Hello, y'all! Welcome back to "This Is for Us," the space where we come together as a community of friends to share, learn, and grow. I’m genuinely thrilled and grateful to have you here, joining me in another episode where we dive deep into real, raw conversations about life.

Link to FREE Quote Journal - Quote Journal

Follow me on Instagram here: Noel Roberts Coley Instagram

Drop a note on my website https://noelrobertscoley.com/

It's funny how often I find myself thinking about you all. Whether I'm at my kitchen table, doing my makeup, or driving somewhere, you're on my mind. I constantly wonder about our similarities and differences and if you're feeling the same things I am. Recently, I've been feeling a bit "blah" for no particular reason. Sleep hasn't been great, and I've been in a weird mood. It made me think—maybe some of you also feel this way. So, let's talk about shaking off that dreariness and sparking joy in our everyday lives.

Normalizing the "Blah" Days

First off, it's totally normal to have days where you're just not feeling it, even if nothing is explicitly wrong. You're going through the motions but not really feeling excited about anything. It's during these times we need to give ourselves a little push to find happiness in the ordinary.

Simple Joys to Brighten Your Day

When I need to lift my spirits, I think about the little things that bring me joy. Here's what I suggest:

HomeGoods Happiness: A quick trip to HomeGoods can do wonders. It could be something cute or a hint of spring decor. It's about finding joy in the little things.

Music and Movement: Ask Alexa to play your favorite tunes, set a timer for 15 minutes, and tackle a small task like folding laundry or decluttering a space. Dance around if the mood strikes!

Get Out and About: Whether it's grabbing your favorite coffee, taking a brisk walk, or treating yourself to a pedicure, do something that gets you out of the house and breaks the routine.

Connect with Loved Ones: Reach out to a friend who lights up your life. Grab a quick bite, share a margarita, or just scroll through TikTok together. It's about being with someone who makes you happy.

Date Yourself: Sometimes, treating yourself to a cheeseburger or sitting in a cafe with a book is all you need. Remind yourself of your worth and all the amazing things you're doing.

Motivation to Move Forward

We all have those moments where we're too hard on ourselves—critiquing our appearance, doubting our capabilities, or just feeling rundown. It's crucial, especially on these days, to do something that makes us smile and reminds us of the joy in living.

After sharing these thoughts with you, I'm motivated to tackle some of those "blah" feelings myself—starting with finally washing my hair and maybe even decluttering a bit. I hope this episode encourages you to find your own little ways to lift your spirits and rediscover the excitement in everyday life.

Thank you for sharing this time with me, and for being part of this ongoing conversation about life, love, and growth. If today’s discussions sparked a thought, a question, or a story you’d like to share, don’t hesitate to reach out. And if the idea of a retreat where we can connect, unwind, and grow together excites you, drop me a message with the word "retreat." I’m buzzing with excitement at the thought of bringing this dream to life. Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us. 

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hello, y'all! Welcome back to "This Is for Us," the space where we come together as a community of friends to share, learn, and grow. I’m genuinely thrilled and grateful to have you here, joining me in another episode where we dive deep into real, raw conversations about life.

This week, I decided to do something a bit different. Inspired by the questions you've sent through my website and Instagram DMs, I'm answering three of them that struck a chord with me. Your privacy is paramount, so rest assured, that all questions are presented anonymously.

Link to FREE Quote Journal - Quote Journal

Follow me on Instagram here: Noel Roberts Coley Instagram

Drop a note on my website https://noelrobertscoley.com/

Now, let’s dive into your questions.

Navigating High School as an OutsiderThe first question comes from a 16-year-old feeling out of place in a small-town high school. Facing mockery and isolation, they ponder the idea of homeschooling as an escape. My heart goes out to you. Being targeted for being different is painful, but it’s crucial to remember your worth and potential. Homeschooling is an option, but consider it for the right reasons. Explore avenues within your school to connect with like-minded individuals or groups that appreciate you for who you are. Remember, true friends will embrace your uniqueness, not scorn it.

A Single Mom’s Creative Crossroads

 A 37-year-old single mother shared her struggle with juggling a draining job while yearning to pursue her creative talents. To you, I say: your resilience and dedication to providing for your family already set a magnificent example for your daughter. To transition into a more fulfilling career, start small. Channel your talents into a side project or hobby that could evolve into a business. Every small step forward on this journey will bring you closer to living your dreams, proving to your daughter that it’s never too late to chase what truly makes you happy.

Growing Apart in a Relationship

The last question for today addresses personal growth and its impact on a relationship. A listener finds herself evolving, pursuing new goals and interests, which has created a rift with her boyfriend who longs for the person she was in college. Open, honest communication is key here. Share your feelings, aspirations, and desire for him to grow alongside you. If he’s the right partner, he’ll want to share in your journey, not hold you back. Remember, it’s okay to outgrow relationships that no longer align with your path.

These questions reflect just a fraction of the diverse experiences and challenges we face in our journey through life. By sharing and discussing them, we seek answers and remind ourselves of the strength and support found within our community.

Thank you for sharing this time with me, for being part of this ongoing conversation about life, love, and growth. If today’s discussions sparked a thought, a question, or a story you’d like to share, don’t hesitate to reach out. And if the idea of a retreat where we can connect, unwind, and grow together excites you, drop me a message with the word "retreat." I’m buzzing with excitement at the thought of bringing this dream to life. Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us. 

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hello, y'all! Welcome back to "This Is For Us," where authenticity and heartfelt conversations pave the way for our journey together. Today's episode ventures into a realm that's deeply personal yet universally resonant: navigating the complexities of grief and loss, alongside the unexpected beauty that can emerge from our darkest times. As we explore the profound contrasts of life, remember, everything shared comes from a place of truth and experience, hoping to reach someone who needs to hear it.

Link to FREE Quote Journal - Quote Journal

Follow me on Instagram here: Noel Roberts Coley Instagram

The Journey Through Grief

The loss of my father-in-law recently shook my world and left me speechless. This experience has reminded me of the importance of embracing our feelings, of truly living through our grief rather than bypassing it. It's a path that promises healing, albeit through pain.

Finding Support in Sorrow

In these dark times, the support and love from friends and the community have been a beacon of light. It's reminded me that even in our lowest moments, connections and shared kindness can bring solace and strength.

Acts of Kindness and Connection

This episode serves as a reminder to reach out, to be that source of support for someone else. Whether it’s a call, a message, or a simple gesture, your act of kindness can be a lifeline for someone struggling in silence.

Cherish Every Moment

Life’s fleeting nature teaches us to hold our loved ones close, to express love and gratitude openly, and not to take any moment for granted. Let’s make every interaction count, remembering that everyone carries their own hidden battles.

In Conclusion

Though today’s topic comes from a place of loss, it’s also about finding hope, strength, and renewal on the other side of grief. Thank you for walking this path with me, for being a part of our community, where realness and compassion are at the heart of our conversations.

Until next time, take care and keep cherishing those around you. Remember, we're in this together, and through sharing our stories, we find common ground and healing because This Is For Us. 

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hello, y'all! Welcome back to This Is For Us, where we tackle the complexities of personal experiences, relationships, and the journey toward self-acceptance. To help us navigate these complex waters, I've created a resource just for you - the Quote Journal. It's free and designed to offer solace and inspiration during those tumultuous times. You're not alone in this journey, and that's precisely why This Is For Us exists.

Link to FREE Quote Journal - Quote Journal

Follow me on Instagram here: Noel Roberts Coley Instagram

Today, we're delving into how we navigate the waters of opinions, judgment, and sometimes betrayal, all while striving to remain true to ourselves. If you've ever felt weighed down by others' opinions or struggled to maintain your sense of self amidst criticism, this episode is for you. 

In our lives, especially as women, we've all faced moments where someone's words or actions have hurt us. Whether we're the subject of rumors, feel judged, or experience the sting of betrayal, these situations can profoundly affect our self-esteem and how we view ourselves. But today, I want to shift the narrative and offer a perspective that empowers us to rise above the noise and embrace our true selves.

Key Takeaways:

You Are Enough: Have you ever felt like you aren't enough, no matter what you do? The feeling of inadequacy can be overwhelming, from personal relationships to professional settings. But here's the truth: you are enough, exactly as you are. Someone else's approval or rejection doesn't determine your worth.

The Ripest Peach Theory: A vital lesson to remember is that you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there will still be someone who doesn't like peaches. This analogy beautifully encapsulates the idea that we can't be everything to everyone - and that's okay. Our value stays the same because someone fails to recognize it.

Self-Reflection and Empowerment: When faced with negativity or rejection, it is crucial to reflect on our intentions and actions. If we live with purity and goodness in our hearts, we've done all we can. The opinions of others should not have the power to define us or diminish our light.

Letting Go of What Doesn't Serve Us: Sometimes, people and situations exit our lives, leaving us hurt and confused. It's essential to understand that not everyone is meant to stay forever. Some relationships are only meant to teach us lessons or prepare us for better things. Letting go can be painful, but it also opens up space for new, positive experiences and relationships.

Building a Supportive Community: In a world that can often feel isolating, building a community of like-minded individuals who uplift and support each other is priceless. That's why I'm dreaming of creating a retreat for us - a space where we can be authentic, free from judgment and filled with love and acceptance. If you're interested in being a part of this journey, reach out and let me know.

In Conclusion:

Navigating the complexities of relationships and dealing with negativity is a part of life, but it doesn't have to define us. We can overcome any challenge by remembering our worth, embracing our true selves, and surrounding ourselves with positivity. Remember, you're not alone in this journey. "This Is For Us" is more than just a podcast; it's a community where we can find strength, comfort, and connection.

Remember, this episode is a reminder that you're not alone in feeling the weight of others' opinions. Here at "This Is For Us," we're building a community where your experiences are validated and your journey towards self-acceptance is celebrated. Until next time, take care, and remember: This Is For Us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hello, y'all. And welcome back to This Is For Us!

Today, I'm diving deep into something personal yet universally relatable: the facade we often present to the world versus our actual experiences and feelings. It's a reminder that despite the smiles and perfect snapshots on social media, there's often much more happening behind the scenes. To help us navigate these complex waters, I've created a resource just for you - the Quote Journal. It's free and designed to offer solace and inspiration during those tumultuous times. You're not alone in this journey, and that's precisely why This Is For Us exists. 

https://noelrobertscoley.myflodesk.com/journal

https://www.instagram.com/noelrobertscoley/

Takeaways from this episode:

As I reflected on recent events, especially the insightful yet emotionally charged gathering at Bentley Medical, I was reminded of the profound lessons hidden beneath the surface of our day-to-day lives. These lessons have significantly shifted my perspective on the contrast between appearance and reality: 

1. The Illusion of Perfection: Social media can often trick us into believing everyone else's life is flawless. Yet, as I shared my struggles with a skin breakout just hours before a highly anticipated event, I was reminded of the power of authenticity. Embracing our imperfections can lead to deeper connections and a more authentic sense of self.

2. Finding Strength in Vulnerability: The support and understanding I received at Bentley Medical, despite my earlier anxiety and distress, taught me the invaluable lesson that vulnerability is not a weakness but a bridge to genuine connections. It's okay not always to be okay, and sharing our true selves can light the way for others to do the same.

3. Life's Beautiful Contrasts: Through the highs and lows, I've come to appreciate life's beautiful contrasts. The challenges we face, like the skin issues I battled, remind us that growth often comes from discomfort. These experiences shape our stories, making them uniquely ours.

 4. The Promise of Renewal: Just as March symbolizes a fresh start and the promise of spring, each day offers us a chance to begin anew. Regardless of yesterday's struggles, there's always hope and beauty waiting to be discovered. Embracing each day's dualities, with its potential for joy and pain, teaches us resilience and gratitude.

 As we navigate through the complexities of life, remembering that things are not always as they seem, let's take solace in our shared experiences. Let's cherish the moments of connection, learn from our challenges, and move forward with a sense of hope and renewal.

 Thank you for being here with me, for sharing this space where we can be our true selves, free from judgment and pretense. This Is For Us is more than just a podcast; it's a community, a sanctuary, and a reminder that together, we can face anything.

 I'm looking forward to our continued journey, exploring the depths of our experiences and finding light even in the darkest of times. Here's to embracing the real, the raw, and the beautiful in all aspects of our lives.

 I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hello, y'all. And welcome back to This is for Us! 

In this episode, I share the roller coaster my gym recently experienced at Cheersport. It’s a great example of how unexpected life lessons can teach us important mindset shifts if we are willing to learn from them. Of course, no one likes to be disappointed or frustrated, but it happens. And being prepared for the “what ifs” is what it takes to walk through those unexpected times. It’s one of the many reasons I created the Quote Journal. It’s a free resource - for YOU - so you can navigate the storms of life. You know you don’t have to do it alone. I’m here, and it’s precisely the reason I created this podcast because: This Is For Us! 

Link to FREE Quote Journal: https://noelrobertscoley.myflodesk.com/journal

Takeaways from this episode: 

 As February drew to a close, I promised myself to leave the darkness behind and welcome March as a symbol of hope and renewal. Despite struggling with sleep and grappling with my thoughts, the dawn of March 1st represented a fresh start, an opportunity to shed the weight of the previous month and embrace the brighter days ahead.

Pressure is not always a bad thing. In reflecting on recent experiences, particularly with cheerleading, I've distilled three key lessons that have helped me navigate through adversity:

1. Pressure is a Privilege: Inspired by Billie Jean King's words, I've learned to view pressure not as a burden but as a testament to our capabilities and potential. It serves as a reminder that obstacles frequently accompany opportunities for growth and success, pushing us to succeed and capitalize on our strengths.

2. The Beauty of Contrast: A fulfilling life isn't comprised solely of perfect outcomes. The contrasts between good and bad, light and dark, define our experiences and shape our character. Through adversity, we learn resilience and find strength, crafting a narrative that's uniquely ours.

3. Embracing Life's Dualities: Life's beauty and hardships coexist, offering life lessons in gratitude and resilience. Appreciating the roses among the thorns is essential, recognizing that both success and failure contribute to our growth and understanding of the world.

As we step into March, I'm reminded of Erin Hansen's words, which echo the promise of renewal and the endless cycle of seasons. Life's unpredictable nature, with its highs and lows, shapes our journey, encouraging us to persevere through the coldest winters in anticipation of spring's warmth and new beginnings.

Life’s lessons are shared through tears and triumphs, a testament to our collective strength and the transformative power of sharing our stories. As we navigate life's complexities, let's remind ourselves of the brighter days ahead, fostering a community of support and understanding.

Thank you for being a part of this journey with me. I'm eager to continue our conversations, sharing our experiences, and learning from each other. Here's to a March filled with hope, growth, and brighter days for all of us.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Highlights:

[04:05:7] Listener Question

[08:22:5] Friendship Is A Two-Way Street

[09:15:8] What Friendship Is

[11:13:6] When To Set The Boundary

[18:12:2] Stand Up For Yourself

Hello, y'all. And welcome back to *This is for Us*. 

This week, I’m answering a listener’s questions sent to me through Instagram. I love it when I hear from y’all, and you send me questions. That’s precisely why I started this podcast and my goal for our community.  

What does it mean to be a friend? How do you learn to set boundaries? These are just some questions I’ll address in this week’s episode. I’ve realized the hard way why boundaries are important. My journey towards self-empowerment has not been easy, but it’s been so worth it! And I’m here to stand beside you while you learn where your boundaries are and how to set them. 

You are not alone in your struggles. I’m here to support you along your self-empowerment journey. You can overcome obstacles and learn to believe in yourself. You are worth it! The podcast is a safe space for reflection and personal growth. This community is here for you! We can build each other up as we cheer each other on. 

 I hope you love this episode xoxo

Highlights:

[01:00:6] Cheer Sport Week

[04:03:3] Valentine’s Day -  Finding Balance Amidst Chaos

[09:09:2] Reality vs. Social Media

[14:45:2] Sharing Personal Struggles

[27:31:5] Finding Strength in Shared Experiences

Hello, y'all. And welcome back to *This is for Us*. 

It is really freaking early here in Knoxville. And that is also because it is cheer sport week, and in my world of all-star cheerleading, it's a really big deal. It's something that we work for and push towards for months. It is one of the biggest weeks of our year, and this year, we are taking a ton of teams there and having really long days. Our first team starts around 7 a.m. so that we will be going until well after 10 p.m. with teams competing. So, I've been trying to practice. I'm not an early morning person, but I also work really late. I stay up really late. So, it will be a little bit crazy for just what I'm used to this weekend. So, send all the positive vibes our way. Be thinking about us this weekend.

This past Valentine's Day, I found myself reflecting on the complexities of life and love. As I stood in the doorway of my home, exhausted from another late night at the gym, I was greeted by a scene that warmed and weighed on my heart. My husband, Alan, had fallen asleep on the couch, waiting for me to return so we could share a meal together. It was a simple gesture, but it spoke volumes about the challenges we face in balancing our personal and professional lives.

Social media can be a double-edged sword, offering glimpses of perfection while concealing the messy realities of life. As Valentine's Day approached, I observed the flood of posts celebrating picture-perfect relationships, extravagant gifts, and romantic gestures. But behind the facade of perfection lies a truth that many of us are all too familiar with: life is messy, and love is imperfect.

In sharing my own struggles and insecurities, I hope to remind others that they are not alone. Whether you're a mom, a wife, a girlfriend, or simply navigating life alone, we all experience moments of doubt, fear, and vulnerability. It's okay to cry, to feel overwhelmed, and to admit that life isn't always perfect.

As I prepare for another busy weekend at the gym, I am reminded of the power of vulnerability and the strength that comes from sharing our experiences with others. Whether celebrating our successes or navigating life's challenges, we are stronger together. So, let's continue to support and uplift one another, embracing our imperfections and finding strength in our shared humanity.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Hey everyone, it's been an eventful week over here, and I'm thrilled to share some personal stories and thoughts on Valentine's Day with you all.

First off, I had a cheerleading mishap a few years back that damaged my earlobe, but I've finally had it repaired and got my ears re-pierced, including a new helix piercing which, surprisingly, hasn't been painful at all. I also tried eyebrow lamination and tinting, which is a new experience for me, and I'm waiting to see how I feel about the darker look.

On a more sentimental note, it's my golden doodle Pailin's 10th birthday. Reflecting on our time together, she's been with me through thick and thin, and I'm incredibly grateful for her companionship. It's amazing how much we've both grown and the unconditional love she's given me.

With Valentine's Day around the corner, I want to shift the focus from the commercial aspect and talk about love in all its forms. Whether it's self-love, love for friends, family, or even strangers, it's important to recognize and celebrate it. I encourage you to be your own Valentine or to perform random acts of kindness to spread love to others.

I've had my share of lonely Valentine's Days, but I've learned to make the day special by showing love to others. One year, I left $20 bills with notes for strangers to find, which brought me immense joy. So, whether you're single or in a relationship, make Valentine's Day about all the love in your life, not just romantic love.

Remember, you have the power to make someone feel seen and loved. Let's use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to spread light and love in any way we can. And if you do something special or have ideas to share, I'd love to hear from you on Instagram.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Highlights:

[00:00:34] Hoop earring mishap and earlobe repair.

[00:03:53] A golden doodle ornament.

[00:09:14] Love and motherhood.

[00:12:34] Spreading love through random acts.

[00:16:25] Being single on Valentine's Day.

[00:19:13] Valentine's Day and self-love.

[00:22:44] Making Valentine's Day meaningful.

In today's episode, I dive deep into the topic of drama, particularly within the world of women and teenage girls. As someone who owns an all-star cheerleading business, I'm constantly surrounded by females of all ages, and I've witnessed both the beauty and the ugliness of these relationships. I'm a staunch advocate for women supporting each other, but I also recognize the toxic "bubble" that can form, leading to gossip, rumors, and mean-spirited behavior.

I address those who are victims of drama, urging them not to give power to the perpetrators. It's essential to challenge oneself to rise above the negativity, to attend events despite the fear of judgment, and to remember that often, the issue is with just a few individuals rather than everyone.

For those who find themselves spreading rumors or being part of the problem, I call for self-reflection and change. It's never too late to apologize and make amends. I emphasize the importance of being a role model, especially for mothers and those in influential positions.

I passionately argue that being a "mean girl" isn't cool, and that true beauty lies in kindness and inner strength. I encourage listeners to protect others' names in their absence, to be inclusive, and to stand up for what's right. It's about creating a community where we support each other through tough times, without judgment or assumptions.

I also touch on the idea that we all have our own internal struggles and insecurities, and it's unfair to add to someone else's burden by being cruel. Instead, we should focus on being good humans, spreading love and positivity, and being lights in the darkness.

I call for an end to the "mean girl" culture and for a shift towards a narrative of empowerment, support, and genuine friendship. I want listeners to walk into any room with their heads held high, knowing their worth, and refusing to let anyone else's negativity define them. My hope is that this episode inspires you to embrace your value, to be a beacon of positivity, and to always remember how incredible you are.

I hope you love this episode xoxo

Highlights:

[00:01:03] Drama between women and girls.

[00:04:10] Overcoming the influence of others.

[00:08:34] Banding together against mean girls.

[00:11:56] Spreading rumors and hurting others.

[00:15:47] Being kind to others.

[00:19:20] Mean Girls and Self-Worth.

[00:23:25] Taking up freaking space.