The Wise Jezebels

What do you when your church says abuse and mistreatment is okay? And that it's not only ok, but it's God's design. And what if you've identified abuse in your relationship but now notice you've had the same experience in your church and maybe even what you've been taught about God?

Is any faith community safe for women?

Today's episode explores church-sanctioned domestic abuse and intimate partner violence. We deconstruct that old saying, "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater and find the shades of gray. Popping into Pop Culture covers Naked Attraction and the news about Puff Daddy Combs, and we have lots to say about how to keep your own "fruit" fresh.

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

For the Love of Men @feministabulous

Emotional Labor @rose.hackwoman

Naked Attraction @c4nakedattraction

Labour @parispaloma

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #nakedattraction #datingshows #nakedandafraid #puffdaddy #knowthembytheirfruit #roxannegay #wecandohardthings #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #religioustrauma #churchtoo #spiritualabuse #johnpiper #purityculture @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

It's the end of the month which means we are giving you our non-consensual, consensual advice! Tune in to hear the Wise Jezebels talk about making friends, medication, and redefining relationships!

We are always interested in hearing your questions! Leave them in our DM's the AMA boxes on social media or through our website. We'll remove all identifying information and give you our wisdom on an episode!

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

The Struggle to Stay - Katie Gaddini

The Loneliness Files - Athena Dickson

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #perimenopause #friends #MatthewPerry #hey19 #adele19 #purityculture #religioustrauma #spiritualjourneys #traumarecovery #traumahealing #cptsd @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

How many of you have a complicated relationship with your period–how you think about it, how you were taught about it, and the symptoms that have gone along with it? Join Tia and Laura for a conversation about their first periods, the "talk", how they navigated PMS and what their cycles are like now as they are in perimenopause! After that we'll be getting a brief update of the Golden Bachelor and then we'll take a deep dive into Covenant Eyes–a porn accountability program that is being talked about after our new speaker of the house, Mike Johnson, talked about how his 17 year old son is his accountability partner. You won't want to miss it!

Do us a favor? If you're loving the show, will you leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts? We have thousands of downloads and we'd love to hear from you!

What segment are you liking the best so far? What's coming up for you as you listen? Comment below!

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

Hey Hun by Emily Lynn Paulson

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #perimenopause #friends #MatthewPerry #hey19 #adele19 #purityculture #religioustrauma #spiritualjourneys #traumarecovery #traumahealing #cptsd @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

How many MLMs have you joined? The Wise Jezebels are examining the fruit of that pyramid scheme and the shame tactics used to pull you in. We're also checking on the Golden Bachelor and our favorite TV shows–right before we introduce a new segment on dating norms after purity culture–CLUSTERS OF FRUIT

Do us a favor? If you're loving the show, will you leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts? We have thousands of downloads and we'd love to hear from you!

What segment are you liking the best so far? What's coming up for you as you listen? Comment below!

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

Hey Hun by Emily Lynn Paulson

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #perimenopause #friends #MatthewPerry #hey19 #adele19 #purityculture #religioustrauma #spiritualjourneys #traumarecovery #traumahealing #cptsd @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

Girl Interrupted! Do you remember what you were like at 19?

Hey betches! Today's episode goes back in time to who we were before everything changed at 19, both of us experiencing life-altering relationships at that age and encountering messaging that's taken years to unpack. We dive into what happened, how we were impacted, and what we've learned. If you know what it's like to be 40 going on 19, you'll get it!

We also pop into pop culture with a Golden Bachelor versus Purity Culture update and the passing of Matthew Perry. And the clouds of brain fog and confusion part for a peek at the Menopause Minute too.

It's a giant fruit inspection of an episode and we hope you enjoy it.

Do us a favor? If you're loving the show, will you leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts? We have thousands of downloads and we'd love to hear from you!

What segment are you liking the best so far? What's coming up for you as you listen? Comment below!

Stay fresh, betches!

Resources from Today:

Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue

Unlock Your Menopause Type by Heather Hirsch

Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry

"I'm in my Menopause Era" Sweatshirt can be found here

#wisejezebels #podcastsforwomen #popculture #perimenopause #friends #MatthewPerry #hey19 #adele19 #purityculture #religioustrauma #spiritualjourneys #traumarecovery #traumahealing #cptsd @tialevingswriter @drlauraeanderson

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.kevincrowe.co

Hey betches!

It's our first full episode of Non-Consensual Consensual Advice–the segment where you ask the questions and we share our wise advice! This month we're discussing:

• How do I figure out what clothing I actually want to wear outside of modesty culture?

• I want to teach my kids about the bible but don't want to make it seem like it's the only option or turn them off. And I have a trauma response everytime I try

• What is your faith like right now?

• Can we talk about asthma and fundamentalism?

• If you could choose one big name fundie to deconstruct, who would it be?

• How did the two of you become friends?

If you need some advice, we've got some for ya! Ask us your questions by DM-ing us, putting them in the AMA question box on our IG stories, leaving a comment in our posts, or contacting us from our website!

Stay fresh, betches!

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.tubeatoz.com

Hey betches. It's time to talk about friendships…and how difficult it can be to find friends, especially supportive ones, as an adult woman. Both of us share our experiences with friendships in high control religion, how love-bombing works in relationships even outside of high control religion and ways to find friends outside of church communities. We then get an update from Tia about how she's liking the "Golden Bachelor" and we talk about Britney Spears' new book coming out. And finally we share with you some fresh fruit–the progress we are seeing in ourselves as we continue healing from fundamentalism!

Next week is our Non-Consensual Consensual Advice segment! Get us your questions via DM's, in the comments, or on the contact page of our website! We'll be coming to you for the last episode of each month with the answers to your questions.

Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe, and share our podcast!!

Stay fresh, betches!

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

Resources Referenced in this Episode

The Woman They Wanted by Shannon Harris

The Woman in Me by Britney Spears

Brene Brown Anatomy of Trust Video

Mayim Bailik Video @missmayim

Midsommar (movie)

Desperate for Love: Escaping the Twin Flames Universe (Amazon Prime Docuseries)

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Hosts:

Tia Levings and Laura Anderson

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.tubeatoz.com

Hey betches. Did you know that "praying without ceasing" and spiritual rituals devised to keep you "safe" has a name? In this episode Tia and Laura breakdown scrupulocity, examining the fruit of compulsive religious behaviors. We're also popping into pop culture with the Golden Bachelor, Will and Jada, and taking our hot flash into the perimenopause rant you won't want to miss.

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

Resources Referenced in this Episode

A Well-Trained Wife by Tia Levings

How to be an Adult in Relationships by David Rico

Mayim Bailik Video @missmayim

The New Menopause by Dr. Mary Claire Haver

@drmaryclaire on Instagram and TikTok

When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura E Anderson

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at www.tubeatoz.com

We've gotten such great feedback about our show that we decided to make it a weekly thing! On this episode of the Wise Jezebels, Tia and Laura are talking about diet culture and body image–as well as how their fundamentalist upbringing led them both to accidentally starve themselves, even when they were trying to intuitively eat! Please note that this episode contains sensitive topics and we understand if you need to skip this one! We also talk about how Laura finally got Tia into watching the Golden Bachelor (spoiler alert: one of us really likes it, one of us doesn't!) and end the podcast with a discussion about Laura's upcoming book which is available for pre-order currently and releases, worldwide, on October 17, 2023.

We're moving our Non-Consensual Advice segment to it's own episode every month! The last Tuesday of each month will be answering your questions! So, if you have questions for the Wise Jezebels, head to the contact form on our website or send us a DM and we'll answer them on the pod (after removing all identifying information, of course!)

Stay fresh, betches!

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

Resources Referenced in this Episode

Zach Anderson - @motionsustained on Instagram

Women, Food and God by Geneen Roth

Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman

When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura E Anderson

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com

Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe and can be found at kevincrowe.co

Jill Duggar Dillard's Counting the Cost tops off our second episode, as we deep dive into our impressions, triggers and takeaways. Jill's memoir is not only the story of how Sweet Jilly Muffin found her voice against the IBLP and her exploitive, oppressive parents–it also offers a window into the Christian Patriarchy's teachings about how children are to honor their parents even as married adults. We break down the red flags for abuse we found in the book, as well as what goes into writing trauma-memoirs. From there, Tia and Laura Pop Into Pop Culture with a look at the Jonas divorce and the lewd conduct of Lauren Boebart. Our Non-Consenual Advice segment answers a listener's question–How do I tell my Catholic parents I don't want to baptize my children?

Speaking of that segment… If you have questions for the Wise Jezebels, head to the contact form on our website or send us a DM and we'll answer them on the pod (after removing all identifying information, of course!)

Stay fresh, betches!

The views and opinions expressed by the hosts of the Wise Jezebels are their own. This podcast does not take the place of therapy, medical advice, or any other healing modality. For support in resolving and recovering from religious trauma, purity culture, cults, fundamentalism, and other adverse religious experiences, we encourage people to check out the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery–a fully online trauma coaching company specializing in working with folks coming out of high control groups, systems, and relationships. The Wise Jezebels podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups.

Resources Referenced in this Episode

Counting the Cost by Jill Duggar

Crazy Love by Leslie Morgan Steiner

When Religion Hurts You by Dr. Laura E Anderson

The Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery

Website: www.traumaresolutionandrecovery.com

IG/Facebook: @traumaresolutionandrecovery

Follow Tia on Instagram and TikTok @tialevingswriter or on her website: www.tialevings.com

Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com