This is the second episode in our miniseries revisiting my 2017 article, Portrait Of A Marriage. (Yes, It's Mine.)
In this episode we talk about top-down and bottom-up processing and how communication is not the magic cipher we have been led to believe!
I share my story of how the stress of our relationship somatized into physical symptoms that required us to call 911. And we get into tender territory about what patriarchy looked like in our marriage and how it's related to Ruben's current experience with severe burnout.
The key resource we recommend to everyone trying to bring feminist cultural analysis to relationship building:
The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity and Love, bell hooks
Shauna Janz' work:
Sacred Grief with Shauna Janz
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TNP195 Portrait of a Marriage Part Two

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If you're a 35 - 55 year old woman, you grew up in the very particular cultural landscape of the pre-#MeToo era. You grew up with boy-centered stories like The Outsiders, Stand By Me, Goonies and The Lost Boys, the  everyday male violence and misogyny of entertainers like Andrew Dice Clay and Sam Kinison, and hypersexualized movies and music like Porky's and "Me So Horny" – LOTS TO UNPACK THERE. Time to revisit and tell our own stories.
Emelia Symington Fedy's memoir, Skid Dogs, is a brave, bittersweet coming-of-age story about a group of high school girls in the '90s navigating friendship, sex, and parents from the retrospective view of a now 30-something woman supporting her mother's cancer journey.
Content Warning: We're talking about rape culture, sexual assault, and gender-based violence in this episode, the impacts still felt decades on, and the process of sexual healing as middle aged women.
We also get a little explicit with the language so…headphones highly recommended!
This is a raw and riveting coming-of-age story about the wild love of teenage friendships and the casual oppression of 90s rape culture, and to be honest it was so searingly accurate I had to wait a minute and gather myself before I invited @emeliasf to come on the show to discuss it.
Publisher's Weekly describes it this way:
“With plenty of Juicy Fruit, padded bras, and pot smoke, the narrative begins as a nostalgia-tinted reverie before evolving into a devastating portrait of the pre-#MeToo era from someone on the other side of it. The author’s candor and courage will move readers regardless of when or where they came of age.” 
Buy Skid Dogs at your favourite local bookseller or the alternative.
Sign up for Emelia's newsletter on her website.
 
Reach out to a Crisis Line to debrief:
Canadian mental health resources
American mental health resources
International Suicide Hotlines
 
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TNP229 What It Feels Like for A Girl with Emelia Symington Fedy

Content Note: This is a very honest and frank conversation about our topic – modern dating. You may want to listen to this one through headphones! We’ve got a really FUN episode ahead with Canada’s Dating Coach, Chantal Heide, who has some great advice for all the women who are trying, so far unsuccessfully, to date men.
Honestly, I think this might be my new comfort listen. It's so soothing to hear someone preach about sovereignty and self-love and high standards!
Chantal is the author of several books on dating and relationships, among them the notable title, No More Assholes: Your 7 Step Guide to Saying Goodbye to Guys and Finding the Real Man You’re Looking For. 
Chantal's approach to dating is at once more conservative and more radical than most. From a neurobiological attachment perspective, I have no notes. Very sound advice. I never did it this way, but if I was single and wanting to date a man, I'd do it this way.
Check out CanadasDatingCoach.com and follow Chantal:
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TNP228 New Rules for Dating with Canada's Dating Coach Chantal Heide

When I tell you that a tarot book is one of the best antiracism workbooks I’ve ever come across, I hope you take note. I honestly think if anyone, whether an adept or a newer student of antiracism, were to pick up Tarot for the Hard Work, it would keep them busy with exercises and practices for the rest of their lives. And, not incidentally, forge a deeper relationship with their tarot practice.
The author and my guest for this episode is Maria Minnis, a tarot reader who teaches about blending spirituality with liberation work. 
Tarot for the Hard Work is a provocative exploration of the twenty-two cards of the Major Arcana that re envisions these archetypes as beacons that illuminate the various ways racism takes root both in ourselves and in the world. With exercises and thought-provoking recommended reading and resources, readers are guided to use Major Arcana themes to dismantle internalized racism, racism in relationships, and racism in communities.
This book exceeded my expectations and I wholeheartedly recommend it.
Buy the Book
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Referenced in this Episode
I’m Embracing the Term ‘People of the Global Majority’, by Daniel Lim
"Global Majority" Wikipedia entry
Who Are People of the Global Majority and Why It Matters, by Britt Hawthorne
My Grandmother's Hands, Resmaa Menakem
They Called Me Number One, Bev Sellars 
I Am Woman, Lee Maracle
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TNP222 Podcast Playlists for Special Interests 10 Years + 14 Themes
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Percentage of Asymptomatic Infections among SARS-CoV-2 Omicron Variant-Positive Individuals: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis
Face Masks and Respirators in the Fight Against the COVID-19 Pandemic: A Review of Current Materials, Advances and Future Perspectives
The People's Public Health Education Campaign is a project of the People's Oracle, Dayna Lynn Nuckolls - follow her on Instagram Twitter or Facebook for more!

TNP227 Tarot for the Hard Work with Maria Minnis

I am a huge fan of Wayne McCrory's book, The Wild Horses of the Chilcotin: Their History and Future. Wayne McCrory is a registered professional biologist specializing in the study of wild horses, bears and western toads.
Wayne is a leading expert on bear conservation and human-bear conflict. He was a driving force in the creation of the Khutzeymateen/K’tzim-a-deen Grizzly Sanctuary as well as the Kitasoo Spirit Bear Conservancy, and for 30 years he worked with many others to end B.C.’s grizzly bear trophy hunt.
Wayne has published more than ninety scientific reports on wildlife and conservation, including two technical reports on wild horses in BC and Alberta. With horse genetics expert Dr. Gus Cothran, he has coauthored two reports on the genetics of wild horses in the Chilcotin.
In Wild Horses of the Chilcotin, there’s also kind of a low key mystical aspect to the book too - through the sharing of his dreams and experiences on the land, you get the sense that there’s an underlying subtext around a scientist encountering his spiritual self and seeking to defend and protect something bigger, something ineffable yet essential to the human spirit.
 
Buy the book: The Wild Horses of the Chilcotin: Their History and Future
Learn more about the Elegesi Qiyus (Eagle Lake Henry) Wild Horse Preserve of the Xeni Gwet'in
Watch In the Valley of Wild Horses on YouTube about the Xeni community 
Friends of the Nemaiah Valley
 
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The Once and Future World: Nature As It Was, As It Is, As It Could Be, JB MacKinnon
Sharon Astyk re: collapse
Yvonne Owens
Recent mask effectiveness research and NIOSH citation by Consumer Reports
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TNP226 Wild Horses of the Chilcotin with Wayne McCrory

Looking back and looking forward, standing on threshold with a full decade of The Numinous Podcast behind me, I share 10 Qualities of Leadership, 3 secrets about the show, plus a bonus secret and another extra special bonus secret, a clip of my favourite 15 minutes out of the 10,000+ minutes of the show, and I cry a few times, of course.
So it's a pretty full episode with a good dose of edu-tainment!
Thank you so much for your support over the years.
 
Mentioned in this episode:
Barefoot doctors
Mirabella Ponders the Mystery
Grieving Susan and Civilization with Michael Phillips
Pollution is Colonialism, Max Liboiron
Thank you to Thanh Mai K'Taaya of SpringUp for language around self-harm and self-determination.
 
The People's Public Health Education is a project led by The People's Oracle, Dayna Lynn Nuckolls, that seeks to create art and belonging around staying Covid-Safe during the on-going SARS-CoV-2 epidemic. Join us for the organizing meeting on April 3, 2024 (or receive the materials if you can't attend).
 
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TNP195 Portrait of a Marriage Part Two

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