People pleasing is easy to spot when it's loud—the yes-man at work, the one who bends over backwards for the boss, the person who can't say no.
But what about the people pleasing that isn't so obvious?
What about the kind that hides behind "attentiveness," "sweetness," or "devotion?"
In this Convo, we're diving into the subtle, silent psychology of people pleasing—the silent kind that shows up in our partnerships.
Because often, when someone is overly attentive...
overly available...
overly eager to please...
That's our cue to pause and ask ourselves: What is motivating this?
Are they doing this out of love or out of fear?
Are they secure?
Or are they afraid to lose something?
People pleasing often comes from fear—fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough.
And when that fear is present, love becomes performance...not partnership.
The danger is this:
If we don't understand psychology...
If we're not tuned into our intuition...
If we ignore the soft whispers of the Holy Spirit...
We can mistake people pleasing for genuine love.
But God asks us to use discernment—not paranoia, not suspicion, but spiritual clarity.
Discernment is the inner light that reveals what's real, what's wounded, and what's not aligned with truth.
In this Convo we explore:
- The hidden signs of people pleasing
- Why over-attentiveness can signal insecurity, not devotion
- How people pleasing creates imbalance and emotional debts
- How intuition exposes what psychology explains
- Why God calls us to discern
- How to tell the difference between love and fear-driven behavior
- The spiritual cost of ignoring subtle red flags
When we understand the subtleties, we stop falling for the performance..and start seeing the person.
People pleasing isn't always loud. Sometimes it's quiet, gentle and disguised as love. But God gives us wisdom to recognize what's real, when we take time to tap in with Him.
If you're ready to deepen your discernment, strengthen your intuition, and see relationships through a spiritual and psychological lens, this video will speak to you.
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