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This Is Why You Can’t Move On: Trust, Trauma, and the Real Reason You’re Still Angry
Episode 3: This Is Why You Can’t Move On — Trust, Trauma, and the Real Reason You’re Still Angry
What breaks trust in a relationship isn’t just what happened—it’s how it was perceived.
In this episode, Dr. Kat breaks down the anatomy of trust: how it’s built, how it gets violated, and why so many people stay stuck in patterns of resentment, anxiety, or emotional distance—even long after the damage is done.
From betrayal and cheating to financial dishonesty and emotional instability, she explores how unhealed trauma shapes your reactions, erodes communication, and bleeds into your current relationship—even if your current partner didn’t cause the hurt.
Whether you’ve been cheated on, lied to, or just feel like you’re always waiting for the next emotional shoe to drop, this episode will give you clarity—and a way forward.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 – Welcome + What today’s episode is about
01:34 – Trust is the core of every relationship—not love
01:51 – The emotional safety checklist: don’t harm, don’t destabilize
02:53 – Talking behind your partner’s back: why it’s a quiet trust killer
04:29 – Cheating, affairs, and the truth about “perception vs. event”
07:35 – How financial betrayal or lies can create long-term trauma
09:05 – PTSD, stress responses, and why your partner’s reactions may feel “too big”
11:55 – “Bleeding on someone who didn’t cut you” — past trauma in present relationships
18:25 – Trust in the workplace - executive coaching
19:09 – Trader Joe’s and trust: how daily stability builds credibility
20:28 – Choose who you let in. Protect your peace. Don’t give value spots to people who treat you like an option
22:44 – Choose to bring happiness into your life
22:57 – Have a question? Visit www.ChatWithDrKat.com
I want to hear from you! To submit show ideas or be considered as a guest, visit https://chatwithdrkat.com/contact/
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By Dr. Kat Derrig-PalumboEpisode 3: This Is Why You Can’t Move On — Trust, Trauma, and the Real Reason You’re Still Angry
What breaks trust in a relationship isn’t just what happened—it’s how it was perceived.
In this episode, Dr. Kat breaks down the anatomy of trust: how it’s built, how it gets violated, and why so many people stay stuck in patterns of resentment, anxiety, or emotional distance—even long after the damage is done.
From betrayal and cheating to financial dishonesty and emotional instability, she explores how unhealed trauma shapes your reactions, erodes communication, and bleeds into your current relationship—even if your current partner didn’t cause the hurt.
Whether you’ve been cheated on, lied to, or just feel like you’re always waiting for the next emotional shoe to drop, this episode will give you clarity—and a way forward.
⏱️ Chapters
00:00 – Welcome + What today’s episode is about
01:34 – Trust is the core of every relationship—not love
01:51 – The emotional safety checklist: don’t harm, don’t destabilize
02:53 – Talking behind your partner’s back: why it’s a quiet trust killer
04:29 – Cheating, affairs, and the truth about “perception vs. event”
07:35 – How financial betrayal or lies can create long-term trauma
09:05 – PTSD, stress responses, and why your partner’s reactions may feel “too big”
11:55 – “Bleeding on someone who didn’t cut you” — past trauma in present relationships
18:25 – Trust in the workplace - executive coaching
19:09 – Trader Joe’s and trust: how daily stability builds credibility
20:28 – Choose who you let in. Protect your peace. Don’t give value spots to people who treat you like an option
22:44 – Choose to bring happiness into your life
22:57 – Have a question? Visit www.ChatWithDrKat.com
I want to hear from you! To submit show ideas or be considered as a guest, visit https://chatwithdrkat.com/contact/
Follow Chat with Dr. Kat:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chatwithdrkat
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chatwithdrkat
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@chatwithdrkat
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@chatwithdrkat
X: https://x.com/ChatwithDrKat
Health & Wellness Programs:
https://mindbodyseries.com/