Being trans in this world takes courage, but you know what? It SHOULDN'T. That doesn't change the reality though, so I invite you to come along on an adventure with childhood Tilly to learn about the dangers, and rewards, of facing your fears and doing things even if you're scared. Fintech warrior CJ joins us once again to discuss misgendering yourself, needle museums, and cheese and wine supremacy! Enjoy the happy bubbles!

CJ

Twitter: @omnienby

Insta: Glaamhaven, Omnienby

TikTok: Omnienby

Facebook: CJ Brittain

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

The Past (and why it can haunt those of us who transition as adults), Searching for Meaning (when you're trans and don't know it), The Fear of Embracing Your True Self (Halloween, makeup, and hair dye), Hair, and Hair 2

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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When you're a kid (or adult!) who's trans but doesn't yet know it, you end up searching for answers about yourself and why the world feels so broken. And you end up looking everywhere... including places that might be the last that you'd expect. We're joined by CJ to discuss boobs or no boobs, how we need better words, and how we should just call everyone "Captain." Sometimes you just want to eat your Nando's.

CJ

Twitter: @omnienby

Insta: Glaamhaven, Omnienby

TikTok: Omnienby

Facebook: CJ Brittain

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

Boymode/Girlmode, Gender Dysphoria, Gender Euphoria, Finding Our Own Representation (P!nk), Finding Our Own Representation/The New Past (KJ and Paper Girls), Physical Representation

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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Clothes, clothes, clothes! The friend, and enemy, of every trans person. Why are they so dang heavily gendered and weird? Why are men's clothes so bland? What the heck is up with pockets (or lack thereof) and buttons (and the side-switching thereof)?! Ezekiel Strange joins us once again, and he encourages you to ~See the Wizards~! We're also gonna talk about what trans men and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles have in common, and British/European F-boys. I'm a popsicle, and I have no butt!

EZEKIEL STRANGE

Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy

Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

The Fear of Embracing Your True Self (Halloween, makeup, hair dye), Unexpected Bonuses of Transition, Gender Euphoria, The False Dichotomy, Trans Body Hacking, Photos 2 (the selfie apocalypse, aka the new gender dysphoria/euphoria)

REFERENCE MATERIAL

Beau Brummell Wasn’t a Hero of Modern Men’s Fashion. He Was a Villain. A Boring, Uptight Villain.

https://www.esquire.com/style/mens-fashion/a26870204/beau-brummell-style-toxic-masculinity/

The Politics of Pockets

https://www.vox.com/2016/9/19/12865560/politics-of-pockets-suffragettes-women

Here’s Why Men’s and Women’s Clothes Button on Opposite Sides

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/heres-why-mens-and-womens-clothes-button-opposite-sides-1-180957361/

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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This should come as no surprise, but trans men exist. They're real human beings, actually! So why are they so often forgotten, both in ways that harm them and that harm the rest of the trans community? The answer may not surprise you, and involves willful ignorance. We're joined by astounding artist Ezekiel Strange to discuss this very important topic, and also how failing upward is not aspirational and how men's bathrooms are gross (it's true). Remember that even if it's scary, you can do it, and you're not the first one to go through it. I can't be contained!

EZEKIEL STRANGE

Twitter: @ohheymonsterboy

Nox Hill webcomic: noxhillcomic.com

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

Trans Rage (stop forgetting about us), Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Trans Intersectionality, Trans Rep in Media 2022, Trans Sports

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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Visibility is a double-edged sword. We need to be out to be seen and respected, but doing so puts a target on our back to the bigoted portions of the population. Further complicating things is not just the gatekeeping done by some gas station hot dogs within the trans community, but the gatekeeping that we do to ourselves. We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss how acknowledging the binaries helps us find the space between them, and how you get to be who you are, and nobody else gets to tell you who that is.

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

Sexuality is not Gender, The Signs Were Always There (that we're trans), Body Hacking, Gender Dysphoria

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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Trans representation (and rep for people from all marginalized communities) is sparse, and when it does happen it's often harmful. And so we have to look elsewhere to see ourselves reflected in our media, and that's what finding our own representation is all about. And we're going to discuss a very personal and meaningful bit of art I've found my own representation in, P!nk. And that involves me spilling my soul and feeling really exposed, so... hope you're ready for that! We're joined by Melissa Hearne to discuss what being genderfluid means to them, how being us helps others be themselves, and how you can wake up each day and just be whatever you want to be.

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

The False Dichotomy, The New Past (finding our own representation, KJ and Paper Girls)

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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So what the heck is the false dichotomy? It's opposing options that are presented as the ONLY options, it permeates absolutely every part of our society, and it harms all of us, even cis people. But don't buy into it! Life doesn't fit into neat little boxes, nor should it. Library Girl Mina Martinez Oldham joins us again, and we also discuss the importance of being seen and how playing is part of experimenting... and also cute non-binary librarians, culinary cruelty, and how trans women go where no man has gone before. Oh, also? I'm sunshine!

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM

library-girl.com

minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

T*RFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists, aka transphobic bigots), Body Hacking

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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Intersectionality! It's vital for every marginalized community, including us trans folks. But guess what? It doesn't (and can't) only apply to us, and people from other marginalized communities need US to be intersectional, too. We don't need to hurt others just to stand up for ourselves. We're joined by the Library Girl, Mina Martinez Oldham​, to remind you that you support people from other marginalized communities is by listening to them, and believing them... just like we need cis people to do for us. You're also gonna learn how eggs recognize eggs, how coming out never ends, and how my breasts are perfect (listen, they just are).

MINA MARTINEZ OLDHAM

library-girl.com

minaoldham.com

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

Privilege (in general, and that of cis people), Privilege (mine), The Only Trans Person You Know

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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Body hacking?! You better believe it. And we all do it, trans and cis alike. Learn all about it and gain a better understanding of how we're all really more alike than you might think. We're again joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and we're here to remind you there's no roadmap to transition. Everyone's on their own journey, and yours is valid whatever it may be. And hey, you also get to learn about capes and Spider-Man, and how I very much like being alive!

JACK KNOXVILLE

Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered

jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

Hormone Replacement Therapy (and patience), Freeing Up My Brain (aka Lunch with Tilly), Gender Euphoria, Gender Dysphoria, The Intentional Trans Allegories of The Matrix

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

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What happens when allies aren't allies? What happens when their allyship is only performative? And what happens when it goes a step further, and becomes not just performative but also outright transphobic? You're gonna find out! We're joined by Jack Knoxville of the Trans Empowerment Project, and talk about clothing swaps, how being called on your bigotry is not equal to your actual bigotry, and how trans people are all such badasses (it's true!). And cis friends, remember that when you see transphobia, saying nothing makes it worse. We don't need you to be perfect, we just need you to TRY. Ask how to help if you're not sure!

JACK KNOXVILLE

Twitter: @jacktivism101, @trans_empowered

jackknoxville.com, transempowerment.org

FURTHER READING

(topics discussed with essays available at TillysTransTuesdays.com)

No Escape 2 (some escape due to cis allyship), Performative Allyship, What Real Cis Acceptance Looks Like, Implicit Queerphobia

Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music.

Please stop by and show your support at daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and soundcloud.com/daisyandjane

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Website: pendantaudio.com

Twitter: @pendantweb

Facebook: facebook.com/pendantaudio

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YouTube: youtube.com/pendantproductions