145 - Things ROGD Parents Need to Hear (even if they don’t want to)

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As therapists working almost exclusively with gender-questioning youth, Sasha and Stella share a little bit about the challenging experience of straddling between understanding the child's experiences and supporting parents who often grapple with goals conflicting with those of the child.  This episode aims to provide valuable insights for parents navigating the complexities of supporting gender-diverse children with the goal of exploring some critical considerations that can sometimes be difficult for parents to embrace. They caution against oversimplified narratives, especially for parents who may have adopted a singular explanation for their child's trans identity, and they stress the importance of broadening perspectives, encouraging parents to consider multiple angles, including family dynamics. While exploring these key ideas, Sasha & Stella underscore the need for a middle ground, where parents provide warmth, connection, and engagement while remaining cautious about external influences, reminding parents that solutions lie in embracing complexity rather than adopting extreme and narrow approaches. Excessive tech restrictions and controlling behavior without warmth can be counterproductive in dealing with ROGDBe flexible and open to embracing radical changes in parenting strategiesAvoid the assumption that sharing extensive medical information about gender dysphoria will necessarily be helpfulSeek a wider understanding, thoughtfully embrace the possibility it might not be ROGDParents cannot dictate or control the therapeutic decisions made by their child’s therapistSeek and pursue a measured and supportive approach, be cautious about rushing or hastily implementing various interventions to “fix” the situationParents need to manage their own distress before attempting to effectively help their child, prioritizing self-care is a mustAvoid and recognize the unhelpful nature of engaging in confrontations (specifically online) with kids, detransitions, or activistsReassess roles and emotions when considering long-term transition strategies, reflecting on the possibility that (in some cases) transitioning may be a viable long-term experience

If you liked this episode, more episodes you might find interesting: Episode 2 - Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/rapid-onset-gender-dysphoria

Episode 4 - Why Do People Seek a New Identity? https://gender-a-wider-lens.captivate.fm/episode/why-do-people-seek-a-new-identity 

Episode 44 - Multiple Meanings of Gender Dysphoria: A Conversation with Aaron Terrell

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