The Youngbloods Podcast

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with the new guidelines and the new but old information we have from the CDC we should be mad as hell. The Covid farce that we had to live under for a few years at least taught us that we know better than the government. and that the government doesn't fix problems it causes them

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Segment 7 – Do the Shit That You Love

“I believe the singular reason that I have been financially successful is cause I don’t care about financial success. Like, find your process. Find your thing. Live within your means. This goes back to a lot of the things that I’m thinking about. When people do things for other people’s affirmation it makes them incredibly emotionally vulnerable. We’re in a very special time here. Find the thing that makes you happy doing it. Not because of any other part. And so if you can find something you love, when shit hits the fan you’re not going to be looking for the next trend. You’re going to be chilling here for the next two, three, four years waiting for it to flip back up. That’s a beautiful feeling. It’s fun to be in the shit when it’s the shit you like being in.”

-Gary Vee

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D:Mr. Gary Vee

F:Dude, that’s pretty profound

D:You know, so, he brought up a lot of…OK. He brought up a lot of things that people need to do. You know one…something my grandfather always told us, uh, you know, he said ‘Find what you love doing and people will pay you to do it.’ So, it’s true. And he’s saying ‘Find what you love.’ Actually his exact words were ‘Find the shit that you love.’ So, now, he also mentioned if you’re doing things for other people’s approval, my words, well, why are you doing it? Cause you’re just making yourself vulnerable to…cause here’s the thing: (sighs) when it comes to people’s approval, you don’t need anyone’s 

approval but your’s. 

F:That’s taken many years for me to learn that for myself. 

D:Um, quick story, cause I like telling stories. 

F:Everybody on the carpet. Story time.

D: (laughs) Um, so, 21, almos…almost 22 years ago, um, I married a young lady. Still married to her, obviously. And, um, went and got married and we eloped. Then we went to go see my parents. 

F:How did that go over? Or is that part of the story?

D:Oh it’s coming…

F:Sorry. I didn’t mean to get ahead (laughs)

D:You’re like ‘Wait a second’

F:Well you kinda looked at me like…

D:Yeah…well…so we went to go see my parents and, you know, walked in the house and Shannon came with me, and my parents were…long story short: my parents, I’ll, I’ll backtrack a little before we got married. My parents received a letter from, I guess, my step-grandma. Yes…Shannon’s, Shannon’s step-grandma, cause her grandfather remarried. Um, and my step grandmother in law, this is while we were dating, wrote a letter to them saying how bad of a person that my mother…future mother in law…was and then pretty much closes it out in a, in a sense of saying ‘…and Shannon is gonna be just like her.’

F:I’m sure that created a lot of stereotypes for your parents.

D:There was a rift in the family. Me…and my parents were like ‘You’re not marrying her.’ 

F:Oh, really?

D:Yes. I was told that I’m not going to marry her. 

F:They told you that you couldn’t do something (laughs) 

D: (laughs) And you know me. Don’t tell me I can’t do something, right? So, um, fast forward, um, actually, so we broke it off, actually  we, we broke it off for a, for a year and so I could try and figure out how to make everybody happy. And you know what? You can’t make everybody happy. It’s impossible. Nothing can happen. So, I go in and uh, she’s down in Florida and I’m up in Georgia, and then I’m like ‘This is stupid’ and I call her up and I’m like ‘Hey. You love me?’ She goes ‘Yeah’ ‘Well, I love you too. Let’s get married.’ She’s like ‘OK’ I literally left…

F:Wait, wait, wait. That’s how you proposed?

D:No I proposed…so I proposed before.

F:Oh, so there was a, OK  

D:So fast forward there…There was a proposal before. We broke it off. She gave me the ring back. 

Literally, I got the ring back. 

F:Gotcha

D:Everything, and it was like that for a year, and, and then, you know, a year goes by and I’m like ‘This is Stupid.’ You know, I’m gonna, you know

Segment 6 – Dream Big 

“Don’t you give up on your dream. I don’t care if you don’t have the money, you don’t have the help, and you don’t have the family for it. And you don’t have the background for it. And you don’t have the friends for it. Don’t you give up on your dream. Don’t you do it. Don’t you do it. Don’t you do it. It may take you twice as long. You may have to take courses and classes. You might not read as fast. You might not move as quick. You might not have as much but don’t you quit.”

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D:Dream big. So, (sighs) 

F:But dream honestly as well.

D:OK, so, when I was a kid, I wanted to be a fireman. Also, when I was a kid I wanted to be an astronaut. I’m pretty sure, somewhere in the mix of all of that, I also wanted to be a dinosaur. 

F:The first prehistoric astronaut that’s putting out a fire on (laughing) your space station? You go! Whooooo!

D:I mean, so, dreams are relative. 

F:Yes

D:Then you have to have dreams that are reality. Now, if you wanna reach for the stars, you can do that, and that’s ok. Being a dinosaur, not gonna happen. 

F:I think you said it right though. They need to be base din reality, so, um…

D:But, OK, but what’s reality? Do you think Elon Musk dreamed to be a billionaire? 

F:He possibly did. 

D:Maybe

F:But at the same time…

D:I don’t think that was his dream, though.

F:I don’t it was his dream either.

D:I just think that, that was a result of his dreams and his actions. 

F:Right. And the reason I bring up the base din reality thing is because, so,

Segment 5 – Change Your Mindset

(0:00)

Steve Harvey: If you could change the way you wake up in the morning, stop saying ‘I got to go to work. I got to work out. I gotta get this weight off of me. I gotta go and meet with the people at the school. I gotta deal with my co-workers.’ Change one word in that sentence and everything about your life changes. ‘I get to wake up in the morning. I get to go to work.’ When you say ‘I got to…’ you take all of your opportunities and all of your blessings and you wrap ‘em up in stress by saying ‘I got to.’

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D:Change your mind

F:Speak it Steve!

D:You know it, it’s funny and you…this, this video that we’re using the audio from is him on the, um,…

F:Family Feud set…

D:Family Feud set. Yeah.

F:I couldn’t believe it when I first saw it.

D:So, it…

F:I was thinking he was maybe doing a TED Talk or something. (Laughing)

D:Steve Harvey is an amazing guy. He, going from where he came from to where he is, he is a very, very successful man. And honestly, if anybody can look at his life and mimic it, they would be amazing. But then take it to the next level. Change your mind. Change the way we think. 

F:That, that mindset that I think a lot of us get stuck in…

D:I gotta go do this. I get to take my kid…my son to practice. 

F:That’s making it sound like it’s a, a difference between being a chore…

(0:00)

Moderator: “Why are weak men such a problem?”

Jordan Peterson: Well weak people are a problem, in general. And I don’t mean physically weak. I mean cowardly, let’s say, and deceitful because, I’m thinking it more in terms of moral weakness. Well, there’s a variety of reasons, is, first of all if you can’t support your own weight, let’s say, and someone else has to do it. And that’s not good. And then if you don’t make your pathway, if you don’t pick a forthright and useful and noble pathway through life then you’ll become bitter and, and, and too hurt by the tragedy of existence then you tend to seek your revenge wherever you can get it. And that’s not good. So, it’s a, it’s a mistake on all fronts, it’s not good for your it’s not good for your family, it’s not good for the community, um, it’s certainly not a good medium to a long term strategy because life is very, very difficult.

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D: (inhales) There was a lot there

F:That hit me (pause) to the very core

D:Well…

F:And it’s just because based on that, based on Jordan’s words, I look back on my life and Iv’e seen a lot of times where I have been weak.

D:Well, I’ll go, so…

F:And I, I’m not taking judgement out on myself. I’m talking accountability and understanding WOW!

D:So, (sighs) we all have weak moments.

F:Correct

D:Um, you know, it, (sighs) I find it interesting that you know, that the question started off as why are men, weak men such a problem. And I know that this, this conversation went back to that later on, discussing the man side.

F:Correct

D:And we’ll, we’ll go to that another time too. But I think Jordan took it in the right direction. You know, He says, you know, weak people are a problem. And then he clarifies that, you know, you know, you know not talking about physical weakness, cause there are a lot more stronger people out there than me when it comes to physical strength. But, he, then he says cowardly. So let’s start there. What makes a coward? 

(2:36) 

F:A coward is someone who doesn’t make the choice to stand up to difficult situations 

D:You know he…

F:They turn tail and run. 

D:Well he… 

F:I think that cliché is often used.

D:Well, and he…well, yeah. You know he, he talks, he, he, he, he said, you know, deceitful people, um, morally weak people, so let’s talk about morally weak. And no, we are not talking about keeping it in your pants. (Laughs)

F:Morality I think is something that …

D:We’ve forgotten about. Our society…

F:Yeah. Our society has forgotten about it.

D:They’ve pushed it to the side. 

F:Because morality…

D:There’s multiple definitions of, of morality and being moral. Different, and, and each one of them are a valid definition. You know…

F:Right. In this sense are, I think we are talking about the morality of just the difference between what is right and what’s wrong.

D:Yeah! That’s literally what this is about. And there is a right and there is, well, a wrong. This is not about My Truth versus Your Truth. So then, then we’re,  so we’re separating the truth. I, I, I honed in a lot on the My Truth. That really irritates me, because all you are saying is ‘My Opinion’ What this is saying, what is actually morally right? We all, OK, we all know, take religion out of this completely, we all know I have no right to go up to anyone and kill them. That’s wrong. We were born knowing that. 

F:here’s another one for ya. Can I walk into a bank and just tell the person at gunpoint that I want the money?

D:Yeah, you can. 

F:No, is that morally right?

D:No. That’s the, again, so you’re taking something that doesn’t belong to you. And that’s the, that’s also the deceit side that he talks about. 

F:Mm huh

D: (sighs)

F:Is it morally right to, to tell a lie? 

Segment 3 – Stop Being Offended

(0:00) (Audience laughing in the background) “What happens if you say that and someone gets offended? Well, they can be offended. What’s wrong with being offended? When did ‘sticks and stones may break my bones’ stop being relevant? Isn’t that what you teach children for God’s sake. That’s what you teach toddlers :”He called me an idiot. Don’t worry about it. He’s a dick.” Then you have adults going ‘I was offended. I was offended, and I have rights.’ Well, so what. Be offended. Nothing happens. You’re an adult. Grow up. Deal with it. I was offended. I don’t care!  

-Steve Hughes

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D:Are you offended?

F:I’m so offended!

D:(laughs)

F:And you don’t care

D:I honestly, see, you, so I love comedy

F:(laughs)

D:and you, you know, comedy is one of the most amazing things if you think about it. With comics, comedians, and it’s getting harder for the comedians, it is getting harder and harder because of the way our world is and the way people react. Um, but comedians, they can take a serious subject 

F:Like hot topic subjects

D:Very Hot topics

F:Ok

D:They can talk about racism, they can talk about sexual…

F:Politics

D:Politics, it doesn’t matter what the subject is and they can take it and they can discuss it in a way with humor because there is truth to everything, every, you know, we’re, (laughs) in being intentional, which we’re gonna talk about that , knowing what words mean, and understanding words…it’s an education thing. It, it’s all about …yeah, we just gotta be smarter people, we gotta keep learning.  We stop learning. We do. So, yeah, this comedian, he talks about being offended. And it’s funny and you hear people laughing. Those people were laughing, they were enjoying themselves.  And they were laughing because he was talking about being offended. What happens when you are offended? When you get offended. You’ve been offended before, right?

(2:21)

F:(laughs) Yes

D:I’ve been offended

F:Yes, I’m, I’m sorry I was just sitting there going ‘When, there, yeah, I sometimes

D:Yu took offense to something?

F:I sometimes have gotten offended way too easily.

D:People leave churches because of taking offense.

F:Yes

D:People cancel people, cancel culture, because they are offended 

F:I’m gonna say this, marriages end because of offense

D:Marriage ends because of people getting offended. So, do we care? Some things we should care about. If a marriage is ending because people get offended then that’s because there is a lack of understanding. That’s a relationship issue, that’s a communication issue.

F:And honestly I think that anytime anyone gets offended it is because of a lack of understanding 

D:OK

F:I feel that misunderstandings are what cause offense to come about

D:Yes, It is

F:And, and what he said though, what was his name, I’m sorry

D:I can’t remember his name, I’ll find it and we’ll post it

F:We’ll post it, anyway, but didn’t he say something to the effect of …

D:Ok, Ok, thank you, drive safe

F:Just want you to know you are gonna be n the book now. Because they heard you…(laughs)

D:(laughs) She’s ok with it

F:Transcripts

D:It’s all part of our…

F:It’s all part of life

D:It’s all part of the Youngblood Life Podcast, so it, it is what it is

F:But it’s going in the book now…anyway…what I was getting at…

D:You are going to have to put 

F:Elizabeth…E:, yes, um But ultimately misunderstandings, I feel, cause offense, I think

D:Well, so what causes the misunderstanding?

F:Lack of, a misunderstanding is, in my opinion a misunderstanding is 

D:Lack of education…

F:Not only lack of education but a closed off heart

D:Well…

F:And a closed off mind

D:Ok, now what I mean a lack of education, too, but the reason I say that, lack of education lack of book learning. 

F:Correct

D:It is also lack of understanding the subject matter.So you need to have a …

F:Yes

D:So w

Segment 2 – Don’t Believe What You Think

F: Ochona Delwayo said “One who looks around him is intelligent.  One who looks within him is wise.” Or in other words, don’t believe everything you think.

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D:So that is actually from a book I am reading.

F:I need to read it.

D:I will get you the…I will get you a copy of it.

F:Ar you reading it or are you listening to it, audiobook

D:I’m cheating, yes

F:There’s no cheating in an audiobook

D:You know, I read a lot, but time is always a thing. And so because time is a thing, I have to do things…yeah

F:I need to read more because I used to be an avid reader and I always read like, not actual educational books, more of the Sci-Fi…Piers Anthony was one of my favorite authors as a kid, I read all his series, it was amazing, I just, I read a lot and now not so much, but  as a Lyft driver, I need to put on those audiobooks

D:You should, audiobooks are seriously they’re amazing.  Makes your life easier, makes your life…you can get a lot done, I mean have you finished “Greenlights?”

F:I have not finished it because it actually deleted off of my phone, I have got to find it again

D:I can add it back to your phone

F:Oh thank you for…

D:Matthew McConaughey…

F:Matthew McConaughey, “Greenlights”, amazing, amazing stuff, 

kind of along the lines of what we are doing here with ‘Transcripts’

D:Yeah, I mean his is more of about his life

F:Yeah, I mean but…

D:But he talks about how it applies and if you listen to what he does and how it applies and how he has taken it and applied the things that he has done and you apply it to your life, on the Greenlights side, I mean this is a green light right here

F:This is true

D:Yeah, this book is, yeah, ‘Don’t believe Everything You Think’ by, uh, Joseph Nguyen. I probably destroyed his name, but it is what it is…but

F:How do you spell it?

D:Um…go back to it…N G U Y N, E N

F:Oh that’s Nguyen (w e n) 

D:Ok

F:That’s pronounced w e n

D:There we go, Joseph Nguyen, ok, there ya go, I destroyed it, but that’s ok

F:You did destroy it

D:I don’t know, again…

F:Is Joseph offended?

D:Probably…we’ll get to that

F:We’ll get to that segment

D:Ok, so

F:That, that, when you showed me that quote, it really hit me because , um, intelligence and wisdom…

D:Well, so this is actually chapter 2 in the book, it says ‘The root cause…’ basically it is talking about the root cause of all suffering

F:Ok

D:And then go back into the title of the book ‘Don’t believe everything you think, ok, so we, we literally are coming off talking about religion.

F:Absolutely

D:And…

F:And how a lot of religions the culture takes over or the people within the culture take over and then they start taking their own ideas

D:People focus, so it, culture is easy to grab a hold of

F:Well because you want to belong

D:Correct and that’s part of it, now when you grab a hold of a culture then, (sigh) cause you wanna belong, what happens is you’re trying to fit in and you want to fit in. Now there comes a point in everybody’s life, and most people don’t get to this point, but there comes a point in life where you need to say ‘I’m ok not fitting in’ Yeah…

F:Is that more on the kinda, the self love/self care kind of…

(3:46)

D:I, I think it is

F:Aspect of things…

D:The only reason is cause, you’re you and, you need to be, everybody needs to be unique in themselves. We can have things in common, religion can bring us something that is in common, you know politics can bring us something in common, you know, school cars, you name it.  Right? We, we we’r culturistic people anyway. We all are. 

F:Correct.  The challenge within those cultures, I think, is that cliques are formed.

D:Correct

F:Because you, you get those segments, you know. Like, think high school…

D:Ok

F:You know in high school you had the jocks

D:Yeah

F:You had the richy rich girls that were