Third Eye Thoughts

There are multiple factors at work in our brains when we deem someone as ‘attractive’ - including the formation of biases towards or against them. In this episode, we unpack our own experiences with attraction and how its forces can work in several problematic ways. We often don’t hear lookism discussed openly considering the topic is deeply personal, but keeping this topic taboo only makes it stronger. Hear us dive into the toxic culture around physique that social media has inevitable arisen, attractiveness as a template in our minds, and how much of what we see as attractive stems from colonization. We discuss the following resources and recommend them to anyone wanting to learn more:

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In this episode, we discuss the caste system in India - that is, our experience with it as the first gen children of immigrants who moved to the US. Caste has defined our lives, and we’ve also managed to break free from it. Does caste disappear when we leave India? Unfortunately, that’s not an option for everyone. We use different forms of art to guide our thinking: The White Tiger (the book and the movie), A Plate of Moon from the show Food Lore (available on HBO Max), and episode 2 of Lust Stories (available on Netflix). We also examine the recent farmers’ protests in India that have been among the biggest political protests of the century.

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Monogamy is a social construct - therefore, as social creatures, we spend this episode exploring its alternatives. We interview the wonderful Marayah and Nico, who have been on a journey of non-monogamy for over 2 years. With beautiful vulnerability, they tell us about what works for them, what might work for others, and how non-monogamy allows them to choose each other everyday.

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Trigger warning: abuse & abusive relationships. If you prefer to skip ahead, we stop talking about it around the 23 minute mark. Please go to https://www.thehotline.org if you or anyone you know is affected by domestic violence. 

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We continue to reflect on the questions that plague our present dating culture: how do we undo toxic patterns, unlearn the habits we learned in childhood, and talk about the feelings between two people that go unspoken or spoken about in the wrong way? We also dive into our own experiences that raised these questions to begin with.   At the beginning of the episode, we talk about Normal People, which is a novel by Salley Rooney and now a Hulu series by the same name.

https://m.imdb.com/title/tt9059760/

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/41057294

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“If you want to make a human being into a monster, deny them, at the cultural level, any reflection of themselves.” - Junot Diaz

It’s February, the month of love, and there’s no better time to unearth our dreaded experiences with dating. As three South Asian women who feel like we inhabit multiple identities at once, we talk about our personal experiences, the lack of representation of people of color in Western rom-coms, and what that does to our dating culture as a whole.

We mention a great episode of the Hulu series Ramy, which sums up dating as a woman of color: S1 episode 6, “Refugees” as well as a Buzzfeed video on racial preferences in dating.

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A few weeks back, Intelligent Change linked to an article in their newsletter titled Finding Your Life Purpose:

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We discuss our thoughts around Esmé Weijun Wang’s book, The Collected Schizophrenias. The conversation leads to topics such as battling mental health in South Asian culture and cultivating empathy for those with non-visible disabilities.

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