This podcast's name didn't start in a recording studio. It started in Becky Rybak's living room, on October 17th, 2025, during our very first Facebook Live together — a devotional we called Through the Lens of Love, long before it was ever a podcast. This episode is a full-circle moment I've been waiting to record.

Becky was diagnosed with ALS at 38 years old, when her boys were three and seven. Ten years later — well past the typical prognosis, and squarely in the 10-20% who live past five years — she is still here. The only muscles she can move are her eyes, and a few others. She communicates through an eye-gaze machine, typing out entire conversations with her eyeballs. She cannot hug her own children.

And her word for 2026 is patience.

We talk about what ALS has actually taught her about patience — a virtue she says she didn't have before her diagnosis. We talk about her motto from day one, "one day at a time," and how it's held up over a decade. We talk about the emotions she's had to navigate — fear, anger, sadness, jealousy, guilt, shame — and how faith carried her through the ones that felt the least faithful. And we talk about her husband Mike, who has never once left her side, and the goals that have carried her forward: watching her sons make their First Communion, and now, watching them grow toward high school graduation.

Becky's own words on suffering: "you either get bitter, or you get better. The choice does not belong to fate. It belongs to you."

In this episode:

• The origin story of Through the Lens of Love, and Becky's role in it

• What ALS has taught Becky about patience she never could have learned another way

• Navigating fear, anger, and grief while holding onto faith

• "One day at a time" — her motto from day one, and how it's held up for 10 years

• Gratitude, from someone who has to fight for every breath

• Why joy and positive attitude are, in her words, "ninety percent of the battle"

• Becky's answer to the podcast's signature closing question

This conversation will change how you see your own breath, your own arms, your own ability to hug the people you love. It is one of the most powerful episodes of Through the Lens of Love yet.

Every day, Becky continues to inspire others to see through the lens of love. Her faith and patience are beyond what many of us can comprehend. Follow her on Facebook, and send her a private message about how much this episode meant to you.Facebook: facebook.com/becky.holmesrybak

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What if you couldn't hug someone? What if you couldn't move your own arms to scratch an itch, or reach for a glass of water?

In this solo episode, I get honest about something that's never come naturally to me: patience. I'm one of the most persistent people you'll ever meet — but persistent and patient are not the same thing. I share the moment as a kid at an amusement park when I couldn't just stand still in line, and how my husband has asked me, even years into marriage, "can't you ever just be happy?" — not because I wasn't, but because I was always reaching for what's next instead of resting in what's now.

Then I dig into the word itself. Patience comes from the Latin pati — to suffer. It's not just waiting nicely; it's the willingness to bear something disagreeable that God has permitted into your life. In Catholic teaching, patience is part of the cardinal virtue of Fortitude, one of the twelve Fruits of the Holy Spirit, and its ultimate model is Christ Himself — suffering quietly, out of love, not gritted-teeth resistance.

And here's where it all connects: impatience is what happens when we see a delay, a person, or a disagreement through the lens of frustration. Patience is choosing to see that same moment through the lens of love instead. Same weight. Same hard thing. Completely different lens.

In this episode:

• Why persistence and patience are not the same thing

• The root meaning of "patience" — and why it changed how I think about suffering

• Patience as part of the cardinal virtue of Fortitude, and a Fruit of the Holy Spirit

• Why "they're an idiot" is never a loving thought, even when you disagree with someone

• How impatience and patience are really just two different lenses on the exact same moment

• Why waiting your whole life for "someday" to feel patience, love, and joy will exhaust you

Next week, I'm sitting down with my dear friend Becky Rybak, who has lived with ALS for 10 years. The only muscles that work for her are her eyes. Her word for 2026 is patience — because she's had to learn a form of it I can barely comprehend. You will not want to miss this conversation.

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

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What happens when the very worst thing you could imagine actually happens — twice?

In this episode of Through the Lens of Love, I sit down with my dear friend Deb Hadley, founder of KT Humble Hearts, a nonprofit providing hope and healing to those who are grieving. Deb lost both of her adult children, Kaylee and Tyler, nine months and two days apart. This conversation is heavy, it's holy, and so powerful. 

Deb shares how she moved from a black hole of grief and self-blame to a life overflowing with joy, purpose, and an unshakable relationship with God. We talk about what it really means to hold grief and gratitude at the same time, why "focus on me, not the storm" changed everything, and how healing from the inside out — including work we did together in an inner-healing session — opened doors she never expected.

In this episode: 

• How Deb turned to God in the darkest moment of her life 

• The difference between guilt and shame, and why it matters 

• Why grief isn't just about death — it can be divorce, estrangement, addiction, or any broken relationship 

• How pain and purpose can exist together, at the same time 

• What it means to prepare yourself before the storm comes • Why we don't have a condemning God, but a loving one with His arms wide open 

• The work of KT Humble Hearts and how it's helping others heal

If you've ever wondered how anyone survives the unthinkable and comes out the other side with more joy, not less — this conversation will stay with you.

Connect with Deb & KT Humble Hearts:

Website: kthumblehearts.org

Facebook: KT Humble Hearts / Deb Hadley

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

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Life happens. Hard things happen. The question was never if the storm comes — it's when. So how do you prepare yourself before it hits, instead of scrambling to catch up once it does?

In this episode of Through the Lens of Love, I share a concept I've coached on for years: First Person Prep. It's not about avoiding the storm, hiding from hard things, or living out of fear — it's about doing the work when things are going well, so that when circumstances change, you already know how to turn back to the Lord.

I walk through three simple, practical ways to start — pause, gratitude, and awareness — and why none of it requires having everything figured out at once. One prep at a time.

We also talk about the difference between your circumstances and your thoughts (spoiler: neither one is actually you), one of my favorite coaching questions to ask yourself in hard moments, and why there is no "final version" of your life or your business.

In this episode:

• What First Person Prep actually means, and why it's work you do before the storm, not after

• Three simple starting points: pause, gratitude and praise, and awareness

• Why your circumstances — and even your thoughts — are not you

• My favorite coaching question: "What are you making that mean about you?"

• Why pain and purpose can exist together, and how that happens

• Why there is no final version of your life or your business

Next week, I'm sitting down with my dear friend Deb Hadley, who has lived First Person Prep in one of the deepest, hardest ways I've ever witnessed. Her story is heavy, it's holy, and you won't want to miss it.

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

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Ten-plus years ago, my husband brought home a book from a conference — Change Your Day, Not Your Life by Andy Core, Ph.D. I was burned out, defensive, and convinced there was nothing wrong with me. That book changed my life. This week, the man behind it sat down with me.

Andy holds a Ph.D. in performance psychology and has spent 25 years as a speaker, helping hundreds of thousands of people move from stuck to thriving — not by overhauling their whole lives, but by changing one pattern at a time.

We talk about the limit violation effect — why setting a limit, breaking it, and beating yourself up over it becomes a cycle that feeds itself — and how to flip it through slowing down, seeing the big picture, and forgiveness. Andy shares the story of Janet, a high-achieving executive who begged him to tell her exactly when her hard work would pay off — and the strange, honest answer he gave her that changed everything. We also get into why "balance" isn't equal parts of anything, what happened when Andy asked his own daughters what actually made them feel loved, and why there is no final version of your life or your business.

In this episode:

• The limit violation effect, and how to break the cycle

• Why motivation is really momentum in disguise

• Janet's story — and what happened when Andy saw her two years later

• Redefining "balance" through radical clarity

• The "to-done list" instead of the to-do list

• What Andy's daughters taught him about what actually matters

• Why forgiving yourself is the fastest path back to momentum

If you've ever tried to change everything at once on a Monday morning and given up by 10am — this episode is for you.

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

Connect with Andy Core:

Website: andycore.com

Book: Change Your Day, Not Your Life

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Have you ever been a Monday Morning Starter? New workout plan, new diet, no more chocolate — starting Monday. And by 10am, you're already in the shop, digging through where you told your husband to hide the chocolate from you.

In this episode, I share the season of my life when I lived as a Monday Morning Starter every single week — always chasing more willpower, more rules, more control — convinced that overhauling everything at once was the only way to really change. It never worked. Not once.

What actually shifted things was choosing one thing. Just one. From a single Beach Body workout program, to a daily gratitude journal, to thanking my gas pump out loud (yes, really) — I share the small, specific triggers that became real, lasting habits, and why starting small isn't a lesser strategy, it's the actual strategy.

I also do the math with you — if you're awake 12 hours a day, 10 minutes spent building one new habit is only 1.4% of your time. And I share how that same math, applied to my marriage, changed everything.

In this episode:

• Why willpower, more rules, and more control never create lasting change

• How one small trigger — a workout program, a journal, even a gas pump — becomes a real habit

• The 1.4% math behind building any new habit

• The 3.3% math that changed my marriage

• Why making change fun is the piece most people skip

• Why there is no final version of your life or your business

Next week, I'm sitting down with Andy Core, Ph.D. — the author of the book that changed my life, Change Your Day, Not Your Life. He's spent 25 years figuring out exactly why we don't do what we know we should. You do not want to miss it.

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

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Sarah Connelly and I met at a conference in San Antonio last September. She's a chiropractor, a homeschool mom of two, married almost 14 years — and by every outward measure, her life looked full. On the inside, she was done. Burned out. Ready to walk away from being a doctor, a mom, a wife — from all of it.

What she didn't say out loud that day was what she was actually carrying: she'd lost her mom in 2022 and her dad in 2024, after bringing him into her home and caregiving him through cancer. In the middle of all that loss, even her therapist had to step away. She felt like everyone kept leaving.

She had the house, the practice, the credentials — every box checked — and still felt empty. The question she couldn't answer was the one so many of us carry: how can both be true? How do you grieve and still show up as a mother, a wife, a doctor?

In this conversation, Sarah shares what actually shifted things — not another to-do list, not more information, but learning to notice her own thoughts and choose a softer one. She talks about the moment inner work replaced years of "understanding" her grief without ever moving through it — and yes, the time she told me, "I hired you and I fired my therapist" (don't worry — she kept the therapist too).

If you've ever had everything on paper and still felt like you were running a rat race — this one's for you. Keep searching. Keep listening. You are not alone.

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What if you didn't have to choose? In this episode, Helen shares a concept that changed everything for her — the moment her own coach responded to a frustrated, fearful voicemail with one question: "What if both could be true?"

Helen walks through the pattern she's carried most of her life — a need for control, for certainty, for things to go a specific way — and how it showed up everywhere from nursing school to marriage to infertility. She shares real, personal examples of what it looks like to hold two true things at once: being hurt and still worthy, having been unkind and still forgiven, longing for something you don't have and still recognizing what you already carry as a gift.

You'll also hear the moment a client's anxious thought — "I can't do this" — got traced back to its root: "I made it up." A reminder that so much of what runs our lives, we manufactured ourselves.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Loving What Is by Byron Katie

• I Can Only Imagine 2 (film)

Next week: Helen sits down with her friend Sarah, a chiropractor who looked like she had it all together — and was quietly done. Their conversation goes straight into grief, control, and what it actually took for Sarah to come home to herself. You don't want to miss it.

This episode is sponsored by Pink Salt Riot — a woman-owned Christian company making wearable, everyday reminders of the truth. Use code LENSOFLOVE10 at checkout for 10% off at pinksaltriot.com.

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In this special anniversary episode of Through the Lens of Love, I welcome my very first guest — my husband, Cory Eimers.

After nineteen years of marriage, Cory and I reflect on the love, faith, vulnerability, and inner healing that have shaped our life together. We share how our different personalities balance one another, why kindness matters during difficult conversations, and how Cory supported me through seasons when I struggled to accept myself.

We also talk about the importance of prayer, setting goals together, and Cory's heartfelt desire to make sure our family reaches Heaven.

In this episode:

• Choosing kindness during difficult conversations
• How vulnerability can strengthen a marriage
• Supporting your spouse through inner healing
• Building a relationship grounded in prayer and faith
• Learning from each other's different strengths
• Setting meaningful goals as a couple
• Our journey through nineteen years of marriage

Whether you're married, preparing for marriage, or navigating your own journey of healing and growth, this conversation is a reminder that lasting love is built through faith, honesty, patience, and the daily decision to choose one another.

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or ten years, I longed to start a podcast — but something kept holding me back.

In this first episode of Through the Lens of Love, I share why I waited, how starting for the wrong reasons created resistance in me, and what finally gave me the clarity to say yes.

I reflect on a powerful healing Mass I attended in 2025, the role prayer and journaling played in my journey, and the moment God gave me a vision of heart-shaped glasses — a reminder to see myself, others, my business, and the world through His lens of love.

In this episode, I talk about:

• Why our motivations matter when pursuing a calling
• Taking ownership of a personal relationship with God
• Finding clarity through prayer, reflection, and journaling
• How curiosity can deepen our faith
• Choosing compassion instead of judgment
• What it means to see life through the lens of love

If you've ever delayed something you felt called to do, questioned where God was leading you, or desired a deeper connection with your faith — this episode is an invitation to slow down, listen, and see what becomes possible when you look through the lens of love.

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