In this episode I dive into how our perceptions and the stories we create in our minds can control our behavior and reactions in relationships. Often, we’re not responding to what’s actually happening but to the narrative we’ve built around it. I share a personal example from my relationship with Walt, where I realized I was reacting to a story rather than what was happening in the moment. I'll explore how to recognize when you’re caught in a narrative, why releasing that story is essential for closeness, and how you can step back into the present moment with your partner. I’ll also share a few practical tips to help you break free from those stories and foster a deeper connection.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

•How the mind creates stories that distort reality.

•The impact these stories have on your behavior and reactions in relationships.

•How to recognize whether you’re reacting to a story or the present moment.

•Tips for letting go of your story to stay connected with your partner.

•Why releasing your own narrative is key to building closeness and trust.

Episode Highlights:

• A personal example from my relationship with Walt and how I realized I was reacting to a story, not reality.

• How to recognize the signs of being caught in a mental narrative.

•Tips to let go of your story and stay present with your partner.

Tune in and learn how to break free from the stories in your head and build a more present, connected relationship.

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In this episode, I’m sharing a personal story about a moment in my relationship that challenged me to rethink how I show up with affection and vulnerability. When Walt brought up how I was responding to his attempts for affection, my initial reaction was resistance and blame. I’ll walk you through the feelings that surfaced, how I realized my judgments were based on old memories and past fears, and the breakthrough that came from leaning into vulnerability.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

•The power of pausing and reflecting before reacting to your partner

•Why past fears can build walls in your current relationship

•How to shift from judgment to curiosity and openness

•The importance of being present and vulnerable to build trust and closeness

You’ll leave this episode with a new perspective on how your past experiences may be impacting your ability to connect with your partner, and how practicing presence and vulnerability can help rebuild trust and intimacy.

Listen now to learn how being present and vulnerable can lead to deeper connection in your relationship.

Key Highlights:

•The conversation with Walt that sparked this insight

•Why we often feel defensive when our partner asks for more

•How old memories can shape our present reactions

•What happens when we choose vulnerability over protection

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In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we’re diving into the idea of “unspoken agreements” in relationships—those expectations we carry around in our minds without even realizing it. We explore how these unspoken agreements can create tension and frustration when our partners don’t live up to the rules we’ve set in our heads.

I share a personal story about how these unspoken expectations showed up in my own relationship and the surprising lessons I learned. Plus, I’ll give you practical tips on how to bring these expectations out into the open, communicate more effectively, and build a stronger connection with your partner.

What You’ll Learn:

•What unspoken agreements are and how they can silently undermine your relationship.

•The importance of recognizing and communicating your expectations.

•Real-life examples of how unspoken agreements can play out in relationships.

•Actionable strategies for breaking the cycle of frustration and fostering better communication.

Reflection Questions:

•What unspoken agreements might you be holding onto in your relationship?

•How have these expectations affected your interactions with your partner?

•What steps can you take to communicate your needs and expectations more clearly?

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In this episode of This Isn’t Working, we explore the power of turning your focus inward when you find yourself reacting to your partner. Meg shares a personal story about a recent experience with her partner, Walt, where she found herself caught up in trying to control an external situation which really had nothing to do with her feelings.

Instead of continuing the cycle of reactivity, she realized the importance of shifting her attention back to herself, where she has control over her emotions and responses. This episode dives into how old patterns and stories from the past can trigger unnecessary stress and conflict in relationships—and how you can break free from that loop by taking responsibility for your own feelings.

**Key Takeaways:**

- How focusing on external factors (like your partner’s actions) can increase stress and anxiety.

- The benefits of turning inward and taking responsibility for your own emotions.

- How past experiences can create stories that drive reactivity, and how to recognize when this is happening.

- Practical questions you can ask yourself to shift from reacting to reflecting.

**Reflection Questions:**  

To help you on your journey of self-awareness, here are some key reflection questions mentioned in this episode:

1. What am I feeling right now, and why?

2. What part of this situation is triggering me?

3. What story am I telling myself about my partner’s actions?

4. Am I making assumptions about my partner’s intentions?

5. How can I show understanding or compassion in this moment?

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The Trap of "Should": We explore how the tendency to behave in ways we think we "should" or that are "good" for others can lead us away from our true selves. This disconnection from authenticity is a major contributor to feeling lonely in a relationship.

People-Pleasing and Boundaries: Learn how actions driven by obligation, people-pleasing, or an inability to say "no" can create a barrier between who we really are and who our partners think we are. When we sacrifice our true selves, we compromise our emotional intimacy and connection.

The Illusion of Connection: Discover how our partners may unknowingly fall in love with our behaviors rather than our true selves, leading to a sense of loneliness and disconnection.

The Role of Integrity: We discuss the importance of integrity in relationships—acting in alignment with who we truly are rather than manipulating situations, even unintentionally, to control the reactions of others.

What to Do: This episode offers practical suggestions for how to reconnect with your authentic self and bring that into your relationship, creating a deeper, more genuine connection with your partner.

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