The Vibrant Introvert

Today is all about perspective taking and identifying the ways in which we develop a rigid self-identify.

Our guest today is danyelle beal, a behavior analyst for more than 20 years. She will share her struggles and her successes, her identity as a black woman, and how journey has led her to become a leader and a mentor for other women of color in her field.

This story is one that doesn’t not have a definite starting or ending point because we are really talking about danyelle’s experience as a woman of color...and that experience continues to today.

We are really going to dig into race issues here primarily through her internal struggle and then explore the outer context of racism and prejudice which is infused in her everylife from the inside out.

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In this episode I share about my coaching practice which has been deeply impacted by Danyelle's story and these podcast interviews. I share so many commonalities with folks like danyelle, who feel marginalized and who engage in behavior that leads to burnout because of the habits we've formed to deal with some hard internal struggles. I wanted to share that I’m in the development stage of my ideas, and that I’m very much open to where this exploring may lead me. One thing I know is that I am really passionate about working with individuals who experience anxiety, who may feel disempowered, and who struggle with self-identify, and who experience these same outcomes of escape from these narratives—overcompensation, burnout, a lack of mentorship from someone who understands them. The reason here is that these labels describe me in the past, and though I am much more flexible and able to navigate my life through these perspectives on myself...they still exist in my internal world. And I’ve learned that that’s ok, but I’ve also learned skills to respond to them in ways that lead me toward my goals and values, not away. And so, in this way, doing this work of self-as-context has taught me so much self-compassion, while also illuminating my own values around my work and who I’m passionate to serve.

I wanted to share this because danyelle’s story really ignited this passion in me. So, thank you Danyelle. If you are interested in learning more about my journey, my coaching, and services, please contact me on my website actinspiredbehavior.com

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Our guest, danyelle beal, is a BCBA of over 20 years, a business owner of Loving Hands and is part of an initiative called Reveal--a community for woman.  She provides supervision, mentorship to up-and-coming BCBAs, especially black and brown clinicians, and is working toward her pysD. Reach out to her at https://lovinghandsfamilysupportservices.com

In this episode I answer the question "What was hard this year and how do I hope onto hope?" It's a question that was first posed to me by another behavior analyst, Jessica Zielske, who had invited me onto an Instagram live talk with 7 other behavior analysts. 

In answering this question, I talked about where I started last year--pregnant and hopeful for the future--and go from there. I talk about the struggles I had personally and professionally, how COVID changed my plans for the future, and then I bring it all back to this question; how do you hold onto hope...when things get hard? And, what is hope anyway? Is there a kind of hope that brings us closer to the life we want or simply away from what's hard? 

***Please be aware that I talk about a miscarriage in this episode. If this is a topic that you find difficult to listen to, please practice self-compassion and skip this episode for now until you're ready to hear it in full.*** 

Finally, I want to say that I don't have a guest for this epsiode--rather, I share my thoughts on this year and my personal experience. In the new year I will plan on sharing more stories of transformation and change. If you are interested in sharing one of your stories, please reach out to me via email at [email protected], send me a message on Instagram @actinspiredbehavior, or go to my website at www.actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com.

I'd love to hear from you!

In this episode we are going to talk about rules. Rules are this ubiquitous word that we use to describe something we must or must NOT do, and usually we try to follow them. Sometimes the rules are not so obvious and the very thoughts we have in our head can become very rule-like. 

Our guest today--her name is Jessica Zielske , she is going to share about how she learned what her rules were in the first place and how she broke some of those rules by searching deeply within herself to realize that the marriage she was in wasn't what she wanted after all. 

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In this episode I also share about an opportunity to participate in a monthly group meeting called ACT Collective. In this community we meet to discuss topics related to ACT, review a research article and practice Acceptance and Commitment Therapy strategies live in session, with each other. It’s also an excuse for us to get together, laugh, share our goals, and get accountability for following through on our goals. If you are interested in joining, reach out or check out ACT Collective on my website https://actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com/what-is-act-collective

If you are interested in sharing one of your stories, please reach out to me via email at [email protected], send me a message on Instagram @actinspiredbehavior, or go to my website at www.actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com.

I'd love to hear from you!

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Our guest, Jessica Zielske is a BCBA and a business owner where she provides supervision, mentorship to new BCBAs, and focus groups on ACT & OBM. Check her work out at the https://theblondebehavioranalyst.com and on Instagram @theblondebehavioranalyst !

Today’s episode is about forgiveness, forgiveness between someone and their close loved one. I don’t know about you, but forgiveness is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do in my life...maybe because it’s so easy to not forgive. Time can go on and it’s easy not to confront those feelings of ill will, resentment, judgement, bitterness...but there is a cost to this avoidance, right?

Our guest today is Hannah Van Petten who shares an experience about her father and their journey toward forgiveness. Let’s listen to her story, her very real struggle, and how she was able to develop compassion for her dad that ultimately led her to placing more importance on her love than on dwelling on her feelings of hurt and resentment.

***A special note••• This story contains some personal information regarding our guest and her family member. Please be assured that both Hannah and her father have given their explicit permission to share this story in its entirety.

In this episode I also share about an opportunity to participate in a monthly group meeting called ACT Collective. In this community we meet to discuss topics related to ACT, review a research article and practice Acceptance and Commitment Therapy strategies live in session, with each other. It’s also an excuse for us to get together, laugh, share our goals, and get accountability for following through on our goals. If you are interested in joining, reach out or check out ACT Collective on my website https://actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com/what-is-act-collective

If you are interested in sharing one of your stories, please reach out to me via email at [email protected], send me a message on Instagram @actinspiredbehavior, or go to my website at www.actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com.

I'd love to hear from you!

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Our guest, Hannah Van Petten is the owner of an organization called Hannie’s House which strives to serve youth and families through mentorship using the framework of mindfulness based stress reduction, Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, and Applied Behavior Analysis. She has many wonderful services, products, and workshops that she offers. If you would like to learn more about Hannah Van Petten, check out her work at Hannieshouse.org, and on instagram @Hannieshouse.

In this episode we explore the story of an eating disorder as told by Kim Loneck. Since the topic of this conversation touches on a sensitive subject, I want listeners to be aware before they decide to listen. If this is a potentially triggering subject for you, please be kind to yourself in whatever way possible. Thank you.

Today’s episode is about recognizing patterns of behavior. As you listen think about a time that you have been compelled to do things that you know weren’t good for you...maybe it was a bad habit, or a really ill-timed decision or a choice you made which was more to please others than to honor your true desires. Perhaps these behaviors were seeking to avoidance something painful in your life--and if that's the case these behavior likely served a purpose; they helped to avoid that pain in the short-term. But the more we do these things, the more it costs us in the long term. 

Where does that come from? Perhaps you know yourself well enough to recognize those patterns of behavior and some of the thoughts that are entangled within this larger pattern. In this episode let's explore that pattern through Kim's story. 

If you are interested in sharing one of your stories, please reach out to me via email at [email protected], send me a message on Instagram @actinspiredbehavior, or go to my website at www.actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com

I'd love to hear from you!

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I want to thank my husband Andrew (known as "Chef" on Seattle KIRO 97.3) for helping me produce this podcast. Honey I love you and thank you for teaching me the skills to do this myself!

Hello! Welcome to ACT-Inspired Behavior, the show about real people telling their real stories about transformation and change--all through the lens of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.

I'm your host, Gabbie Lanier. And, since this is the first episode, I thought, "Why not start with one of my stories?"

In this episode you hear about an internal struggle that I had way back at the age of 23 and how that laid the path for my life (basically) leading up to today. This is a story about the love I had for someone I almost let go of in my life, being willing to have hard conversations, and what it takes to really understand and live in line with values. 

I hope you enjoy this first episode. If you are interested in sharing one of your stories, please reach out to me via email at [email protected], send me a message on Instagram @actinspiredbehavior, or go to my website at www.actinspiredbehaviorcoaching.com 

I'd love to hear from you!

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I want to thank my husband Andrew (known as "Chef" on Seattle KIRO 97.3) for helping me produce this podcast. Honey you are crazy talented! And thank you to everyone who encouraged me to get this project started.