Thirst trapping, but make it a podcast.

Ross realizes the extent of her submerged resentment towards her f*ckbuddy actor dude post-hookup, realizing how he may have been a super undercover f*boy all along and how her own issues played into it. Joey discovers that she’s used every excuse in the book (including COVID) to give into her relationship fears and finally decides to take a chance on meeting IRL again. They both dive into old attachments and past traumas arresting them from finding committed partners, manifesting in either a fear of abandonment or commitment, respectively. Ross gives some helpful tips on how to get out of these past fears and move TF on, while embarking on that journey herself in real time.

A short and sweet chat, as Ross and Joey face their existential woes of dating and ultimately losing enthusiasm for the apps. But cuffing season is fast upon them, so they decide to push outside their swiping comfort zones and try something new to find that cuddlebuddy in time for the holidays.

Joey digs a little deeper into why she’s on the relationship hamster wheel and how to find the exit ramp, while Ross makes a final decision with an on-again-off-again friend with benefits.

Ross reveals a big update while Joey finds herself hitting a wall with the dating apps.  Statistically, you would *think* you'd be able to find someone for a date or two after swiping through literally thousands of profiles per week...however, swiping doesn’t seem to be enough.  If going out and meeting new people in person isn’t an option due to quarantine, and the apps have pushed you to the you’ve-been-on-this-app-for-too-long algorithm, what TF else do you do?  While trying to answer this question, they discover a deep truth which Ross helps put into action, using a radical method she uses in other areas of her life.

Happy 30th Episode!

After scaring away her last 3 matches, Ross decides to dial down her sassy texting style and wonders if she’s being too quick to judge and ghost someone.  While Joey discovers that, though frustrated with the lack of sexual chemistry on FaceTime, it’s actually a plus because the physical distance has kept her from sucking face with men despite glaring red flags.  On the topic of red flags, they both review their list of non-negotiables (Ross's consists of a succinct one she comes up with on the spot, while Joey reveals a four page, single-spaced manifest compiled over years) to determine what define actual deal breakers versus nice-to-haves.

Joey and Ross explore triggers that are holding them back from love.  Joey’s latest match brings her back to high school yesteryear, yielding a therapy hour episode with Ross as said therapist (who, btw, is now well known for giving helpful psychology hacks daily).  She reminds Joey to “remember who TF you are.”  A great friend will always empower you to be the greatest version of yourself and call you out on your bullshit.  Ross, on the other hand, gets triggered in real time as she discovers an old flame is back on Bumble.  While working out their own triggers, they discover ways to mitigate future ones with a few actionable tasks.  If you’re having triggers of your own that make you shy away from relationships, Ross asks some hard hitting questions to help you stop running away and face the music.

While Ross sets her boundaries with a potential new F-boy (like, don’t even come for us, we are the CEOs of F-boy texts), Joey learns the value of pushing through the small talk part of texting, and focusing on green flags. This week, Business Insider did a segment on OnlyFans, a new app for live streaming sex.  Although sex work is nothing new, the validity of prostitution under the guise of feminism and the endorsement of female-empowerment icons for a “hooker” movement, is new.  A possible backlash of the “Me Too” movement, Ross and Joey chat about how to stymie the normalization of sucking unwanted dick for money.

Joey and Ross switch it up and chat about their carefree hoe phases (*swoon*) and delve into their sexual orientations, labels, and the personal stigmas they’ve attached to sex in relationships, unknowingly. Ahhh, sex. Why was casual sex so much less scary just a few years ago?

Ross and Joey continue to explore their own emotional unavailability which seems to cut deeper with every new rejection, no matter how small.  Ross helps Joey combat this by brainstorming a practical solution (new method alerrrt) to reverse the urge to ghost once ghosted. They're both still learning to drop their bullshit pride, and decide to challenge themselves by - *cringe* - double-texting. They realize this faux pas may not only circumvent the initial "playground" stage of talking to someone, but also serve as an empowering antidote in the face of rejection.