Let me start by saying two things. Number one: I know a lot of really nice guys. Number Two: I have met and heard from women about lots of guys who were real jerks. My point is – any woman you meet will have met their share of each. All they have to go on when deciding which kind of man you are is how you treat them and how you treat the people around you.

Don’t end up getting labeled a jerk. Don’t do these things women hate.

Bragging

First up – bragging. Most women hate bragging – even humble bragging. Bragging will get you labeled a jerk. So guys, don’t brag about your position, your bank account, how much weight you can bench press, how many women want to go out with you, how many women you’ve gone out with, and for God sake, don’t brag about the size of your … equipment.

First off, any woman who is impressed by what you brag about is probably only interested in what you bragged about. So, I guess, if you want a woman who loves you for your powerful position, loves you for your money, or loves you because you are the man all the other women want, you could go ahead and try bragging about those things.

But, there’s another problem.

Most women with any sense who are worth pursuing either won’t be impressed by your bravado or have heard it all before and won’t believe a word of it.

Instead, be humble and modest. If you have anything worth bragging about, it will eventually surface naturally in the course of your interactions.

Not Listening

Secondly, and I can’t emphasize this enough, women hate it when you don’t really listen to what they are saying. What you are communicating, in effect, is that what they are saying is not important which implies that they are not important.

This is easy to fall into. We all want to tell our story. Our minds get so busy trying to formulate our next interesting thing to say that we lose focus on what the person across from us is saying.

The good news is that listening is a skill anyone can learn. And, when you learn to listen, you make other people feel valued and they find you more attractive. So, any time and effort you put into honing your listening skills is time well spent.

Belittling People

I should have probably put this one second. In a way, this relates to my first point. Bragging is one way men try to make themselves look better. Another way is putting other people down. Women hate this.

Guys, no woman wants to hear you bash your ex, insult the wait staff, or otherwise dump on people or institutions. More than likely, all your putdowns will do is conjure up images of what some jerk did to them in the past, then you get lumped in with them.

Women worth being with know that how you talk to and treat the people around you is how you will, sooner or later, talk to and treat them. So, talk to and treat the people around you with respect, understanding, and kindness.

Being Crude or Vulgar

And, speaking of how you speak to people, most women hate hearing a man being crude or vulgar. Guys, this may come as a shock to some of you, but men and women are different. Most women don’t talk and act like your guy friends and they don’t want to hear you talk and see you act the way you do around your guy friends.

And yes, I have heard women excel in crudeness and vulgarity. It’s not exclusively a guy thing. But, those women are a tiny minority. The overwhelming majority of women don’t w...