What if the strength of your relationship isn’t built in the big moments — but in the small ones you barely notice? In this episode, Angela explores the power of “turning toward” your partner through everyday micro-moments of connection. Drawing from the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this conversation breaks down what bids for connection look like in real life, why they matter so deeply, and how tiny, intentional responses can rebuild closeness, trust, and emotional safety over time.

Relationship Reset Challenge

This week, practice turning toward intentionally: Notice one bid for connection each day and respond with presence — a look, a question, a touch, or a few moments of attention. At the end of the day, reflect: Did I turn toward love today?

Resources Mentioned

• Gottman: gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (John Gottman)
• Hold Me Tight + drsuejohnson.com
• gottman.com/couples/
• Arms Open Counselling resources and blog posts: www.armsopencounselling.com

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Presented by: Angela Kingma

Edited by: Tayte McHugh