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On this week’s Monday Motivation, Polly and I are talking about taking responsibility.

How often do you avoid doing the hard thing, even though you know it’s exactly what needs to be done?

The truth is, no one else can do it for us. We all have to choose our hard.

Taking responsibility isn’t about blame or pressure – it’s about recognising the incredible power you already have to shape your life.

And that’s a far more empowering way to live.

We hope there’s something in this conversation that resonates with you and supports you this week.

Love 

Polly & Lucy x

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I'm excited for you to hear my wonderful guest this week because she’s talking all about something that we don’t talk about enough — and I’ve only had one other guest on the podcast talking about this particular thing. 

Hennie Thomson is a single woman in her 30s living and working in Oxfordshire. She has been long-term single and a few years ago she realised that her lack of interest in pursuing a romantic relationship does actually have a name. Discovering her asexual / aromantic identity has helped Hennie make sense of why she has chosen a solo life in a world that promotes coupling up. And as you guys know more than most, there is far more to people than their relationship status, and Hennie is keen to build a life full of meaning and connection. 

In our conversation we talk all about what life has looked like for Hennie as someone who now identifies as asexual and aromantic, and I think you will find this conversation to be as fascinating as I did.

Follow Hennie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moorhen.prints/

Books Hennie mentioned:

Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society & The Meaning Of Sex by Angela Chen: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Ace-Asexuality-Reveals-Identity-Meaning/dp/080701379X

Loveless by Alice Oseman: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Loveless-Alice-Oseman/dp/000824412X

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In this week's minisode, I'm asking a question that I've genuinely been wondering about for a long, long time: are human beings actually meant to spend 20, 30, 40 or 50 years with the same romantic partner? I'm not questioning love or relationships themselves, but the societal expectation that we're all supposed to couple up, get married and stay together forever. We explore where that script came from, why so many people struggle to live up to it, and whether we've been conditioned to see relationships as "failures" simply because they end. As always, I'm not claiming to have the answers — I'm simply inviting you to question an idea that most of us have been taught to accept without ever really examining.

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On this week's Thursday's Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about the mistake that so many of us make which is thinking that things will be better when…

We’ve all done it, haven’t we? Things will better when I’m earning more money; things will be better when I’ve started the new job; things will be better once I move into the new home.

Ultimately, those ‘big’ moments in life are fleeting, and the trick is learning how to enjoy all of the moments in between.

We hope you’ll find something useful in here.

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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On this week’s episode, I’m talking to the fabulous Désirée Cyganek, a single and childfree photographer and former dancer, the daughter of a French father and an African mother who was born in the Ivory Coast and raised in France. 

Having moved to Florida when she met the man she subsequently married, Désirée now lives in Jersey City — just across the water from Manhattan — with her two beloved bengal cats which we obviously talk about. In this conversation, Désirée tells me about her former career as a dancer, the love story that took her to the US but ultimately ended in divorce, and how she subsequently became a photographer. 

We talk all about her single life and how she feels about it, we talk about why people get so triggered by single women without kids, she tells me about the differences between dating American guys and European guys, and she also gives me possibly the best description I’ve ever heard about what it actually means to love yourself. Désirée really is a force, I thought she was absolutely fabulous, and I can’t wait for you to hear this. 

Follow Désirée on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anothereraclub/

Check out her photography website: https://daisyrey.com/

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On this week's minisode, I’m sharing one of my core messages for single women: spend more energy chasing your dreams than chasing a romantic relationship. I talk about how easy it is to make “finding someone” the main project of your life, while neglecting the life you’re actually responsible for creating. This is a reminder that no partner can hand you happiness, purpose, direction or fulfilment — those are things you build through your own choices, courage and self-investment. Whether love comes along or not, your life is happening now, and your dreams deserve your energy, attention and devotion.

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On this week’s Tuesday Motivation, Polly and I are chatting about the importance of movement.

As we get older, we naturally lose both muscle and bone mass, so keeping our bodies moving is one of the best investments we can make in our long term health and wellbeing.

We talk about how consistency matters more than perfection, how to make movement enjoyable, and simple ways to fit it into your everyday life.

It’s so easy to find reasons not to exercise but the benefits for your body, mind and future self are enormous.

We hope this conversation gives you the nudge you need to get moving.

Love Polly & Lucy x

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I have actual man on my podcast today, and what a gorgeous man he is! 

Carl Huelin is 46, single, doesn’t have kids, lives on the island of Jersey and works as a men’s life coach, having completed burned out in the corporate world and deciding to change things up. 

I do urge you to listen to this conversation the whole way through because I think our conversation gets better and better, and Carl is just such a lovely, lovely man and I cannot tell you how much I enjoyed speaking to him. It’s always refreshing to get a guy’s perspective on things, especially one who actually works with men, and I’m sure that you’ll find so much of what he says really interesting to hear. 

In our conversation, Carl tells me all about the work he does with men including the different kinds of men’s groups he’s been a part of, as well as giving me his take on where men and women seems to go so wrong with each other. He also tells me about how he’s lost himself inside romantic relationships before, but how he’s now much more sure of who he is and what he wants if and when he does enter into another relationship. We talk about how so many of us are running on autopilot, we talk about doing the inner work, we talk about how he feels about not having had kids, and Carl tells me that Disney and fairytales also affect men, too. I just loved this conversation and I hope you will too. 

Follow Carl on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlhuelin/

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On this week's minisode, I’m talking about something we don’t discuss enough: how much of ourselves we can lose in romantic relationships, even good ones. I explore the invisible cost of partnership — the habits, routines, freedom, focus, control and little personal preferences that can quietly get pushed aside when a relationship becomes the centre of your life. This isn’t about saying relationships are bad; it’s about being honest that they require compromise, energy and self-adjustment, and that women are often conditioned to sacrifice themselves for the “greater good” of the relationship. If you’re single, this is a reminder to appreciate what you currently have: space, autonomy, clarity, and the chance to stay deeply connected to yourself.

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On today’s Thursday's Thoughts, Polly and I are talking about how important it is to find the joy in life, rather than being constantly weighed down by all of the ‘shoulds’.

The truth is that life is short, and we sometimes forget to enjoy the ride. Instead of taking it all so seriously, let’s remember that we’re all travelling on a giant sphere hurtling through space - so we might as well enjoy it while we’re here!

We hope you’ll find something useful in here.

Love,
Polly & Lucy x

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