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  • How to Create Trust and Certainty in Challenging Times
    Your feelings, thoughts, words, and actions all lead to the alignment of what’s important to you.

    Each one of those steps informs the next. If you feel fear and panic, you then think negatively, and choose words like “terrifying” and take an action that is in alignment with that “process.” How we manifest our feelings into the world through action is a reflection of who we are.

    So, if we are afraid, angry, or terrified, at the feeling level, how does that manifest as an action? How do we interrupt this process at the point of feeling?

    Read the full article here: How to Create Trust and Certainty in Challenging Times.

    If you’re feeling anything like what I’ve described in today’s episode and would like to discover a set of strategies to create more certainty and trust in this time of social distancing, isolation, and economic uncertainty during the Covid-19 Pandemic I invite you to complete my coaching exercise, “What’s Out of Your Control, Right Now?“, available exclusively to Think Queerly VIQ Members.


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    34 min
  • A Novel Pandemic — How a Virus Could Unite Humanity

    The lesson we can bear witness to as this pandemic evolves is that we are all in this world together now. We have to work together as a community, fostering connections and care around the world. This pandemic may be the crisis we need to positively affect climate change, social evolution, income equality, healthcare equality, and human rights.

    Read the full article on Medium:

    A Novel Pandemic - How a Virus Could Unite Humanity. 

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    Download my free book: Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity.


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    30 min
  • Owning the Problem Is the Nature of Personal Responsibility

    We cannot control the actions of others. Instead, personal responsibility is the awareness, recognition, and acceptance of owning the problem.

    Only you can make your own life-defining choices to live authentically, to live truthfully, and to make a difference in the world. But that can only happen when you accept everything that has ever happened to you as, ‘what is’ and nothing more.

    Read the full article on Medium: "Self-work Is the Requisite Nature of Personal Responsibility."

    Leading Queerly with Darren
    • Download my free book: Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity
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    32 min
  • How Can We Avoid Creating the Very Thing We Are Fighting Against?
    How can we have an opinion about something without defending it?

    It is incredibly challenging, and sometimes it even feels impossible, to respond to an attack from a place of loving-kindness and acceptance for the other person as a human being, while maintaining the emotional integrity to offer an alternative solution that improves the situation and the humanity of the interaction.

    Read the complete post on Medium: “How Can We Avoid Creating the Very Thing We Are Fighting Against?”

    Leading Queerly with Darren
    • Download my free book: Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity
    • If you’re curious to find out more about working with me as your coach, click here.
    • Support The Way of Queer Leadership.

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    Post title & opening podcast soundbite: Ram Dass on Instagram.


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    29 min
  • When Prejudice is a Drag Queen: The Loss of a Transgressive Art Form
    How is drag representative of our queer community?

    1. Is it acceptable for a drag queen to make jokes that are racist or transphobic?

    2. Old school drag needs to change with the times and learn how to express our more inclusive values as a community.

    3. Has drag lost its transgressive nature now that it has become an acceptable capitalist enterprise?

    4. Social change is coming quickly and often with fury. Pushing too quickly for change is difficult because humans don't like to change. We need to approach this challenge with patience, compassion, and teaching in a what that helps those who are stuck in the past to listen, and to understand how their words hurt and harm, even if that is not their intention.

    5. What about Drag Kings? Why is it that men still get to dress as women and get all of the glory? Even when exploiting the feminine men seek to control and dominate social space. While drag is still an affront to heteronormativity, it still expresses male dominance so that even if not wholly accepted, it is perceived (by gay men and society) as better than a woman doing the same.

    Read the post on Th-Ink Queerly

    When Prejudice is a Drag Queen: The Loss of a Transgressive Art Form.

    Connect with Darren
    • Get my book: Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity
    • Support The Way of Queer Leadership.

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    33 min
  • Think Queerly: Meditations & Critical Reflections on Liberating Humanity

    In my new book, Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity, I advocate for inclusion and acceptance, as well as elevating consciousness — not just for LGBTQ+ peoples — but for all humanity, by leading from our uniqueness to demonstrate our vital and creative role in society.

    My book is dedicated to helping queer people discover how to risk expressing and embracing their difference to liberate their authentic selves and take part in creating a more loving and accepting world.

    The principles I use in coaching queer leadership show up throughout my book. Here are a few:
    1. Don’t lead others directly. Lead by example.
    2. To think critically, be more curious.
    3. Accept past transgressions as markers of who you have become.
    4. A growth mindset evolves when you willingly embrace the uncomfortable.
    5. Personal transformation happens when you lean out of your comfort zone long enough to cause permanent expansion.
    6. The questions you ask yourself determine your perspective within the formation of your answers.
    7. Freely expressing your creativity is an humanizing characteristic.
    8. See the truth and fragility of your ego for its identification with separation.

    Click here to download a copy of, “Think Queerly – Meditations & Critical Reflections On Liberating Humanity.”


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    23 min
  • How We Treat Each Other As Queer Leaders

    One of the most important directives of the Th-Ink Queerly mission statement is that we  as queer thinkers and writers are purposefully critical of the status quo. At the same time, we can and should engage with and debate our peers, even when we disagree with them.

    How we treat our own dictates how others will treat us.

    But for us to work together successfully as a community of queer thought leaders we need to be mindful of how we support and treat each other, especially in a debate. This is one of the many ways a minority group of people can together work to affect positive change ; to root out issues of disagreement and to boldly move forward collectively.

    Read the full post on Th-Ink Queerly:

    How We Treat Each Other As Queer Leaders: An invitation to disrupt the status quo and elevate hearts and minds.

    Are You a Closet Queer Creative?

    Does the idea of a supportive, encouraging, and queer mastermind group excite you? If yes, let’s talk! Click here to learn more about how I coach and complete the Mastermind application form to find out if the program is a fit for you.

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    23 min
  • Inspiration Comes from Within But Support Comes from Other Minds
    An invitation to ‘play’ in my Queer Creatives Mastermind Program

    If you want to make an impact, if you want to use your queer creativity to make a difference in the world, you will benefit from support and interaction with others in a facilitated, structured environment — one that supports a shared mission of thoughtful completion.

    I want to inspire LGBTQ+ people to connect with their creative genius and their inner motivation to define their purpose so that they can use their difference to make a difference.

    Are You a Closet Queer Creative?

    In this episode, I address the issue of feeling bored and unmotivated, and how to applies to LGBTQ people not living out their lives as fully actualized human beings. When we are oppressed, when we self-regulate, we don't create. 

    But it doesn't have to be that way. The Queer Creatives Mastermind is a container for queer minds to support each other’s creative efforts; to foster a community of belonging, one that allows its members to thrive.

    Read the full post on Th-Ink Queerly:

    Inspiration Comes from Within But Support Comes from Other Minds.

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    32 min
  • Furthering my Research into the Development of Queer Leadership

    In this episode, I share the backstory about how the idea for a Queer Leadership began to develop in my mind and how I have arrived at the point where I feel I have the foundations for an evolutionary and transformational Queer Leadership.

    Want to share your thoughts and feelings about what a Queer Leadership might mean to you?

    If you would like to contribute to my research, please complete my Queer Leadership Questionnaire.

    Read the full post on Th-Ink Queerly:

    Furthering my Research into the Development of Queer Leadership

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    14 min
  • My 365-Day Queer Publishing Challenge for 2020
    I plan to publish every day in 2020 about something queer or LGBTQ related.

    This may take the form of a written post, a newsletter, a podcast, or a video. The idea is to share my work on Queer Leadership while I am in the process of creating it.

    What a fantastic way to connect with new people, as well as receive helpful feedback and constructive criticism. This will keep me thinking critically, leading queerly, learning more about what that means, and why it's so important.

    My focus for 2020 will be primarily on researching and writing my book, “The Way of Queer Leadership” but I will speak to other topics as needed, be those insights from my research, relevant LGBTQ issues or news, a book, an article, or thought leader I've discovered, and so on.

    Read the post on Th-Ink Queerly:

    My 365-Day Queer Publishing Challenge for 2020.

    Connect with Darren:
    • Darren Stehle: Coaching for Thought Leaders
    • Subscribe on Apple Podcasts
    • Th-Ink Queerly on Medium
    • Twitter

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    19 min

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