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Gianna LaLota is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, based in New York. She is trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Trial-Based Cognitive Therapy (TBCT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Mindfulness.

She holds a BA in Psychology from Boston College, and a Master's Degree in Counseling for Mental Health and Wellness from New York University. She is also a licensed yoga teacher, a certified Reiki Level II practitioner, and is currently completing her certification in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) from The American Institute of Health Care Professionals.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Gianna LaLota to talk about the definitions of mindfulness and self-compassion, the distinction between thoughts and feelings, and bridging the gap between mindfulness and self-compassion. We also talk about how we can cultivate self-compassion in our lives, why we tend to overidentify our emotions, and how to start with loving-kindness meditations.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:44] A bit about Gianna.

• [03:42] Defining mindfulness.

• [06:08] Mindfulness in practice.

• [07:52] What it looks like to be non-judgmental.

• [10:49] Separating thoughts and feelings.

• [14:37] The benefits of trying to be mindful.

• [19:00] What it means to overidentify emotions.

• [20:18] The bridge between mindfulness and self-compassion.

• [21:28] Defining self-compassion.

• [23:06] How to cultivate self-compassion.

• [28:43] Gianna's advice.

• [31:09] Loving-kindness meditations.

Quotes:

• "Talk therapy is not the only thing that is going to help move someone forward." [02:59]

• "Mindfulness is a prerequisite for CBT." [07:15]

• "Curiosity is the antidote to judgment and shame." [10:12]

• "A feeling can generally be distilled down to one word, whereas a thought is going to be longer, it's going to be a statement." [12:46]

• "The true self is compassionate." [27:17]

• "The biggest barrier for people, when it comes to cultivating self-compassion, are these 'positive beliefs' that they have about self-criticism." [28:07]

Connect with Gianna LaLota

Website: www.nyccognitivetherapy.com.

Instagram: @mindfultherapynyc.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

Self-Compassion, by Dr. Kristin Neff.

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Neil Mehta is a prominent figure in the sexual wellness industry. He has made significant achievements in this field, including starting his own company, Royal, which provides sexual wellness products. Neil's ethos/philosophy in the industry is to challenge stigma and assumptions, and to provide a better product. He believes that one's background or industry should not dictate how they are supposed to act or their level of sexuality. Neil aims to have an impact and open doors in the industry.

In this episode of The Wright Conversations, host Rachel Wright interviews Neil, the founder of a sexual wellness company called Royal. They discuss the challenges of starting a sexual wellness business in a sex-negative world. Neil shares his personal background and how it led him to enter the sexual wellness industry. Tune in to hear his inspiring story and insights on navigating the complexities of capitalism and promoting sexual wellness in a society that often stigmatizes it.

In this Episode You'll Learn:

[00:02:26] Sexual education and societal norms.

[00:04:20] Condom allergies and side effects.

[00:09:23] Removing harmful condom ingredients.

[00:12:09] Making condoms thinner.

[00:17:08] Lack of education around anal play.

[00:19:14] Censorship and creativity.

[00:22:28] Embracing the condom business.

[00:26:11] Openness about sexual health.

[00:29:19] Unhealthy comparisons and sexual marketing.

[00:33:07] Everything is connected.

[00:38:31] Treat sexual health like lifestyle.

The listener will learn about starting a sexual wellness business in a sex-negative world, the challenges of navigating societal norms and marketing in the sexual wellness industry, the lack of sexual education and knowledge on sexual wellness products, the negative effects of casein in condoms and the benefits of using healthier alternatives, the importance of creating a thinner and more comfortable condom, the mission of the brand Royal to create a gender-neutral and inclusive product line for sexual wellness, the lack of education around sexual health and the importance of condom usage for anal sex, the personal barriers and pushback faced when starting a sexual wellness business, the challenges and barriers faced in starting a condom business, the challenges faced by the speaker's business during COVID and supply chain issues, the interconnectedness of mental health, sexual health, and overall well-being, the importance of open dialogue and transparency in business, the evolution of the brand name "Royal Condoms," the evolution of a condom product into a brand focused on "Royal Intimacy," the importance of open communication and dialogue in relationships, and the importance of treating sexual health with care and consideration.

Quotes:

• 00:04:55 - "And I started to also realize that the female body or women's bodies are very unique and they're very like, they're more prone to change, especially when you're using a particular product, whether it's like a face cream or makeup or it's a body wash or a condom or anything related to your body, there's a lot more changes that happen."
• 00:06:44 - "A lot of people just don't even know how to put one on."
• 00:10:31 - "Oh, totally. And then also like not even that, especially for any of the vulva owners of the vagina havers, like they if you don't clean up properly after sex or after intimacy while using a condom that has that stuff, it can actually harm you over time."
• 00:14:39 - "It's not like for her pleasure, for his pleasure."
• 00:17:51 - "So having someone be like, hi, I have this condom that isn't going to give you a yeast infection is like, oh my God."
• 00:20:53 - "I feel like I'm just as sexual as the other guy, but I just saw an opportunity to provide a better product."
• 00:33:43 - "But if you don't know how to use the toy or connect with your partner and communicate, there's a lot of disconnect to get to that end goal of having that ultimate euphoric experience."

Connect with Neil Mehta

Website: alwaysberoyal.com

Instagram: @neil_x_m

Tiktok: @neilxm

Youtube: Neil Mehta

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Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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In this episode of "The Wright Conversations," host Rachel Wright invites Marie Thouin, a dating and relationship coach, to discuss the concept of compersion. They break down what compersion is, its significance in relationships, and how it can be experienced and cultivated. Marie also shares her expertise as a compersion scholar and researcher. Whether you're new to the concept or have been curious about it, this episode offers valuable insights into embracing compersion in your own love life.

In this Episode You'll Learn:

[00:02:45] Interest in non-monogamy.

[00:04:23] Compersion in non-monogamous relationships.

[00:10:30] Creating a non-monogamous mindset.

[00:15:10] Connection with metamours.

[00:18:05] Not liking your metamour.

[00:23:36] The social aspect of non-monogamy.

[00:26:22] Navigating jealousy and compersion.

[00:31:02] Managing expectations in open relationships.

In this episode will learn about the concept of compersion in non-monogamous relationships, including its definition and relevance. They will also learn about the range of emotions and actions associated with compersion, as well as its correlation with relationship satisfaction. The episode explores the coexistence of compersion and jealousy, strategies for cultivating compersion, and the importance of understanding and accepting partners' other relationships. Additionally, the benefits of compersion, such as aligning with personal values and building a supportive community, are discussed. The episode also provides resources for further exploration of compersion.

Quotes:

• 00:04:23 - "But typically there is a correlation between the experience of compersion and relationship satisfaction in those relationships."
• 00:06:44 - "It's just that in the romantic realm, we are socialized to think that's impossible."
• 00:10:23 - "So first, make sure that your mind is aligned with what you're doing as much as possible."
• 00:16:19 - "You know, I think that if you feel that someone is a threat, you dehumanize them"
• 00:23:13 - "the fundamental spirit of compersion is to say it's positive empathy, even when you don't get any direct benefits. But hey, benefits don't hurt. They actually do really enhance that feeling of compersion."
• 00:28:40 - "Oh, it feels like champagne bubbles in my face, it feels like warmth, it feels like a presence or a sensation in my heart."
• 00:30:19 - "Compersion is not a mandate. It can often feel like if you're not feeling this kind of embodied compersion, you're not doing non monogamy or polyamory correctly. And that's just not true."

Connect with Marie Thouin

Website: whatiscompersion.com

Instagram: @love_insight_dating

LinkedIn: Marie Thouin, PhD

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Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Lia Love Avellino is a somatic and relational psychotherapist, published sex and relationship author, facilitator, community organizer, and Co-Founder of Spoke Circles, a mental and emotional wellness space that provides therapy and group support with the goal of destigmatizing vulnerability and mental health care. She is a monthly contributor to Well+Good, and she has appeared in Glamour, Elle, The American Journal of Sexuality Education, BestLife, Motherly, CNBC's MakeIt, The Tamron Hall Show, and Men's Health.

While she was managing a national component of President Obama's initiative to reduce teen pregnancy, she was awarded for her innovative research and excellence in the provision of therapeutic care to vulnerable populations.

Lia holds a BA in Ethnic, Cultural, Minority, Gender, and Group Studies from New York University, and an MSc in Social Work with Distinction from Columbia University.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Lia Avellino to talk about the power of group support, the messy nature of our desires, and finding the middle gray area. We also talk about knowing when it's time to quit, finding and exploring the sensation of aliveness, and the truth about desires and guilt.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:47] A bit about Lia.

• [04:16] The power of group support.

• [07:59] Defining desire.

• [09:57] Some of Lia's desires.

• [11:27] Why we deprive ourselves of our desires.

• [16:44] Desire requires some loss.

• [17:32] Finding the messy middle.

• [23:13] Intuition vs past trauma.

• [28:57] Sexual desire and aliveness.

• [33:45] The sexual relationship with self.

• [36:02] Desire and guilt.

• [37:54] Lia's advice to parents.

Quotes:

• "A lot of times, we learn that our desires are akin to indulgence or selfishness." [12:39]

• "Being lost is a valid part of every desire journey." [21:35]

• "Someone's sexual relationship with themselves is not a threat to their sexual relationship with them." [34:33]

• "Resentment is actually a function of envy." [35:19]

• "Somebody told parents that denying ourselves was good for our kids." [39:17]

• "Being able to model messiness is a responsibility." [41:50]

Connect with Lia Avellino

Website: www.lialoveavellino.com.

www.spokecircles.com.

Instagram: @lialoveavellino.

@spokecircles.

LinkedIn: Lia Avellino.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Goddess Gem: A Conversation About Being A Sex Worker & Producing Sex Parties

Goddess Gem Bio

Gem is a queer pro-domme BDSM educator, and marketing and events professional. She is a regular party producer at Hacienda, a community that celebrates sexuality, educates the curious, and creates opportunities to meet new friends and lovers.

As a BDSM lifestyler, Gem is passionate about sex positivity. Her mission is to take the principles of sex positive lifestyles like healthy communication, self-expression, shame-busting, and radical acceptance and share them with the world.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Goddess Gem to talk about the stigma she faced leaving the corporate world for sex work, FemDoms and Dungeons, and finding clients. We also talk about the logistics of producing sex parties, working through clients’ fears and shame, and Gem’s important takeaways about sex work and sex parties.

Let’s delve in!

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

• [01:28] A bit about Gem.
• [02:09] Getting into sex work.
• [07:07] The stigma.
• [08:58] Leaving the corporate world.
• [14:27] FemDom and dungeons.
• [16:56] Finding clients.
• [18:32] Working through fear and shame.
• [20:02] Getting to where Gem is now.
• [27:29] Producing sex parties.
• [29:18] The vetting process.
• [33:49] The truth about sex work and sex parties.

Quotes:

• “It’s not free to do BDSM a lot of the time.” [05:13]
• “One thing that you have to accept, being a sex worker based out on the internet marketing themselves, is that you’re going to get outed at a certain point.” [08:14]
• “Our community is not just about sex, it’s about community.” [26:45]
• “Everyone knows what they’re doing, and that’s what makes it work.” [32:54]
• “Sex work is work. We are doing our jobs, and we should be respected like anybody else.” [34:22]
• “If you have anxiety, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be there.” [36:29]

Connect with

Website:            www.worshipgem.com.

                        wearehacienda.com

Instagram:          @worship.gem.

                        @haciendacommunity

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram:          @thewright_rachel

Twitter:              @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Michael Kushner is one of New York's leading multi-hyphenates, photographer, producer, actor, podcast host, and author.

Michael is a proud member of Actors' Equity Association, and has featured in notable performances, including On The Town at Barrington Stage directed by John Rando, Much Ado About Nothing at Barrington Stage directed by Julie Boyd, Sons Of The Prophet at GableStage directed by Joe Adler, and Toxic If Swallowed at Ars Nova directed by Charles Quittner.

As a photographer, Michael's work has been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, The Tony Awards, and in publications in print and online. He is the creator of The Dressing Room Project, a photographic journal of actors prepping for their roles on Broadway. Michael has photographed Idina Menzel, Julie Andrews, and many more notable artists.

As a producer, Michael is one of the founding members of Musical Theatre Factory, currently in residency with Playwrights Horizons. He is an Executive Producer on the award winning and EMMY-nominated web series, Indoor Boys, created by Wes Taylor and Alex Wyse. Michael and Wes' short film XaveMePlease, starring Isaac Powell, played Frameline43 Festival in San Francisco and OutFilmFest in CT. He served as Associate Producer on Bernie and Mikey's Trip to the Moon with 59E59 and Strangemen and Co. Michael is proudly on the Advisory Boards of Out of the Box Theatrics and Wingspan Arts. He is also an investor in Be More Chill on Broadway. Every year, Michael participates in Stage and Screen Sleep Out with Covenant House. He has worked with the youth of Covenant House, NY and helped them create the project I Am Worth It,.

Michael and the Broadway Podcast Network launched Dear Multi-Hyphenate, exploring how multidisciplinary artists exist in show business. He is also the creator of his one man show, Moo With Me directed by Max Crumm. Michael is now an Expert Contributor to Backstage.

Michael graduated with distinction from Ithaca College with a BFA in Musical Theatre.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Michael Kushner to talk about being a multi-hyphenate, the sexless actor expectation, and sex and sexuality in the studio. We also talk about Michael's most incredible shoots, establishing trust and comfort, and get Michael's advice to aspiring multi-hyphenates.

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:47] A bit about Michael.
• [02:52] What is a multi-hyphenate?
• [08:02] Introducing Rachel.
• [10:37] Sexless actors.
• [13:55] Sex and sexuality in the studio.
• [17:19] Creating comfort in photoshoots.
• [19:27] What it takes to trust someone.
• [23:32] Michael's favorite shoots.
• [30:02] Michael's advice to aspiring multi-hyphenates.

Quotes:

• "We exist as many things, all at once." [12:32]
• "Communication and conversation in photoshoots is really important." [18:22]
• "A headshot doesn't belong on your mom's fridge." [22:36]
• "Multi-hyphenating is different to multitalented, multifaceted, and multitasking." [30:39]

Connect with Michael Kushner

Website: www.michaelkushnerphotography.com.

www.michaelkushneronline.com.

Instagram: @themichaelkushner.

TikTok: @themichaelkushner.

Podcast: Dear Multi-Hyphenate.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Dr Angela Tan is a Life Coach, Intimacy and Relationship Coach, Family Physician, and the Co-Founder of the Academy of Relationship and Sex, and Inc Equality Ventures. Through her work in sexual medicine, she has been influencing and expanding the landscape of sex education and care in Singapore.

Dr Tan holds an MBBS and a Graduate Diploma in Palliative Care from the NUS Yong Loo Lin School of Medicine, a Graduate Diploma in Acupuncture from the Singapore College of Traditional Chinese Medicine, and a Fellowship in Sexual Medicine from the European Society of Sexual Medicine.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Dr Angela Tan to talk about how she has been closing the gap in sexual education, how media has ruined society's expectations of sex, and building appropriate body boundaries. We also talk about the sources of mismatched libido, when it's time to take sex off the table, and how to find a balance.

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:28] A bit about Dr Tan.
• [02:12] Closing the gap in sexual education.
• [08:22] The romanticization of sex in media.
• [10:15] What would Dr Tan change in sex education?
• [12:13] Building body boundaries.
• [15:54] Dr Tan's day-to-day.
• [17:23] Mismatched libido.
• [22:00] Finding a libido balance.
• [24:44] Taking sex off the table.
• [26:26] The worst rejection.
• [29:00] Dr Tan's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "Whatever issues I'm seeing right now stem from the lack of holistic education when you're much younger." [08:16]
• "Sex is not shameful. Your body parts are not shameful. We are covering it up because we need to protect ourselves." [10:52]
• "The lack of psychological safety is one of the causes of low libido." [19:04]
• "Scheduling sex is one of the ways to improve a sex life." [22:44]
• "Connection is way more beautiful than the act of sex itself. Without connection, sex is meaningless." [29:19]

Connect with Dr Angela Tan

Website: www.aras.love.

Twitter: @Academyrns.

Instagram: @academyrns.

YouTube: Academy of Relationship and Sex.

LinkedIn: Dr Angela Tan.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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By day, John Romaniello is a New York Times Best Selling Author and Founder of WellspringMEDIA. He is also an angel investor, media personality, and consultant, helping entrepreneurs improve their communication and increase their revenue through writing. On Instagram, he publishes content around kink, non-monogamy, and polyamory, and tries to get rid of the shame that many carry around sex.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by John Romaniello to talk about boundaries, limits, agreements, and protocols, and how those could change over time. We also talk about how to navigate unreasonable requests, when boundaries are irreconcilable, and how to say the hard things with compassionate candor.

In this Episode You’ll Learn:

• [01:16] A bit about John.
• [04:01] How does John know so much?
• [08:10] “Those who can’t do, teach?”
• [10:44] Defining boundaries, limits, agreements, and protocols.
• [14:48] Ultimatums vs boundaries.
• [18:43] Relationship boundaries.
• [20:43] Negotiating boundaries.
• [22:43] When it’s irreconcilable.
• [30:40] Updating boundaries.
• [39:22] Tightening a boundary.
• [43:02] Making unreasonable requests.
• [49:50] How to say the hard things.
• [56:02] John’s words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• “Boundaries are ways that we create an understanding of how we’re willing to be treated and what we’re willing to do if we do not get that treatment.” [12:22]
• “It is unreasonable, unrealistic, and most of the time unethical to expect people to be aware of a boundary you have not set.” [15:07]
• “You cannot make a boundary for a relationship by yourself.” [19:02]
• “If someone does not agree to your boundary, then it’s not an agreement.” [20:38]
• “There is always a kind way to tell a hard truth.” [50:41]
• “Boundaries are things that you don’t want to do, and agreements are things that you do to make sure that you don’t do the things you don’t want to do.” [56:11]

Connect with John Romaniello

Website:            www.wearewellspringmedia.com.

                        johnromaniello.com.

Instagram:          @johnromaniello.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram:          @thewright_rachel

Twitter:              @thewrightrachel

Resources

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Dr. Lynne Maureen Hurdle, M.Ed., PhD, brings over thirty-five years of experience to her work as a Conflict Resolution Strategist, Speaker, DEI Facilitator, Leadership Coach, and Author of the Amazon #1 Bestseller, "Closing Conflict For Leaders: How to Be A Bold Leader and Develop A Kick-Ass, High-Functioning, Happy AF Team."

She is the creator of "The Soul of Conflict Tele-Summits: Healing Old Wounds and Creating Bold Leadership," featuring interviews with powerful leaders. She is a TEDx speaker (The Weight of Hate), writes regularly for Psychology Today, and has contributed her expertise to Court TV and Redbook magazine. She also leads the On the Matter of Race program, a six-month journey for white people who want to learn about racism and take action.

As a lifelong Bronx resident and the mother of two sons, she uses her conflict resolution skills constantly while always finding reasons to laugh about life. Her ability to find the humor in conflict earned her a spot as a finalist for Nick at Nite's Funniest Mom in America.

Hey everyone! Welcome to today's episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today's episode, I'm joined by Dr Lynne Maureen Hurdle to talk about all things race and racism, the moment that changed the trajectory of her life, and exploring the extensive harm caused by ignorance. We also talk about the fetishization of POC bodies, doing the work in the On The Matter Of Race program, and the importance of "seeing color."

Let's delve in!

In this Episode You'll Learn:

• [01:48] A bit about Dr. Hurdle.
• [06:06] Why do this work?
• [14:55] Why I signed up.
• [17:42] White people do harm.
• [27:58] Being a mother of black men.
• [32:20] Sexual attraction vs fetishization.
• [37:13] Do you need to join the program?
• [44:38] Dr Hurdle's words of wisdom.

Quotes:

• "We know that the system is set up to favor, advantage, to look at white people as the norm." [18:46]
• "Being nice and treating people who are different from you the way you would like to be treated does nothing to dismantle racism" [19:28]
• "You must see color. It is a part of who we are." [33:49]
• "If you do not believe that one group of committed people can change the world, then you're wrong." [44:52]

Connect with Dr Lynne Hurdle

Website: lynnemaureenhurdle.com.

Twitter: @conflictcloser.

Instagram: @conflictcloser.

LinkedIn: Dr Lynne Maureen Hurdle.

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

Resources

Book: Closing Conflict For Leaders: How To Be A Bold Leader and Develop a Kick-Ass, High-Functioning, Happy AF Team.

On The Matter Of Race.

Your company can become a sponsor for our very first Live and in-person conference here: https://theconflictcloser.com/sponsorship

You can donate to our conference and be listed as a contributor to our anti-racism work here: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=P5M8MTNT8C9N8

Five Mistakes White People Make When It Comes To Racism. Free Mini E-Book https://lynnemaureenhurdle.com/

Warm regards,

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Tyomi Morgan is a sex coach and writer with 12 years of experience. She is passionate about helping women connect with their sexuality and their bodies, and infuses tantra and healing principles in her work. She is the creator of the Cowgirl Workout, a somatic healing practice that teaches women how to stroke back. Tyomi believes that sexual energy is creative energy and helps people step into the things they truly desire with confidence. Her coaching style is described as down-to-earth and direct, with a focus on helping clients step into uncomfortable work for higher pleasure.

In this episode, host Rachel Wright talks to sex coach and writer Tyomi Morgan about where fitness and sexual wellness meet. Tyomi introduces herself as a multi-hyphenate within the creative and sexual health space. They discuss the importance of self-care and how it affects sexual wellness, the connection between physical fitness and sexual pleasure, and how to incorporate fitness into one's sex life. This conversation highlights the importance of taking care of oneself to achieve optimal sexual health.

[00:01:13] Fitness and sexual wellness.

[00:05:56] Physical fitness and sexual wellness.

[00:07:44] Sexual health and heart health.

[00:12:22] Riding and Stroking Techniques.

[00:17:23] Trauma in the pelvic floor.

[00:19:57] Fitness and sexual wellness.

[00:23:00] Body positivity and exercise.

[00:29:00] Pelvic floor and movement.

[00:30:03] Rideable sex toys.

[00:34:27] Mental health and sexuality.

The listener will learn about the intersection of fitness and sexual wellness, including the speaker's background in creating the Cowgirl Workout program, the importance of pelvic floor muscles and cardiovascular health for sexual performance, and the benefits of integrating fitness into sexual activity. The episode also touches on body image, trauma, and mental health in relation to sexual pleasure and fitness. The speaker emphasizes the importance of embracing oneself and finding guides for pleasure and healing.

00:06:15 - "It is the meeting of pelvises in the middle."

00:08:45 - "Yes, there are studies out there that have that that literally tie in how physical fitness improves sexual performance, especially for female identifying folk, because it also improves your self-concept."

00:12:22 - "And so when I started thinking about movement in sex when it comes to riding dick, I'm like, well, riding is really a euphemism for stroking."

00:17:26 - "the pelvic floor is just like a collection of trauma."

00:26:33 - "That's my goal is to change the world because I want women moving."

00:29:38 - "You might feel like horny. You might feel very aroused after this because we're working so much on the pelvic floor and that's normal."

Connect with Tyomi Morgan

Website: glamerotica101.com

Instagram: @realglamazontyomi

Youtube: GLAMerotica101

Twitter: @glamerotica101

Facebook: glamerotica101

Connect with Rachel Wright

Website: https://rachelwrightnyc.com

Instagram: @thewright_rachel

Twitter: @thewrightrachel

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Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower Your Sex Life.

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