Dads-to-be are still missing pregnancy milestones, despite lockdown measures easing in other areas of life.
As well as missing highs such as scans and hearing their baby’s heartbeat, some are also having to be absent during times of worry.
But a charity in the North West is on hand to provide support for those waiting in hospital car parks while their partners attend appointments and scans.
Dad Matters is a charity working across Greater Manchester to support dads during their child’s early years. They have a mobile stall at Bolton Hospital to provide support.
Project manager Kieran Anders said: “We’ve always known that to reach Dads with those crucial messages about early relationships and mental health, we need to go to them. This innovative way of meeting Dads during such unfathomable challenges means more will get those messages, understand their role and be able to find support when they need it.”
National guidelines state mums-to-be should attend appointments on their own.
Wrightington, Wigan and Leigh NHS Foundation trust confirmed dads are unable to attend appointments, while Lancashire Teaching Hospitals NHS Foundation Trust said dads were only allowed to attend the 20-week scan.
A spokesperson said: “We know that partners often like to attend antenatal appointments, however our priority must be the safety of all mums-to-be and their babies.
“This is why expectant mums are currently asked to attend antenatal appointments alone, with the exception of the 20 week scan where partners are welcome to attend. Individual arrangements are also made for women with exceptional support needs.”
Natalie Patterson, Specialist Perinatal Mental Health Midwives’ team leader at Bolton NHS FT said:“We know this is a difficult time for everyone due to the COVID 19 restrictions. As a maternity service we have been very aware that dads are missing out on being present during appointments, scans and the early hours and days after birth. Whilst this is necessary to ensure safety of patients and staff we want to acknowledge how hard this is for families expecting a baby.”
John Strange lives in Stalybridge and is set to become a dad for the first time in four weeks.
He said: “If you look at the bigger picture, this is affecting hundreds of people in the area, not to mention thousands across the UK.
“That’s why you need to remember that it will get resolved and we did have the feeling that if there were any health concerns, they were there.”