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Friendship might be one of the most overlooked gifts God has given us.

In this message, Ps Byron Chicken unpacks insights from the Harvard Study of Adult Development—an 80-year study that found the single greatest predictor of a good life is not wealth, success, or fame, but friendship. Deep, meaningful relationships shape our joy, resilience, health, and ability to walk through hard seasons well.

But in today’s culture, real friendship is under pressure. We live in what many call a “friendship recession”—a time marked by busyness, disappointment, emotional exhaustion, shallow digital connection, and the breakdown of the natural structures that once helped friendships grow.

Through Scripture and the story of the paralyzed man carried by his friends to Jesus in Mark 2, this message reminds us that friendship is worth fighting for. Real friends carry us when we are weak, help us overcome obstacles, and move us closer to Jesus.

Ps Byron shares practical wisdom on how to build close, life-giving friendships using the acronym C.L.O.S.E.:

Consistency – Show up regularly and stay present
 Likeness – Build around shared interests and common ground
 Openness – Be vulnerable and honest
 Shared Space – Prioritise face-to-face connection
 Engagement – Show genuine interest in one another

This message is both a challenge and an encouragement: pray for godly friendships, choose to become a better friend, and don’t let disappointment stop you from receiving one of God’s best gifts.

You don’t need more connections. You need a few people who will walk with you until you become who God has called you to be.

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What comes out of you when life squeezes you?
In this message, Ps Hein Bruyns shares a powerful truth: healthy relationships start with personal healing. Too often we blame others, our past, or our pain for what spills out of us—but Jesus shows us that what’s inside our hearts eventually shapes every relationship around us.

In Us Starts With Me, Hein unpacks how blame blocks healing, why our relationships bear the fruit of what’s happening inside us, and how Jesus invites us into real restoration. This message is honest, practical, and full of hope for anyone wanting stronger marriages, friendships, family relationships, and inner wholeness.

If what’s broken in us can eventually break us, then what’s healed in us can eventually heal us.

In this episode:

• Why blame keeps us stuck
• How inner pain affects outer relationships
• What Jesus teaches about healing the heart
• Why healing starts with taking responsibility
• How to come to Jesus for real restoration

3 practical ways to pursue healing:

• Come to Jesus with authenticity
• Reveal your struggles in safe community
• Keep returning to His presence

Key Scriptures:
Luke 6:43–45
Matthew 7:1–6
Matthew 11:28–30
James 5:16
Psalm 145:18

This message will encourage you to stop fixing your eyes on everyone else, bring your heart honestly to Jesus, and let Him begin a work of healing that overflows into every part of your life.

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We live in a world where connection has never been easier—yet meaningful relationships often feel harder than ever. In this message, Khulu Duma launches the series “US: Growing Greater Relationships” by addressing a modern challenge many of us face: the divide created by our screens.

Relationships matter deeply, but our devices can quietly pull our attention away from the people who matter most. Phones, laptops, TVs, and even smartwatches can interrupt conversations, reduce face-to-face interaction, and create habits that slowly distance us from those we love.

Research shows the average person touches their phone between 90 and 150 times a day, and in some cases up to 300 times. These habits are reinforced by dopamine loops created by notifications, messages, and endless scrolling. The result? Technology begins to shape our attention and becomes the “frame of reference” in our daily interactions.

But here’s the tension: we need our devices. They help us work remotely, connect with family across the world, capture memories, and access learning tools. The real issue isn’t eliminating technology—it’s mastering it instead of being mastered by it.

Drawing from First Epistle to the Corinthians 6:12, we’re reminded:
 “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial… I will not be mastered by anything.

This truth leads to a powerful challenge: Master the screens that divide us.

In this episode, we explore five practical ways to reclaim connection:

• Create Phone-Free Moments – Some moments should belong to people, not screens.
• Start and End the Day Without Screens – The first and last moments of the day shape our focus.
• Practice Intentional Checking – Technology should serve us, not control us.
• Protect Deep Connection Time – Relationships grow when we give people our full attention.
• Have a Weekly Digital Reset – Regular breaks from technology help our minds and relationships reset.

Just as the Berlin Wall once divided families for decades before suddenly coming down, the barriers created by screens in our lives can also be torn down. With intentional choices and God’s help, we can rebuild connection and strengthen the relationships that matter most.

Ultimately, the greatest connection we can have is with Jesus. When our relationship with Him is restored, it begins to reshape every other relationship in our lives.

If you’ve ever felt distracted, disconnected, or pulled away from the people you love, this message will help you take practical steps toward closing the divide and building greater relationships.

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In a world full of noise, pressure, and uncertainty, many of us search for peace in quieter environments, better circumstances, or a break from the chaos of life. But what if true peace doesn’t come from calm surroundings?

In this powerful message, Donovan Cogill shares a personal story from a retreat where everything on the outside was perfectly peaceful—yet his mind was anything but. Through the story of Jesus calming the storm in Mark 4:35–41, we discover that real peace is not found in the absence of storms, but in the presence of Jesus.

Even experienced fishermen feared for their lives when a violent storm hit their boat—yet Jesus was asleep. His confidence came from knowing the Father’s will and knowing who He was. The storm may have interrupted the journey, but it could never cancel the promise of reaching the other side.

This message unpacks two powerful truths about Greater Peace:

1. Greater Peace Through Confidence
Jesus trusted the Father’s will and knew His identity. In the same way, we can face life’s storms with confidence when we remember who we are in Christ:
• A child of God
• Chosen and secure
• More than a conqueror
• Christ lives in us

When we know who we are and whose we are, the storm loses its power to define us.

2. Greater Peace Through Confrontation
After calming the storm, Jesus asked the disciples a challenging question: “Where is your faith?”
He wasn’t ignoring the storm—they were real. But Jesus was confronting something deeper: fear.

Fear grows when we believe we are alone. But the truth is, we are never alone—Jesus is in the boat with us.

The message also reflects on the life of Horatio Spafford, who wrote the famous hymn “It Is Well With My Soul” after losing his daughters in a tragic shipwreck. Even in devastating loss, he experienced a peace that could only come from God’s presence.

Peace is not found when storms disappear. Peace is found when we recognize who is in the boat with us.

If you’re facing pressure, uncertainty, or fear today, be encouraged:
Greater Peace is not just a promise—it’s a Person. His name is Jesus.

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Episode Title: Greater Transformation

There are moments in life when everything shifts because of one interaction, one conversation, one unexpected encounter. In this powerful message, we unpack John 4 and the story of the woman at the well—an ordinary day that turned into a life-changing encounter with Jesus.

She came carrying a jar. Routine. Shame. Disappointment. Survival.
She left with living water—and a testimony.

This episode explores how greater transformation begins with great grace from God and results in great works for God.

Key Scripture

John 4 (The Woman at the Well)

3 Movements of Greater Transformation

1️⃣ Jesus Meets Us

Jesus “had to” go through Samaria. Not for convenience—but for a divine appointment.

Before we ever seek Him, He seeks us.
 Before we clean ourselves up, He meets us as we are.

Grace always starts the conversation.

Practice this week:
Start each day with a simple prayer:
“Jesus, meet me at my well today.”
Invite Him into your routine. Give Him permission to interrupt you.

2️⃣ Jesus Changes Us

Jesus lovingly confronts the woman’s past—not to shame her, but to free her.

Transformation is free.
 Surrender is costly.

We often pray:
 “Jesus, fill me… but don’t touch this.”
 “Change me… but don’t ask me to surrender that.”

The jar represents the temporary things we keep returning to—relationships, control, ambition, comfort, hidden compromise.

Living water and the jar cannot coexist.

Practice this week:
Ask the Holy Spirit:
“What jar are You asking me to put down?”
Don’t defend it. Surrender it.

When the jar goes down, freedom begins.

3️⃣ Jesus Sends Us

After her encounter, the woman runs back to town:

“Come and see a man who told me everything I ever did!”

The one who avoided the crowd is now gathering a crowd.

Transformation isn’t complete until it overflows.
 A surrendered life becomes a sent life.

One conversation led to a town believing.

You don’t need a theology degree.
 You just need your story.

Practice this week:
Pray: “Lord, give me one name.”
One person to share your story with.

Big Idea

Greater transformation starts with grace from God—but it must result in works for God.

Jesus meets us.
Jesus changes us.
Jesus sends us.

You never know who might encounter Jesus because you encountered Him first.

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🎙 Greater Fruitfulness

Ps Byron Chicken

What were your child’s first words?

First words matter. They carry weight. They reveal what’s important.

But have you ever stopped to consider what God’s first words to humanity were?

In Genesis 1:28, God speaks His very first mandate over mankind:
“Be fruitful and multiply.”

From the very beginning — and again in John 15 as Jesus establishes the New Covenant — the call is the same:
Be fruitful.

This message explores what biblical fruitfulness really means — and it’s far deeper than success, productivity, or results.

🌳 In This Episode

Ps Byron unpacks three powerful truths about fruitfulness:

1️⃣ Fruitfulness is Christ’s life flowing through us

Galatians 5 reminds us that true fruit is:

• Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, Self-control.

Fruitfulness isn’t striving — it’s Jesus living His life through us.

“How would Jesus live His life if He were me?”

2️⃣ Fruitfulness is about roots, not results

An apple tree doesn’t strain to produce apples.
 It simply stays connected to the tree and planted in good soil.

Deep roots + healthy soil = natural fruit.

Ps Byron explores key “soils” where fruit grows:

• 🌱 Surrender
• 📖 Scripture
• ⏳ Spiritual rhythms
• 🤝 Community
• 🌧 Trials

When we stay connected to Jesus, fruit happens naturally.

3️⃣ Fruitfulness is for others

An apple tree never eats its own fruit.

Fruit exists to nourish someone else.

When Christ’s character grows in us:

• People experience peace when we enter the room.
• They find shade in our consistency.
• They taste grace in our words.
• They are strengthened by our integrity.

Fruitfulness isn’t about personal growth alone — it’s about blessing the world around us.

🌍 A Picture of Fruitfulness

Ps Byron shares the story of Wangari Maathai — founder of the Green Belt Movement in Kenya, who mobilized rural women to plant tens of millions of trees.

Her life literally left greenery in her wake.

That’s the picture of spiritual fruitfulness — leaving life wherever you go.

🙏 Invitation

The key to fruitfulness is connection.

Jesus said, “Remain in me.”

When our roots are in Him:

• We don’t strive.
• We don’t perform.
• We don’t pretend.

We simply become trees heavy with fruit — fruit that feeds others.

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Greater Things: From God, For God!

Vision Sunday 2026 | Ps Byron Chicken

What does it look like to live a life marked by Greater Things?

In this Vision Sunday message, Ps Byron unpacks one of the most daring moments in Scripture — Peter stepping out of the boat — and shows us how expectation and obedience work together to unlock greater things from God and for God.

Key Scripture

• Matthew 14:21–33 (Peter walks on water)

Message Highlights

• Peter wasn’t reckless — he was expectant.
• Greater things are released when expectation meets obedience.
• Peter believed he could do what Jesus was doing — and acted on it.
• Faith isn’t passive; it moves toward Jesus.

Big Idea

Greater Things = Expectation + Obedience

How We Grow in Expectation

• Faith memory: Remembering what God has already done builds faith for what He will do next.
• Bold prayers: If Peter never asked, he never would have walked.
• God’s promises: What we feed on shapes what we expect.

Obedience Reframed

• Obedience isn’t restrictive — it’s liberating.
• What is birthed in expectation must grow up in obedience.
• One step of obedience can set up a lifetime of victory.

What Holds Us Back

• Fear of loss
• Fear of uncertainty
• Desire for control
• Impatience with God’s timing
• Distraction and busyness

Greater Things From God

• Deeper intimacy with Jesus
• Spiritual transformation
• Freedom and deliverance
• Provision beyond human calculation
• Restoration beyond loss
• Fruitfulness and lasting impact
• Peace and stability in chaos

Greater Things For God — Together

We’re not consumers — we’re contributors. As a church, we step into greater things together through:

• Serving our city
• Hope Bags & food relief
• SHINE literacy outreach
• Cherished ministry
• Life Groups
• Serve teams & worship
• Kids ministry
• Missions
• Practical compassion initiatives

Looking Ahead

• Launching three services
• Praying toward a third Thrive campus

Closing Thought

Greater things don’t happen by accident.
 They happen when ordinary people choose to expect boldly and obey courageously.

Let’s get out of the boat — together.

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Episode Summary

This episode invites listeners to drop the pressure of perfection and instead pick up a “compass faith” — a daily, relational journey of obedience with Jesus.

Main Themes

1. Why Resolutions Fail

• We promise to be better, but life doesn’t promise to be easier.
• Resolutions assume we have control — but we don’t.
• Life is too unpredictable for “planner faith”.

2. Planner vs Compass

• A planner assumes control and fixed outcomes.
• A compass assumes direction and daily alignment.
• Jesus invites us to follow Him as our true north, no matter what.

3. Obedience > Sacrifice

From the story of Saul:

• Saul sacrificed but didn’t fully obey.
• Partial obedience is still disobedience.
• God desires hearts that follow Him, not just religious activity.

Three Differences Between Sacrifice and Obedience

1. Outward vs Inward

• Sacrifice: External actions, religious performance.
• Obedience: Flows from inward transformation.

2. Human Effort vs Divine Power

• Sacrifice: Striving in your own strength.
• Obedience: Trusting God’s power and guidance.

3. Earning Blessing vs Walking in Blessing

• Sacrifice: Trying to earn God’s favour.
• Obedience: Realising that following God is the blessing.

The Principle of Alignment

To walk in obedience, we must stay aligned with God — like regular wheel alignment for a car. Life’s “potholes” knock us off course, so we need constant realignment.

Five Practical Ways to Align with God

1. Align Your Heart – Worship

• Give God the first few minutes you already have each day.
• Worship realigns your heart with God’s presence.

2. Align Your Mind – Scripture

• Read one verse or passage daily.
• Ask: “How does this change how I live today?”

3. Align with Others – Community

• Choose one person and one rhythm.
• Ask weekly:
  • What did I do well?
  • Where did I drift?

4. Align Your Voice – Prayer

• Pray in natural pauses (car, lunch break, before sleep).
• Simple prayers: “God guide me. God help me obey.”

5. Align Your Actions – Reflection

Once a week, ask:

• Where did I sense God’s leading?
• Where did I resist God’s leading?
• What one adjustment can I make next week?

Powerful Illustration – Jackie Pullinger

A missionary who obeyed a simple calling to go to Hong Kong without a plan, funding, or structure. Her obedience led to:

She didn’t have a planner — she had a compass.

Final Invitation

Jesus doesn’t want your perfect plans — He wants your daily obedience.
Not big promises. Not religious performance.
Just a simple, honest “yes” every day.

Choose direction, not perfection.
Choose obedience, not sacrifice.

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What if blessing isn’t something we chase—but something we choose?

In this powerful and deeply honest message, Ps Candice reflects on a painful 2025 and invites us into a better way forward for 2026. Drawing from the life of Jacob in Genesis, she unpacks what it truly means to choose blessing—not by striving, stealing, or forcing outcomes, but by pursuing the presence of God.

This sermon is for anyone who has wrestled with disappointment, grief, unanswered prayers, or uncertainty about the future—and is still daring to believe God has more.

Key Themes

• Choosing blessing in the midst of hardship
• Wrestling with God instead of walking away
• The power of perseverance and transformation
• Identity change before blessing flows
• Pursuing the face of God over the hand of God

Scripture Focus

• Genesis 32:22–31 – Jacob wrestles with God
• Psalm 46:10 – “Be still and know that I am God”
• Psalm 139:23–24 – “Search me, O God…”
• Jeremiah 29:13 – “You will seek Me and find Me…”

Big Idea

We don’t choose blessing by buying it or stealing it.
We choose blessing by choosing the presence of God.

When we pursue His face, His provision follows.

The Path to Blessing: B.L.E.S.S.

A practical framework for pursuing God’s presence:

B – Be still before God
Create space to encounter Him in the quiet.

L – Listen for His voice
God speaks in everyday moments—learn to recognize His voice.

E – Examine your heart
Invite God to search you, convict you, and lead you into repentance.

S – Surrender your will
Let go of control and choose God’s way over your own.

S – Seek His presence continually
Daily devotion and weekly gathering shape a blessed life.

Memorable Quotes

• “A limp with God is better than no limp without God.”
• “Don’t let go in the middle of the wrestle.”
• “We don’t pursue the hand of God—we pursue the face of God.”
• “When we get the order right, we will be blessed.”

Final Invitation

The starting point of a blessed life is saying yes to Jesus.
Blessing flows from relationship, not performance.

About This Message

This sermon is part of the Choose Well series and was preached at Thrive Church. It’s a call to step into 2026 with faith, honesty, and a renewed commitment to God’s presence.

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CHOOSE GOD!

Trading the Sacred for the Secular

One decision. One moment of weakness. One bowl of stew.
 Esau’s choice echoes through history—and challenges us to examine our own.

In this message from the Choose Well series, we explore how shortcuts cost more than we realize, and how choosing God over self leads to life, legacy, and blessing.

📖 Scripture

Genesis 25:24–34

Esau trades his birthright—something sacred—for something temporary. What looks small in the moment creates massive spiritual consequences.

🔑 Main Thought

Every shortcut cuts us short and cuts us out of what God wants to do.

🥣 The Danger of Shortcuts

Shortcuts often tempt us to:

• Choose the easy thing over the good thing
• Choose our way over God’s way
• Choose our solution instead of God’s provision
• Choose the secular over the sacred

Esau satisfied a legitimate hunger in an illegitimate way—and lost far more than he gained.

✝️ Esau vs Jesus

• Esau: Hungry → takes a shortcut → trades his future
• Jesus: Hungry → resists the shortcut → trusts the Father

Jesus shows us what it looks like to choose the sacred, even when it costs us in the moment.

🧭 How to Choose God Daily

Ask one simple question before every decision:

“Will this connect me to God—or disconnect me from Him?”

That question brings clarity to:

• Relationships
• Career choices
• Time, money, and priorities
• Habits, discipline, and self-control

🔥 Sacred vs Secular

• Self-control is sacred; addiction is secular
• Faithfulness is sacred; compromise is secular
• Serving God’s house is sacred; convenience is secular
• Sabbath, generosity, prayer, and worship are sacred

Choosing the sacred keeps God first—even when culture pressures us otherwise.

🙏 A Call to Response

At the start of this year, we have the opportunity to choose better than Esau did.
 We don’t have to be perfect—we just have to choose God.

“God, I choose You.
 I choose the sacred over the secular.”

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