking boxes she swore she’d never touch. A 32-year-old vanilla, new to non-monogamous relationships, with zero prior partners... and she’s in love.

This episode dives deep into the wild emotional ride of dating your first boyfriend while married, what happens when a pansexual, demisexual, poly powerhouse falls for someone outside the lifestyle, and whether she’s love-bombing or just riding the new relationship energy high.

Brian and Layla explore radical honesty, evolving intimate connections, and how to support someone learning the ropes of a poly lifestyle for the first time. It’s s*xy, real, sometimes messy—and full of insights for anyone navigating open relationships, emotional growth, or that sweet spot where s*x positivity meets vulnerability.

🎙️ Whether you're here for relationship advice, laughs, or just spicy confessions, this is the poly podcast that tells it like it is.💬 Drop your thoughts below: have you ever broken your own rules in love?🔥 Bonus footage in Discord: https://discord.com/invite/TPBUgSxzwb🌶️ Products we love: https://www.themaskedswingers.com/products-we-love⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Cold Open: Why’s Brian mad this time? 0:19 – Layla’s schoolgirl vibes + surprise date reveal 1:01 – “I said I’d never…” Meet James: Layla’s first boyfriend 2:18 – How singing lessons turned into emotional connection 3:52 – First kiss, first makeout… first time for everything 6:09 – Dating someone inexperienced at 32: what could go wrong? 10:32 – Navigating non-monogamous relationships & time imbalance 14:04 – Is Layla love-bombing? A poly reality check 17:03 – Layla’s types exposed: band boys, surfer boys, & awkward charmers 20:01 – Jealousy, open marriage, and radical honesty 24:13 – Discovering s*x as connection 26:03 – Power dynamics, caretaking, and Layla’s inner dom 28:58 – From pansexual dating to demisexual revelations 34:12 – Friends with benefits or emotional landmines? 36:02 – Setting boundaries after blurred lines 40:08 – Brian opens up on sexuality, performance, and party pressure 42:34 – What’s next for Layla’s alt-romance journey? 44:50 – Getting Off: baggy clothes and bad Uber trunk etiquette 47:17 – Final thoughts + the official launch of The Unmasked Project🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Listen to all of our episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uOOhjA1H9K5psXdIFBqYz?si=ed807b83c7dc497d&nd=1&dlsi=b7fb3d960bb346da🔥 Follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/themaskedswingerspod/🔥 Follow us on TT: https://www.tiktok.com/@themaskedswingers🔥 Email us with your questions at [email protected]