Sometimes we feel very vulnerable and lacking in self-esteem. Sometimes the roots of that go back to our childhood and the kind of affirmation we received then. Sometimes we were showered with affirmation that reminded us how important we were and fed into our confidence. Sometimes either words, or events, or circumstances seriously challenged our sense of self-worth. The good news is that any deficits in our sense of self-worth can be improved. The difficult news is that we have to do it. We can't rely on others to do it now we are grown up.