The challenge of Tisha B'Av is that we are being called upon to feel the pain of the loss of the Beis HaMikdash when we have never experienced the Beis HaMikdash. What we can feel is the pain of the shechina who longs to have a place in our world once again. Feeling the pain of another requires a strong sense of self which can only come from tapping in to the Godly soul that dwells within each of us. In this shiur, delivered at NCSY Kollel on Tisha B'Av, Rav Burg takes us through three stories, the story of Kamtza and Bar Kamtza, the story of Tur Malka, and the story of Beitar, amd shows how in each of these stories a lack of self expressed itself in the lack of feeling for another.