We talk about Virtues, Ben Franklin's 13 virtues and the importance of having your own list of virtues that help you pursue your best life.
Franklin conceived a bold and arduous project to help us pursue moral perfection," Franklin writes. "As I knew, or thought I knew, what was right and wrong, I did not see why I might not always do the one and avoid the other." He soon found the task "of more Difficulty than I had imagined," but decided that one's bad deeds resulted from bad habits, and that with concentration one could substitute good habits for the bad ones. He decided that 13 virtues were either necessary or desirable, arranged them so that the first acquired could help in assimilating the second, and so on:
1. TEMPERANCE: Eat not to Dullness. Drink not to Elevation. (this one too me some time!)
2. SILENCE: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself. Avoid trifling Conversation. (hard for me)
3. ORDER: Let all your things have their places. Let each part of your business have its time.
4. RESOLUTION: Resolve to perform what you ought. Perform without fail what you resolve.
5. FRUGALITY: Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself: i.e. Waste nothing.
6. INDUSTRY: Lose no Time. Be always employed in something useful. Cut off all unnecessary actions.
7. SINCERITY: Use no hurtful Deceit. Think innocently and justly; and, if you speak, speak accordingly.
8. JUSTICE: Wrong none, by doing Injuries or omitting the benefits that are your Duty.
9. MODERATION: Avoid Extremes.
10. CLEANLINESS: Tolerate no Uncleanliness in Body, Clothes, or Habitation.
11. TRANQUILITY: Be not disturbed at Trifles, or at Accidents common or unavoidable.
12. CHASTITY: Rarely use Venery but for Health or Offspring. (I take the most issue with this one)
13. HUMILITY: Imitate Jesus and Socrates.