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This episode explores the art of this ceremonial necessity of Reconciliation - and how it is possible only if it is mutual, but that we can lead with the invitation.

In a second of a 4 part series on ending cycles, and the ceremonies of closure and processing we need to observe to allow ourselves to fully move forward.

Reconciliation is not about trading forgiveness, it is about Understanding. It's about acknowledging our past actions and working through the consequences they have had on our relationships. It requires courage to recognize our own failings and willingness to improve upon them. It is not an act performed in solitude, but rather, a willing dance between two, stepping in rhythm with one another.

We never get taught the art of reconciliation. It is an art, and its canvas and easel are acknowledgement of the human experience of the other, and an acceptance of the necessary relationship between boundaries and healing, and of the appreciation of relative perspective.

My Friend

My friend. 

I do not ask you for forgiveness, 

nor for an apology. 

In that currency, 

let there be no fare

between us. 

I do not want for forgiveness, 

for I must forgive myself.

Do not ask me for forgiveness;

it was our great mistake 

to believe it is another’s to give.

I will tell you what it is that I want,

what my heart truly desires,

it is reconciliation;

between me and the all, 

and also between all things with each Other.

And I see fit to begin here, 

between you and I.

To be reconciled, 

we would earn and give the blessing

of being seen more fully

and thereby understood. 

Being that it always was 

ever and only ignorance

and pain

that lead us to the first wounding 

and the first spite.

And I would know 

that you are no longer ignorant, 

because I feel that I am not.

I have learned firstly 

that we are not always right, 

and that even when we are, 

we are not always kind.

And secondly, 

that good walls make good neighbors,

but the boundary needs careful mending

from both sides.

And I would make a stile 

between your fields

and mine

and with you, 

share its keep.

And I would know,

that you, by grace,

learned how to hold the pain 

you were given to carry, 

or perhaps 

how to let it go.

Because i know that I have.

And most of all,

there are treasures and keys 

and secrets and rare signs

and gems of humour 

that of all the people on this wide earth, 

I can only share with you.

© Rocco Jarman , March 2023

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In this deeply personal episode, I invite you to delve with me into profound themes of loss, transformation, forgiveness, and personal growth. Drawing from my own experiences and reflections encapsulated in a powerful piece I wrote about forgiveness, which is not just a bunch of words, but a vehicle that many friends and clients have found profound utility in, in their own journeys, getting ready to let go of who we were and what got us, here, and those we loved and who loved us into the person we are today. We look into the heart of the human experience and the transformative power of letting go.

The episode reflects on the essential role that loss and tension play in our personal transformation. Together, we explore the profound notion of "I release you, so that you may release me," discussing the interconnectedness of forgiveness, compassion, and self-love.

We unpack the concept of wholeness, not just as a state of being but as a gift that we give and receive. As we each embrace our unique paths, we learn to honor our scars as symbols of resilience, carriers of understanding, and harbingers of transformation.

Join me for this soul-nourishing episode that promises to leave you with a newfound appreciation for your personal journey and the transformative power of release. As we journey through a thoughtful exploration of love, loss, and growth, we are reminded that we are free, we are whole, and above all else, we are human.

Loss is a necessary part of change, change a necessary part of Growth.

The secret aim of all tension is Transformation.

Transcript of PRAYER FOR LETTING GO:  https://www.instagram.com/p/CpfAv4hvVKW/

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The core of the episode covers the idea that our work, our healing, our growth, begins with us. It is a powerful call to action. It advocates for the transformative power of self-understanding, self-compassion, and love in facilitating personal growth and meaningful relationships.

- The first in a series of shorter episodes, transcriptions from my work I have been trickle-feeding via Instagram for some years, in the project of self-ownership, and self-directed evolution.

We also cover the drag-down effect of social media and any other low-brow relationship or environment and the responsibility we have to curate that.
 

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An invitation to the MojoDojo, a session I ran to break away from the tedium of learning and lessons, a session is devoted to stopping, to leaving things alone, to coming to stillness and opening ourselves again to the Invitation, to the Deeper Conversation. We spend our hour together in reflection.

We explore the idea of Rewilding: a concept of honouring the process and grace of Nature, letting a place alone so Nature can re-establish itself. We come to a stillness, like coming to a sacred well, not to drink from an outside source, but to drink from our inner wellspring, even as we fill it with our allowing, and our being.

Secretly we are all longing for Belonging. We are in a desperate search for Meaning and Purpose. And we fill every space and every silence with urgent questions and hurried answers, and we end up taking shallow sips, and brushing right past the deep and ancient wellspring from which our true sense of nourishment and belonging actually stems.
 

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A thought-provoking insight about the enabling technology of AI and Machine Learning, and how, so often the way we walk through change and unfamiliar terrain has more to do with our stance and less with the very narrow question of whether it is good or bad.

We discuss how humans tend to immediately nucleate into camps and talk in convicted charged ways about things we don't take the time to fully understand before forging an opinion, and tend to miss a broader perspective on the issue than the simple binary of whether it is good or bad.

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In this reflections episode, we examine two prosaic pieces from my new book Keeper of the Flame, a Message from Tomorrow (available on Amazon)

These two pieces, under the titles, Letters to the Vigilant and Letters to the Sensitive, offer a strident critque of the current divisive far-left and far-right political signal and the state of dysfunction we are encountering in how those signals are boosted into social media to engage and madden the crowd.

The first piece explores the human obligation of listening to diverse voices and engaging in constructive dialogue, even when we disagree with them. It criticises the power of the mob, of cancel culture on both sides of the ailse, how the silencing of dissenting opinions and warns of the dangers of groupthink and mob mentality. 

The second piece urges specifically the woke, and the religious fundamentalists, to become resilient enough to face life's challenges with strength and compassion, while cautioning against becoming too sensitive to the words and ideas of others. It also warns of the dangers of those who seek to gain power through the persecution of others. 

Together, these pieces challenge us to move beyond the divisive rhetoric of the far-left and far-right and instead, promote open-mindedness, critical thinking, and respectful dialogue.

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Eyes Wide Open Life has just made a new friend in the form of the energetic and beautifully aligned Mike Murphy!

Mike is a human being that has known deep loss, self-destructiveness and disconnection, and his journey from there to here has yielded many great gifts which he shares as his life's purpose.

Mike joins me in conversation to discuss a successful no-bullshit approach to manifesting and attraction outlines in his new book  "the Creation Frequency".

Aside from being an authentic and accomplished author, speaker and coach, Mike is also an entrepreneur of necessity and a hands-on philanthropist, my favourite kind of human!  Mike's 'why' is the most attractive thing about him, and it powers a number of incredible 'hows':

He's also the co-founder of the Love from Margot foundation, which helps cancer patients get the alternative treatments they need. We also discuss his newests initiative which is the hugely impressive Mountains of Hope retreat facility in Colombia, offering a pathway to personal healing and transformation profound that is actually holistic.

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My guest in none other than Daniele Bolelli, the host of the popular podcast "History on Fire" captured beautifully by its tagline: Whether you like history or not, if you care about bravery, wisdom, passion, larger than life characters and some of the most emotionally intense moments in human experience, Let's set History on Fire.

In this episode we talk a bit about history but probably more about the present moment, and Daniele's insights on the dysfunction of social discourse and political process in America.

It is a warm and intellectual conversation which enthusiasts of philosophy and current affairs will find engaging.

With any luck, there will be a part 2.

Daniele Bolelli is an Italian-American writer, martial artist, and university professor, and an accomplished exponent of all three. He is known for his work in the fields of history and philosophy. He is a year older than me, he comes from a family of artists and intellectuals. Daniele has a Ph.D. in Comparative Religion from the UCLA, and has taught courses on the history of religion, philosophy, and the martial arts at various universities.

 Daniele is the author of several books, including "On the Warrior's Path," "Create Your Own Religion," and "Not Afraid."  If for some insane reason History is not your jam, you can make contact with Daniele's philosophical conversations on the Drunken Taoist podcast as well.

http://historyonfirepodcast.com/
https://thedrunkentaoist.com/

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A recording from The Enter the Lionheart Podcast with Host Lawrence Dunning.

The Enter the Lionheart Podcast is a passion project of entrepreneur, MMA fighter, marathon runner and author Lawrence Dunning, engaging with dynamic and interesting people who have a relationship with both success and adversity, in various fields of endeavour.

In this Episode Rocco is interviewed by Lawrence, sharing some of his backstory and what led him to a life of striving for meaningful answers.

We are all focusing on how to live a great life and how to minimizing regret; the fascinating concepts of actualized potential and grieving the loss of the opportunities of youth, which is something that I have been thinking a lot about.

Rocco’s new project is helping people find their mojo in life. In Rocco’s words: “After years of intensive study, evaluation, trial and error we arrived at a core of profound yet pragmatic insights…We have distilled the best of all the courses and practices into weekly lessons and other powerful resources for our community, enabling them to level up steadily and sustainably in all the key areas of life that matter to us.”

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Rocco is also the host of the Eyes Wide Open Life Podcast: https://eyeswideopenlife.org

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This Episode covers our human fascination and obsesession with Messiahs and Gurus, we talk about how the phonomenon comes about and Rocco gives a cutting critique on two of our popular celebrity figures Elon Musk and Jordan Peterson.

The episode discusses at lenth the Messiah trope and the origin of the most famous one in the west namely Jesus Christ and some surprising facts about the origins of the trope, and the high likelihood that the story of Jesus, and the gospel and the canon of Christianity, that it The New Testament, is all the product of opportunistic propaganda designed and executed by the Romans to subdue the Jews and establish order across the Roman Empire.

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