Thoughtful Human

It's hard for many of us to wrap our heads around how we could be so different from our neighbors and so much of our country. Many are asking where the humanity is, but we're challenging ourselves and you to ask whether we're really looking for it and offering it right now.

If you need somewhere to start, we're re-releasing a podcast episode today from 2021 with a man named Graham Finochio. If ever anyone has given us insight and empathy on how one gets into and away from harmful ideologies and behaviors, it’s Graham. His story and work brings understanding, hope, practical tools, and a place to put your money if you want to invest in programs that offer real and profound transformation for men in similar circumstances.

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In today's episode, we continue our series with the men of Success Stories Program and one of their Transformational Coaches, Graham Finochio. Throughout this conversation, we discuss some of his early trauma, how he came to identify as a skinhead, how prison reinforced his beliefs around toxic masculinity and white supremacy, and the moment things started to change for him.

He walks us through his personal transformation and his thoughts on forgiveness, amends, and what healthy love looks like. He shares more about the curriculum Success Stories offers to help guide men toward a similar path, and leaves us with tips on how to approach these types of conversations within our own relationships.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Success Stories Program

The Feminist On Cellblock Y

Thoughtful Human x Success Stories

Donate to Success Stories

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

Today marks a bright new season for Thoughtful Human — I am so proud and excited to be joining forces with Maya Enista Smith and introduce you to her as the new President of Thoughtful Human.

Maya is an absolute force — by this I mean a lifelong change-maker, community builder, kindness champion, political, social, and mental health advocate and — lucky for me — a greeting card fanatic. She offers a robust background in leadership roles across non-profits, technology, and social entrepreneurship, most recently serving as the Executive Director of Lady Gaga’s Born This Way Foundation for over a decade, where she led initiatives to support youth mental health and empower young people to create a kinder, braver world.

Join Maya and I as we get to know each other, as we reconnect with you, and as we start to build the future of this company.

In this episode:

[00:21]: (Re) Introducing Thoughtful Human

[6:05 / 19:31]: Maya’s background and personal mission

[27:25]: Mental health and misconceptions about Gen Z

[32:25]: How to create a movement around a social issue

[25:20]: How one comes to work with Lady Gaga

[48:43]: Grief – what people are getting and right and wrong

[1:09:52]: What lead Maya to send 524 greeting cards in 2012

[1:05:10]: Who dumped a jug of orange juice on Maya’s head and why

[1:16:16]: Maya’s beef with Thoughtful Human

[1:22:26]: Where we’re heading and what we need from you!

Resources:

• The JED Foundation
• Bring Change to Mind

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Today’s conversation is all about body image and eating disorders.

This episode touches on both the everyday challenges related to body image, as well as a deeper discussion about clinical eating disorders and how we can create honest, safe spaces to talk about them with our loved ones.

To help us do this, I am joined by Dr. Margo Maine. Dr. Maine is a clinical psychologist who has specialized in eating disorders and related issues for over 35 years. She is one of the founders of the National Eating Disorders Association, as well as an author and speaker, in addition to her private practice.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The differences between different types of EDs
• Language that may be helpful and harmful in approaching conversations about body image
• Common misconceptions about EDs vs how and why eating disorders develop
• Effective ways to open up conversations about an eating disorder
• Relational Cultural Theory (RCT) and Dr. Maine’s psychoeducational approach to treatment
• Prevention and some practical tools for self acceptance

Resources:

• The Body Project: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/get-involved/the-body-project
• National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
• You can also call or text the NEDA helpline at (800) 931-2237.

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

It's National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month and today's episide offers an exploration of suicide and the many ways we can support those who are struggling today.

To help educate us on this subject are two guests, Meredith Sears, Ph.D — a clinical psychologist who specializes in suicide prevention and serves as the President of the Board of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP), and Brittney Elko — an AFSP board member who shares her personal story of loss, and her expertise as a 988/TALK crisis line volunteer and organizer of ASFP's Healing Conversations program.

In this episode, we discuss:

• 7:25: Specific vocabulary that may be helpful and harmful in conversations about suicide
• 18:20: Stigma and common misconceptions about suicide and suicide attempts vs. the true nature of depression and suicidal ideation
• 31:30: What you can say or do when someone discloses that they are having suicidal thoughts
• 48:30: Dialectical Behavior Therapy
• 55:20: Firearms, lethal means safety, and other effective prevention strategies
• 1:04:35: Postvention and the unique, complex nature of grieving a suicide loss
• 1:20:40: Three recommendations for anyone feeling suicidal today or supporting someone with suicidal thoughts today

Resources:

• American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
• Healing Conversations
• Safe Plan App

Sources & mentions from this episode:

• AFSP statistics 
• NAMI statistics
• Centre for Suicide Prevention: How Many People Are Affected by One Suicide

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

In today’s episode we round out our series with the Success Stories Program team, with a conversation with their Co-Executive Director, Mannie Thomas III. Mannie shares his personal story and how violence became his primary response to conflict and complex emotions. He describes his feelings in the face of a life sentence, and the ways in which this conflicted with his sense of self and role in his community.

He walks us through his educational journey, and dives deeper into the broader systems of justice — the difference between punitive, restorative, and transformative models and what really drives accountability, safety, and healing. We also talk more explicitly about toxic masculinity’s role in women’s issues and sexual assault — how men participate in and perpetuate rape culture, and what genuine allyship and empowerment look like.

Finally, we talk about the vision and future of Success Stories — early education for kids and parents, and what he’s most hopeful about when it comes to the work they are doing.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Success Stories Program

The Feminist On Cellblock Y

Thoughtful Human x Success Stories

Donate to Success Stories

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

In today's episode, we continue our series with the men of Success Stories Program and one of their Transformational Coaches, Graham Finochio. Throughout this conversation, we discuss some of his early trauma, how he came to identify as a skinhead, how prison reinforced his beliefs around toxic masculinity and white supremacy, and the moment things started to change for him.

He walks us through his personal transformation and his thoughts on forgiveness, amends, and what healthy love looks like. He shares more about the curriculum Success Stories offers to help guide men toward a similar path, and leaves us with tips on how to approach these types of conversations within our own relationships.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Success Stories Program

The Feminist On Cellblock Y

Thoughtful Human x Success Stories

Donate to Success Stories

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

In today's episode, we'll be kicking off a series of conversations with the men of Success Stories Program, a nonprofit organization led by formerly incarcerated men who lead transformational feminist programs for people who have caused harm.

Chris Johnson is a Transformational Coach and Growth Coordinator on the Success Stories team. In this conversation, we discuss his pursuit of manhood, what it cost him, how he found his way to healing and integrity in the face of a 65-year prison sentence, and how he's helping other men transform harmful ideas and behaviors.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Success Stories Program

The Feminist On Cellblock Y

Thoughtful Human x Success Stories

Donate to Success Stories

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Instagram, Facebook, Tiktok, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

Janine Kwoh is the owner, author, illustrator of stationery company Kwohtations and the forthcoming book Welcome to the Grief Club, which addresses many of the surprising, confusing, brutal, funny, and downright bizarre parts of grief.

Throughout this conversation, we discuss the unexpected loss of Janine’s partner, the distinct challenges of navigating grief in your 20s, the evolution of grief from day 1 to years 5 and 10, some of our most strange and inconsistent grief behaviors, moments of frustration and invincibility and, of course, some tips for those who are currently grieving and those who are supporting a loved one in this process.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Kwohtations

The Dinner Party

Stephen Colbert & Anderson Cooper Clip on Grief and Gratitude

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

Ali talks with Jenelle, the founder and Executive Director of the STI Project. Jenelle is a fierce advocate fighting to dismantle the stigma surrounding STIs through awareness and education.

In their conversation, they discuss Jenelle's personal journey with herpes, how to check in with those in your life with an STI diagnosis, trust and disclosure in friendships and romantic relationships, the psychology of disgust and gauging people's capacity for conversations of this nature, and the importance of sharing STI stories.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

The STI Project

American Sexual Health Association

PositiveSingles.com

The STI Project Social Medias: Instagram, TikTok, Facebook

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.

Ali talks with Elizabeth Franklin, Ph.D, President of the Cancer Support Community (CSC). CSC is the largest provider of social and emotional support services for cancer patients offering over $50 million in free cancer support services each year across 175 locations worldwide.

In their conversation Ali and Elizabeth discuss the current cancer landscape, innovations in the colorectal cancer space, the stigma around colorectal and lung cancers, words that harm and words that heal, what a "good death" means, long-term needs of patients and caregivers, and how you can advocate for your loved ones.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

Cancer Support Community

If you want to follow along in our journey or check out our products, find us at our website thoughtfulhuman.co, or find us on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter!

P.S. If you or someone you love needs access to a month of free online therapy: betterhelp.com/thoughtfulhuman.