Self-care used to mean rest. Now it feels like a routine, a checklist, and sometimes even a competition.

In this episode of This Could’ve Been a Voice Note, we’re unpacking how self-care went from something simple and personal to something expensive, performative, and honestly… overwhelming.

We’re talking about:

• how self-care became tied to spending money
• the pressure to keep up with routines and “soft life” aesthetics
• the difference between actual healing and aesthetic self-care
• why doing more isn’t always making us feel better

If self-care has ever felt like something you have to keep up with instead of something that actually helps you… this conversation is for you.

Because at some point, self-care stopped being about taking care of yourself — and started feeling like pressure.

Ever spiraled into a new hobby so hard you bought every tool, gadget, and supply like you were about to go pro… only to drop it a week later? Yeah, same. In this episode, I’m airing out my closet full of half-used yarn, rhinestones, baking gear, and that one moped I swore I needed. We’re talking impulsive spending, hobby-hopping, and the manic energy that makes me think every interest is a business idea. If you’ve ever said “I could totally make this a side hustle” then gone broke trying—this one’s for you.

m officially deep in my homemade wine era, and baby—it’s fruity, flirty, and full of flavor. In this episode, I spill the tea on my six newest batches: Watermelon Mint, Strawberry Mango, Raspberry Plum, Cherry Pomegranate, Lemon Lime, and Lemon Lavender. From fermentation fails to flavor fantasies, I’m giving you the behind-the-scenes of what it’s like to make

In this episode, I’m sharing the wild story of a night out that quickly went off the rails when one of my friends got way too drunk. just maybe—shots aren’t always the best idea. Tune in for the chaos!

Today I’m talking about the petty drama at my job — you ever had a coworker get you in trouble and then act like you’re the problem? Yeah, it’s giving weird energy.

Tune in to hear about how one dude at work can’t mind his business and how I’m keeping my peace regardless.

I really sat at lunch with my coworkers and didn’t touch a thing. Not even a fry. The way this weight loss plan got me in a chokehold?

Whew… where do I even begin? In this episode, I spill all the messy details about the time I got into it with my dad

My first time behind the wheel was not giving beginner’s luck—it was giving chaos. In this episode, I rant about stealing my dad’s car, fighting with him like we were on a reality show, and how it all went down. If you’ve ever done something dumb and dramatic as hell, this one’s for you.

This one’s straight from the chest. I had a long-ass day, work got me questioning my life choices, and my man? He’s on thin ice. If you’ve ever had to smile through the bullshit just to keep it cute, this episode is for you. It’s giving “I need a vacation and a new life.” Tap in and let me rant real quick.

Things got weird this episode.

The anxiety is loud, the delusions are louder, and somehow we ended up questioning reality… and the concept of money.

It’s chaotic. It’s dramatic. It’s probably concerning