Do Yourself a Favour

The Wind Beneath Your Wings: Worth, Ego and Kindness

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Do you want to be Bette or Barbara? If you know the movie Beaches, you know the question. Bette Midler's character is the star, the one in the spotlight. Barbara Hershey's is quieter, less visible, deeply loving and deeply loved. In this episode, Tam Callaghan has been wrestling with which one she wants to be, and the answer surprised her. 

For most of her life Tam's ego has measured her worth through achievement, recognition and applause. But after reading a post about kindness and sitting with what she's contributed over the last 20 or 30 years, she had a genuinely softening realisation: she's been far more Barbara than she ever gave herself credit for. 

This episode also covers the backup singer dream, the difference between creating from ego and creating from joy, and why peace and self-love aren't distractions from the mission. They are the mission. Plus, a practical exercise worth doing – Writing a list of 50 things you've done well since the start of the year, split across what you've achieved and what you've done for others. 

Warm, honest, and one of Tam's most personal episodes yet. 

In this episode: 

  • The Bette vs Barbara question and what it revealed 
    • Why the kindness we show others often goes uncounted in our own minds 
      • Ego achievement vs genuine contribution: measuring life differently 
        • The backup singer dream and what it says about wanting just enough attention 
          • Separating worthiness from what you create 
            • Why self-love is the mission, not a distraction from it 
              • The list of 50 things and how to do it 

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                Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. 

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                Chapters 

                0:00 Intro — Beaches reference and audience demographics 

                0:51 Wrestling with Bette vs Barbara 

                1:45 Being performer vs supporter — personal history 

                3:33 The impact of kindness and being 'Barbara' 

                6:28 Reflection on ego, achievement, and worthiness 

                9:16 Distinguishing creation from ego-driven success 

                11:14 Personal dreams and perspective — backup singer story 

                12:27 Desire for self-recognition and impact 

                13:50 Self-care as the mission — peace and self-love 

                14:41 Practical exercise — list of 50 things and closing 

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