How to Save Your Marriage Alone (Part 1) :: [Ep. 143]

Is there a war raging within your marriage and you feel you are the only one who cares to save it? 

First, know the enemy would like you to believe that there is nothing more that can be done. But take heart, by God’s power and grace, your marriage can be saved! Secondly, ask yourself this question: Could the mission God has for you be a rescue mission for your spouse’s soul? 

In this episode, we offer encouragement on God’s will for you, your spouse, and your marriage, and we will teach you how to set up a battle plan that will combat the enemy’s attack on what God has established.

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https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/how-to-save-your-marriage-alone-part-1

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What You Can Do Now So Your Children Don't Leave the Church Later (Part 2) :: [Ep. 142]

Raising children and keeping them alive is hard enough; add in the pressure of leading and guiding them spiritually and the hardness moves to a whole different level. In this week’s part-two episode, we are providing parents some gospel encouragement and practical advice about this area of parenting. 

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What You Can Do Now So Your Children Don't Leave the Church (Part 1) :: [Ep. 141]

Marriage can be hard. Add in Parenting to the mix, and attempting to do a good, God-honoring job of pointing your kids towards Christ - individually and as a husband and wife team - can be all the harder. Tune into this week’s two-part episode to glean practical wisdom and advice on this important topic. 

Find out how the faith you live today influences the faith your kids will have, well into the future. In this series, we’ll talk about:

• What the statics say, about why kids choose to walk away from the church 
• What God’s word says is the need for church
• What your responsibility is now - as a parent with kids someday leaving your home
• Why and how we leave the future of our kids in the hands of God

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Parenting 101: Discipline :: [Ep. 140]

We’ve all been there and seen it… The parent berating their kids in the store.  There is tears, often fiery words on one side… and whining, crying, and fiery words on the other side…  you can picture the scene… It sounds cruel, harsh, and you hurry by with your grocery cart in disbelief!  That is until it is YOU and your kids!

What parent couldn’t confess;  they’ve been so angry at the behavior of their kid they were about to lose their marbles… As a result their spouse slips into the role of trying to protect their kids from their spouses wrath in these heated moments.

Some find themselves in a position where they do not trust themselves to discipline their kids… they have denied their parental role without leaving their home!  They believe the lie that stepping down as a dad who disciplines or a mom who asserts her authority in the home is better then showing the rage monster they become.  Is it possible to change a parents heart? From stepping back for the sake of protection, into the parent who fulfills the role God has given?

Many a frustrated parent live pressed between the fury of their uncontrollable emotions in the heat of the moment and the recurring consequences of an undisciplined child!  This creates a special kind of friction in the marriage too.  

If you are spent on the kids; tired of having nothing left for your marriage, tune into this episode!

The God who called me His own, the one who made me a parent IS powerful enough to help me make necessary changes to be the parent I am called to be! Find out how you can be an ally - two parents on mission for your God and the children HE gave you. In this episode, we’ll talk about how to change the posture from being stuck to taking action.  And putting our focus on the changes needed for us as adults and how they will trickle down into the lives of our children. Don't miss it!

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5 Ways to Get Through the Winter Season with Joy :: [Ep. 139]

Ahhh the holidays. Many of us enjoy them but we also dread the end of them because that means the beginning of winter - not just with the weather and darkness but in our hearts and homes. We see the signs for sale at the store like Blessed, Joy, Hope and Peace on Earth and many of us have them on display in our living rooms but they aren’t a true reflection of what’s happening inside ourselves or our marriages. 

If you want this winter to look different or if you’re in a winter season in your marriage (where things are dormant and lifeless), we’re glad you’re here. In this episode, we’re going to share how to embrace the season ahead with 5 essential things. Tune in! 

For more encouragement on this topic, be sure to read our corresponding Blog post!
https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/5-ways-to-get-through-the-winter-season-with-joy

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How Thanksgiving Can Transform Your Marriage :: [Ep. 138]

As a kid I remember one Thanksgiving tradition, when my mom or my grandma would say, “Let’s go around the table and everyone says one thing you’re grateful for.” It’s a nice gesture and an important action- showing thankfulness.

But what does that MEAN- showing thankfulness?

Should it be a one-time thing? An occasional “Thank you, Lord!” when we feel grateful that something happened the way we wanted it to?

Should it be something we practice? Like “no-complain” November when you list something you’re grateful for every day of the month? Or should we take it one step further and write down 3 specific things we’re thankful for at the end of every day… for an entire year?

Is thankfulness something we show whenever we receive something? Like writing thank you cards, or inviting people over as a way to say, “thank you”?

Or is it something more?

With Thanksgiving right around the corner, in this episode we are going to first spend some time remembering WHY we should be thankful. When our world, at times, seems to be falling apart, WHY should we give thanks and praise? Next, we’ll discuss how gratefulness isn’t to be limited to an occasional “Thanks, God.” Rather, it should be a way of worshipful living. HOW does that happen? What does it look like to LIVE in genuine gratitude to the Lord? And lastly, we’ll look at how worshipful living will transform our lives- and our marriages- from the inside out.

For more helpful encouragement and to learn more, read our corresponding Blog post!
https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/thanksgiving-it-ain-t-just-a-holiday

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2 Secrets to Go the Distance in Marriage :: [Ep. 137]

No one signs up for marriage looking for their passion to wane. We mean our vows when we say them. We have every intention of giving our all to this marriage and we can’t wait to see where it takes us. Many of us find that right smack dab in the middle of the journey, our love goggles fall off and we can’t see our way to the end of the marriage road anymore. We lack the energy to strive to finish this race. Yet, somewhere in the back of our minds, somewhere in the bottom of our hearts, we still want this marriage to succeed.

And that is why you are here...You want your marriage to succeed. You are looking for the secret ingredient, the key to unlock the door to a strong, rewarding marriage. You have come to the right spot. We are going to share 2 essential secrets to go the distance. These 2 elements are so important, we believe that NO marriage can be successful without them.

What are they? Find out in this VowsToKeep episode, the show where you get sound Biblical counsel you can apply immediately to your marriage. We’re your hosts, David and Tracy Sellars of VowsToKeep. We’re Biblical marriage counselors, authors, teachers, podcast hosts, radio hosts and conference speakers. If you want to get back to being on fire for your spouse and for God, you’re definitely in the right place.

Check out this week's Blog post to read more!
https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/2-secrets-every-marriage-needs-to-be-successful

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Are you at war IN your marriage OR at war FOR your marriage? :: [Ep. 136]

If the battle lines are drawn within your home and marriage, tune into today's episode as we have a conversation about how to change from a war IN your marriage to a war FOR your marriage.

We’ll unpack what the difference is as well as why being content with the status quo doesn’t fulfill the higher calling God has for your marriage.

God is MORE than able to change your view of your spouse from enemy to ally.

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Start Here to Change Your Marriage :: [Ep. 135]

Does your marriage need to be refreshed? Remodeled? Rebuilt from the ground up? No one has a perfect marriage. We all have things we’d like to be different between us. Marriage problems come in all shapes and sizes. We can’t peek into your home today, listen in on your conversations and arguments, but we can share some of our own experiences and dig into God’s Word and discover together God’s amazing plan for marriage and how it’s possible to attain that for our marriages.

If you want to see a revolution within your home - your marriage - tune into this episode as we have a conversation about how to start the process of change in your marriage! We’ll unpack what we call “the cycle of change” and then learn how to restart it when things between the two of you grind to a halt or get off track. GOD is more than ABLE to take what’s broken in your marriage and bring lasting change that will bless you more than you can imagine. How? The answer may surprise you.

Here's today's resource, a clear, concise graphic that will help you to easily see the cycle. Click the link and print it to put in your Bible so you can always know how to restart the cycle of change...
https://www.vowstokeep.com/resource-episode135

Can't wait to see what God does next in YOUR marriage!
David and Tracy

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https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/desiring-change-start-here
https://www.vowstokeep.com/post/i-want-change-but-i-just-don-t-see-it

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Undoing the Hurt :: [Ep. 134]

Our history together is what bind us together...but in marriage it can also be the very thing that rips us in half! When I do not have a history with you, and if you start off nice, often I will have a blind trust. BUT after years together, that history becomes overwhelming evidence against trust.

Is it possible that we can undo our history? Can we wipe the slate clean? Can you become one with someone you have so much history with? In other words, can two become one, drift and fragment back into two ONLY to honor God and become ONE again?!

In this VowsToKeep episode, we are thinking and talking about un-doing the pain of our sinful history with our spouse. We will unpack where the divides come from, why we have to work to remove them, and what to do differently so we can have healthy hearts and a sweet one-ness in marriage. Tune in!

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