Do you ever feel like you are holding yourself back… even when you know you are capable of more? Do you find yourself over-giving, undercharging, second-guessing, doubting, shrinking, apologizing, or feeling “not enough”?

Most women call it imposter syndrome, insecurity, or self-doubt…

But according to trauma-informed healer Emma Lyons, there is something much deeper at play:

In this transformative episode of Unbreakable Mompreneurs, host Charisse Walker sits down with Emma Lyons to uncover the truth behind negative self-talk, visibility fears, perfectionism, burnout patterns, people-pleasing, money blocks, and the “do more, be more, prove more” pressure that so many women carry.

Emma calls this internal voice “the inner narcissist” — a toxic shame imprint created by culture, religion, family systems, and survival conditioning. And she reveals why mindset work, affirmations, journaling, or traditional therapy often do NOT fix it… because this pattern lives deeper, in your nervous system and cellular memory.

Emma breaks down how shame activates survival responses that block success, visibility, productivity, and emotional freedom.

From original sin to narcissistic family dynamics, Emma exposes how shame became normalized… and why it is toxic in any amount.

Visibility blocks are not mindset issues — they are trauma responses encoded into your nervous system.

If you struggle to charge your worth, ask for more, or feel confident in your value, Emma explains exactly why.

It is not being “nice” — it is a survival strategy rooted in shame and fear of abandonment.

Our culture trains women to be small, quiet, good, and self-sacrificing — and Emma dismantles those lies one by one.

Emma shares her B-R-E-A-K process, including:

B — Break the TranceRecognize that the shame voice is not you.

R — Refuse to EngageUse the DEEP method (Don’t defend, engage, explain, or personalize).

E — Expose the LieCall out the false programming that has controlled you.

A — Anchor in Your BodyRegulate your nervous system and reclaim internal safety.

K — Kick It OutEvict the inner narcissist and step into your authentic power.

This process alone is life-changing.

If you are building a business, leading a family, and trying to show up powerfully in the world, shame will sabotage you every time:

• You will charge too little

• You will hide your gifts

• You will fear judgment

• You will stay small

• You will over-give to feel “worthy”

• You will attract clients who mirror your shame wounds

• You will hustle instead of receive

Healing shame is the foundation for confidence, money flow, visibility, aligned business growth, and genuine self-love.

Emma Lyons is a trauma-informed healer and founder of The Trauma Matrix, where she helps women dismantle the internalized shame voice that sabotages their success, relationships, and emotional freedom. Her work is a powerful blend of deep healing, nervous system liberation, and truth-telling that helps women reclaim their power and authenticity.

Download Emma’s free guide:
👉 Five Signs It Is Time to Break Up with Your Inner Narcissist
tinyurl.com/not-today-narc

Follow her on Instagram: @iamtrauma.matrix

Real Estate | Lending | Author of Flipping the Iceberg | Unbreakable Mompreneurs Podcast
Website: www.charissewalker.com

You have internalized a shame-based voice that does not belong to you — and it is running your life.

✨ What You Will Learn in This Episode

• Why shame — not imposter syndrome — is the root of self-sabotage

• How Western culture taught us to internalize “I am bad,” “I am wrong,” and “I am not enough”

• Why you shrink, hide, procrastinate, or resist being seen

• How shame creates money blocks, undercharging, and over-giving

• The truth about people-pleasing• Why women carry more shame programming than men

✨ Emma’s BREAK Method to Escape the Shame Trap✨ Why This Conversation Matters for Mompreneurs✨ About Emma Lyons✨ Connect with Your Host, Charisse Walker