Boss Mamas Mindset

Tips and tools for sharing the mental load with your partner

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This is the last episode of season 2 and I am excited to end the season talking about something we all experience and find challenging, especially in 2020 with COVID - sharing the mental load with your partner. I am joined by my husband, Janne Kyttanen, to discuss openly and honestly the journey to finding OUR balance as working parents. It hasn't been easy and we have made our share of mistakes, but one thing has always been important - which remains to be the glue that holds us together, or sometimes tears us apart - communication.

In this episode, we share the different approaches for having this discussion and which one leads to better results.  We look briefly at how our childhood experiences shape how we view the roles (consciously or subconsciously) and the importance of rewiring our brains as a result. We also look at relevant discussions going on in the media to shed light on the fact that there isn't anyone, whether a famous celebrity or the President of the United States, who doesn't face these struggles. We also recommend a few tips and tricks that we rely on in order to help us get closer to 50/50. 

And if you listen until the very end, you will find out what Janne (and maybe a lot of men) really want for Christmas. I am certain the answer won't surprise you but it might slightly irritate you. Ladies, keep an open mind and have fun with this episode. The ultimate goal is that you are inspired and encouraged to continue following your passions around motherhood and it starts by working on what that means for you and your relationship - together, breaking down any personal, cultural or societal barriers that stand in your way.

Highlights

  • “Less about you and me and more about us. If we are going to solve something, let’s both take responsibility.” [20.00]
  • “I’m only starting to unravel where my reactions come from. And then I ask myself ‘Why am I only reacting in a certain way?’....By trying to dig deeper, you begin to understand where it all comes from?” [22.57]
  • “Typically women want to just get things off their chest…with a response of those 4 words - ‘...how can I help?’” [23.00]
  • “Men are typically problem solvers. How do we do it? We go into our cave and try to solve it ourselves.” [24.00]
  • "What are the benefits to you when we get closer to 50/50?....Overcoming childhood dilemmas. Happy wife happy life.” [24.50]
  • “We want so bad not to become something, that we end up becoming it. It’s like the self fulfilling prophecy.” [25.00]
  • “I want to be present with my children but I also need my own space.” [26.00]

    • About Janne Kyttanen 

    With his revolutionary work in 3D printing design as well as creating and implementing forward thinking solutions to maximize the growth of the 3D industry across a variety of businesses, Janne is known as the “3D Guy”. Learn more about him on his website or follow him on Instagram.

    About Laura Kyttanen

    As founder/CEO of Zielo Studio - business and mindset coaching for boss mamas. She is a mama of two and lives in Amsterdam. Follow Laura on Instagram

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