In this birthday episode, I’m reflecting on what it actually means to feel good in your body as you get older and why, at 46, I feel more confident, connected, and yes, hotter than I ever did in my 20s or 30s. Looking back at my 2016 “before” photo, the hardest part for me wasn’t being 75 pounds heavier. It was how disconnected and depleted I felt in my body. I didn’t fully realize how bad it was until I started feeling better, and that disconnection quietly spilled into every part of my life, including intimacy, which became another exhausting “should” instead of something I actually wanted.
Today, intimacy feels completely different for me, and it has nothing to do with having more time, less stress, or a “perfect” life. I’m still a busy single mom running a business, but I built a body and a life that actually supports me. In this episode, I share how reducing my mental load, addressing decision fatigue, and creating real systems (yes, unsexy systems) helped me feel safer, more present, and more comfortable in my own skin. When your body isn’t chronically overwhelmed, it finally has space to relax, connect, and enjoy intimacy again.
This episode isn’t just about sex, it’s about what changes when you stop treating exhaustion as normal and start setting your life up to support your body. I break down the simple decision-making framework I use with my clients to delegate, delete, schedule, and focus on what truly matters, and how these shifts impact everything from energy and weight loss to confidence and desire. If you’ve felt disconnected from your body or chalked it up to “this is just how it is after 40,” I want you to know it doesn’t have to be that way. Feeling good in your body isn’t a nice bonus—it’s the result.
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