So, I really hate it when people begin every sentence with so. And, I am not even sure why. But, anyway…

So, I have been asking you a lot of questions the past few weeks. Hopefully, you have asked yourself some of the questions I have brought up. And hopefully, you came up with satisfying answers that have led you to make some positive changes that improved your life as a single person. So, why stop now? This week I want you to ask yourself the question Simon Sinek says we should always start with, the question young children intuitively ask umpteen times per day – why?

Why Am I Single?

So, let’s dive right in with a really tough one. Why are you single? Is it by choice? Or, is it, as my late in life singleness was, by someone else’s choice?

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Maybe you have never been married. Why? Was that by choice? Or, was it from a lack of appealing options? Or, are there things you need to do to put yourself in a better position to get married? Maybe you need to work at one or more of the things I write about here – like personal growth, attractiveness, or dating better.

Or, maybe you need to expand your horizons and look in different places or at different types of people than you have before.

Why Do I Date Who I Date?

In fact, ask yourself this, why do I date the people I date? Are you only dating people that look a certain way? Or, are you only dating people you think will enhance your social status or standard of living? Or, do you date the same person over and over – with a different name but the same heartbreaking outcome?

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Why are you drawn over and over again to the wrong guy or the wrong girl? Maybe it is time to re-think what you really want and need and how you go about dating.

Why Do I Date the Way I Date?

And, thinking more about dating, why do you date the way you date? Is it because that is the only way you know and that is the way everybody does it, or is it because you thought it through and decided that was the best way?

Are you dating to know yourself better, have a little fun, and decide if the person you go out with might be worth getting to know better or pursuing as a spouse? Or, are you dating because you need an ego boost or need to gratify your sexual urges?

Maybe it is time to decide what you really want out of life and relationships, decide what is the best way to get there, and start living and dating with those goals in mind.

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Why Do I Want to Marry?

I know a lot of you date because you think it will lead to marriage. And yes, going on dates is an important part of the process of moving from single to married. But that begs my next question – why do you want to get married?

Have you thought that through? Is that another thing you want because your family says that is what you should want? Or, is that something you want for your own reasons?

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And, what are those reasons? Are they good and healthy reasons or selfish or misguided reasons?