It really becomes our option on how we rise daily from our slumber to face the day. If you feel that you must approach life like a warrior, you will live on the battle field. 

If you choose to encouture your day with joy and gratitude, you will move the energy that does not match your frequency OUT OF THE WAY!

You can not change the noise of the world. you can only silence the voice in your mind. 

May you have a better day.

Been in that painful place where you are just taking the wrath of what others are saying and doing. You are busy trying to fix it. Trying to fix them. You walk away crying or deeply wounded and later end up spoiling in anger. 

What if, it has nothing to do with you. What if you do not need to correct them but control your reactions around them? 

We take a lot personally but maybe this person is lashing out because of what they are dealing with and going through?

Sometimes, it is just not about you.  We did nothing wrong. You are just in a vortex of their energy and you need to maintain your boundaries and tempo. 

You are not always the trigger.

We grow up always wondering if we are meant to be more. We grow up knowing there is so much more for us. But as we grow we slowly lose more and more of who we are because we become someone for others. 

May this episode gently guide you to finding yourself. And may you know, you are special, everything you want is possible, the minute you believe you are deserving of so much more. 

Unmask and fly. 

On this episode of the voice, I talk about trading lustful, meaningless sex, for developing the real need to bond and find meaning with our mates, our lover, our partner. 

I speak to and help so many that feel burned from one night stands or are in relationships simply driven by sex, and sex alone. 

And at some point we are seeking more. We want emotional connection. We want to mentally be able to have meaningful conversations. 

We want to Physically be touched with no inclination of sex. 

Is it possible? Is it possible to build a foundation so beautiful that when you choose to have sex its no longer sex, its art? 

I invite you to look into your own life and see where or what you long for in the relationship other than sex.

We all want the passion but at a cost? Cost of being vulnerable and striving to build a wholesome relationship?

All relationships hit that point where you wonder will this work or not... together Mohammed and I, shazmeen Bank talk you through how so much can change to bring you two back from the edge. 

I don't think we stop and look around any more. And if we do, everyone is on their phones and so we look back down as to not feel so left out. 

This episode is to really ground you and bring you back home. To a place we have all forgotten, and that is a deep connection with ourself. 

Make sure you listen till the ned to enjoy a simple 5 to 6 minute meditation. 

And after this episode I urge you to journal down your thoughts. 

Love,

Shazmeen. 

Don't lose you to them.

In nine years of coaching out of every five clients one is dealing with this issue. Either their in laws, close family or their parents. But this is an on going issue and if not addressed we tend to lose who we really are, and allow the protective part of us to emerge in rough or hostile situations.

The secret to really getting through family drama is to make sure you are not the drama. that you do not become the drama.

Family has a god given gift to know how to push your every button. But so often we go down that slippery slope because we have no idea who were are to begin with.

We have no idea what we will tolerate. What we will not tolerate. And with no barriers there is a lack of respect. 

Dont let sharp words cut you down. Learn how to drown them out. Walk away with a respect for yourself. And whether they say it or not, they too will eventually respect you. 

So once again, grab a shot of coffee and you listen and raise to be who you are. 

Much love,

Shazmeen. 

OH BOY!

Yes have we all been there, said more than we should have, known you should have stopped a while back but you both are now spiralling down that hurtful line, walked away like a baby (hoping he will follow you), and then at some point you no longer are even arguing about what you began arguing about. 

Who has been there? Hands up - yes, me too. But that's the juice and joy of a relationship as well. The growth of learning to never go back and how to make sure arguments turn into conversations and you both feel heard, loved and full. 

Men too need to be heard. But if you two are doing this with Ego, your relationship will not withstand this gruesome, threesome. 

So hubby dear and I wanted to take our ups and downs of arguments and once again non scripted get it across to you all. 

Its our hope and goal that you learn how to love one other enough so that the love outweighs the messy message. I am sure like us, so many of you even move from having an argument to arguing about the argument. 

I feel over the years, Mo and I have gotten so much better at Stop, pause, reflect, appreciate and conclude. Because an argument is caused by the person looking to be heard and the key is to keep it at a discussion, so that the other person does not get defensive and now you both fight for voice time! 

I hope you guys enjoy this podcast, subscribe so you get alerted with every new one coming out. 

Till then, fight for passion. 

Much love,

Shazmeen. 

Every now and then life gives us beautiful signs, to learn from. I had this tender moment sitting and reading a good book. it was truly a soul full moment. As always, I speak from my heart, hoping to touch and inspire even one person today. 

We forget how easy it is to start over or even comeback from situations that have happen In our lives. I found this simple method powerful to keep in my back pocket. I hope you do too. 

Since the weather seems beautiful here in Africa today, grab a lemonade, stir, sip and listen.

Much love,

Shazmeen.

With over 18 years of being married to my beautiful husband, and being highly trained in the field of relationships, I can comfortably and confidently, say we have and are still mastering our high and low tides. Only now, we do so with a love and grace and a deep respect for each other while experiencing a sparkling passion. And so I thought the best place to begin the relationship segment was with a basic foundation to what we take for granted in our relationships - the power of simple, heartfelt appreciation. 

Because I am in my early 30's I feel we share a young and fresh love. But I have seen over the years the need for a solid foundation. Something small that warms your heart. And as human begins we all but crave this delicious need - validation. And while I do insist on the importance of this to be discovered on our own, I have seen that for a relationship to work certain wheels have to turn in sync. And a movement of love has to flow between two people for the whole equation to make sense. 

And so here is our homely, raw, real and unedited, first take at the basic foundation to appreciation. We do not want to script anything. These podcasts are designed to speak to your heart, mind and soul. 

So grab your coffee, and tuck your feet up as you listen. Maybe a few marshmallows in your hot chocolate. As we stir your mug up for you. 

Enjoy, and don't forget to smile. 

Much love,

Shazmeen.