How do you pull a teenager out of their avid and dramatic introspection ("the whole world is against me, no one understands me!") and into understanding their place in the world, their impact on others and what's really going on is just inside their own heads. And yes, other people actually do understand them because anyone older than them has been through the whole teenage thing themselves.

So, I thought I'd ask one of my kids how, despite many setbacks and much yelling, I got that through to them and how our relationship survived their teenage years.