Sabina Rademacher - Love & Relating Snippets

The ways we bond - the stages of couplehood


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May 2021 bring even more awareness in love.

During the Germanic Rauhnächte, which means long cold nights, stories formed part of the family gathering. So let me tell you a story: an interesting one:

How we bonded over the past thousands of years:

  1. Prior to 11.000 years ago - kind of free love without knowing what it meant
  2. Property and ownership concept: arranged marriage and its impact
  3. 18th century: the romantic marriage resulting in Sigmund Freund's discovery  -  late 19th century, -  the choice of a partner, if it is romantic, is influenced by our unconscious minds more than our rational preferences, meaning we choose a person who is incredibly similar to the ones of our caretakers. Post War II  understanding of dissatisfaction in marriages was based on concept: "You are responsible for my needs"
  4. Past 20 years to NOW: CONSCIOUS PARTNERSHIP
  5. The commitment here is to the needs of the relationship, that third aspect of US. It’s not about YOU, and not about ME, but about the relationship itself, a container for which we both are responsible for and committed to. 

    The key is: we both make our relationship primary and our needs secondary.

    In my coaching I don't focus on healing the traumatised child and it’s woundings, but to empower the Healthy Self which is self-aware and accountable for its own emotions and actions. If two people are reliable, empathic and sustainable present with each other, it creates a new emotional safe environment,  where the loving presence replaces old toxic behaviours, and creates a container of joy and connection, which extends further out, supporting others, creating community.

    May 2021 bring even more awareness in love.

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