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"WHAT IS AN INTIMACY PROFESSIONAL?

Intimacy professionals for TV and film are experts on topics related to intimate material, including but not limited to sexuality, gender, relationships, and sex work. They are adept at telling the story of intimate moments on screen while keeping actors safe in the process. Intimacy professionals include intimacy coordinators, trans consultants, topic expert consultants, and choreographers. IPA is a network of knowledgeable intimacy professionals that promotes safe, high-quality work on topics of intimacy.

ETHICS

No actor should ever have to perform an intimate scene under duress. Historically it has not been uncommon for an actor to feel pressured to do more than the terms laid out in their nudity rider for fear of being fired or branded as being “difficult.” Intimacy coordinators ensure that content is being produced ethically by obtaining informed consent from actors regarding the level of nudity and simulated sex that characters will be engaging in. No actor is ever forced or pressured into doing something that makes them feel unsafe.

IPA members help to make sure scenes of intimacy and stories involving LGBTQIA+ (which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning, intersex, asexual, and other identities) characters or characters who are involved in an intimacy-related field (such as sex work or erotic dancing) are being told authentically. Working with an IPA member can help to not only make scenes look more real, but also make sure the production is accurately portraying the groups or communities being shown on screen." -Intimacy Professionals Association.

“I would require adult film sets, television sets, and movie sets to have sex coaches, sex therapists, sexual surrogate therapy partners, sexologists, sexeperts, pleasure coaches, sensuality coaches, eroticism coaches, pro-sex work therapists, pro-ethical non-monogamy experts, dating and relationships experts, couples counselors, and marriage and family therapists to kindly assist us with live scenes.” -Antonio Myers.

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“I decided to show the five erotic blueprint types (energetic, sensual, sexual, kinky, and shapeshifter) between adults and I (along with other intimacy professionals) narrate, give tips, and give cautionary warnings about trauma triggers, trauma stimulus’s, trauma stressors, trauma reminders, traumatic couplings, panic attacks, flashbacks, post-traumatic stress, trigger warnings, content warnings, acute stress disorders, content rating, emotional dysregulation, hypervigilance, repressed memories, and survivor guilt relating to sex, sexuality, eroticism, sensuality, romance, and interpersonal relationships.” -Antonio Myers.

“There are 5 Core Erotic Blueprints™EXPERIENCE AND UNDERSTAND ALL 5 BLUEPRINTS

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Energetic: Turned on by anticipation, space and tease; prefers light or hovering touch

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Sensual: Turned on by all of their senses being engaged, ambiance, romance, and sensory play

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Sexual: Turned on by straightforward sex, nudity, orgasms, penetration and direct genital contact

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Kinky: Turned on by power dynamics, anything that feels taboo to them, and pushing edges

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Shapeshifter: Is turned on by everything above, they are sexually sophisticated and desire variety.” -https://flavorsofpleasure.com/the-erotic-blueprints.

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“Due to my career also known as my calling, I decided to make the voluntary choices in regards to my marital status to not be married, to not have children, to not own pets, and to not live with anyone. I have the spiritual gift of singleness. However, I am open to life placing me in a family man role (spouse, offspring, pet, and living with all three in a singular residency. It is also possible that life may not put me in the family man role. Either way, I 💯 enjoy my life.” Antonio Myers.

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“ I discuss that the professionally coded ethics regarding sex, dating, romance, sensuality, friendships, and interpersonal relations are of complications, problems, issues, contradictions, conflicts, intricacies, twists, turns, convolutions, entanglements, obstacles, stumbling blocks, impediments, hurdles, and drawbacks.” -Antonio Myers.

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"Sensory-friendly environments focus on adjusting elements that might be overwhelming. It may include some or all of these adaptations:

Reduced Noise: Lowering background music, eliminating beeping noises, and providing noise-canceling headphones.

Softer Lighting: Dimming the lights, avoiding fluorescent overhead lights, and adding lamps for a warm glow.

Calming Colors: Using muted and neutral colors on walls and decor.

Reduced Visual Clutter: Minimizing distractions and keeping things organized.

Designated Quiet Spaces: Offering quiet areas to decompress and regain composure.

Sensory Tools: Providing weighted blankets, fidgets, or other tools for self-regulation.

Auditory (Sound): Difficulty tolerating loud noises, background music, or multiple people talking.

Visual (Sight): Sensitivity to bright lights, fluorescent lights, flashing lights, or busy patterns.

Tactile (Touch): Dislike of certain textures, tags on clothing, or tight-fitting clothes.

Olfactory (Smell): Aversion to specific scents or strong odors.

Proprioceptive (Movement): Difficulty with balance, coordination, or a sense of body awareness.

Interoceptive (Internal body sensations): Sensitivity to hunger, thirst, needing to use the bathroom, or body temperature." _What Does Sensory Friendly Mean? (getgoally.com).

"An intimacy coordinator, sometimes called an intimacy director,[1] is a member of a film or television crew who ensures the well-being of actors and actresses who participate in sex scenes or other intimate scenes in theater, film and television production. Intimacy coordinators work closely with directors, movement directors, and choreographers to help plan out intimate scenes with the actors and other crew members.[2]

The role of intimacy coordinator is not to be confused with that of an "intimacy choreographer", who specializes in the techniques of staging intimate scenes.[5]" -Wikipedia.

“As a future sensory-friendly intimacy coach, I am for sensory-friendly mainstream pornography, sensory-friendly ethical pornography, sensory-friendly independent pornography, sensory-friendly feminist pornography, sensory-friendly sex-positive pornography, and sensory-friendly alternative pornography.” -Antonio Myers.

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“Celibacy is living a life without sexual relationships or activity. It can be a choice, but it may also be involuntary. “Celibacy typically applies to sexual activity such as penetrative intercourse; however, someone that has chosen celibacy may abstain from other activities, such as intimate kissing.” -Choosing Therapy. “Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a culturally and often legally recognised union between people called spouses. It establishes rights and obligations between them, as well as between them and their children (if any), and between them and their in-laws.[1]” -Wikipedia.

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“Serial cheaters are people who cheat several times in an exclusive relationship or monogamous relationship. It is a pattern of cheating that can be seen whenever this person has a committed relationship. Infidelity can be physical or emotional. Serial cheaters do not have their partners’ consent, and they keep their partners in the dark about their unethical behavior. Unlike a one-time cheater, serial cheaters are rogues and cheat to satisfy their needs. It is challenging for them to change their behavior since they are confused about why it is a mistake.” -Written by Shikha Thakur, MBA.

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" Conversely, some rape survivors become hyper-sexual or promiscuous following sexual attacks, sometimes as a way to reassert a measure of control over their sexual relations." -Wikipedia.

We talked about the male misogyny-inspired promiscuity in their families in the form of serial cheating.

"Serial cheating simply means that someone has cheated on a partner more than once." -Verywellmind.

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“In this episode, I discuss how it’s okay for me to desire family man living, but not grant myself that because of my demanding career, my demanding hobbies, and my demanding audiences.” -Antonio Myers.

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"When you have a child with special needs, your marriage is much more likely to be stressed. This is demonstrated by the numbers: Surveys show that the rate of divorce in families with a child with disabilities may be as high as 87%. The divorce rate in families with a child with autism is about 80%.." _Divorce and Special Needs Children | Psychology Today.

"If the learning curve about autism is not shared, the divide can start here. Or it can start when the child doesn’t run up to daddy when he walks through the door at the end of the day. The mother feels guilty that she has done something wrong. Maybe dad feels rejected. Is this the cause for divorce? Or is it that the spouses already do not have an effective communication and commitment in place? Is one partner less committed to the marriage to begin with? Maybe someone read that autism causes divorce and the message deteriorates the confidence and strength we actually need in our relationships? These are but some of the questions that need to be asked prior to assuming that autism is the reason for higher divorce rates." -

A Single Mom's View of Autism Divorce Rates — THINKING PERSON'S GUIDE TO AUTISM (thinkingautismguide.com).

"The percentages of black marriages ending in divorce for the survey respondents was 47.9%. Again, this was the highest among the respondents. Next, was the Hispanic category at 45.5% of first marriages ending in divorce. Last, we have the All Other with the lowest percentage of first marriages ending in divorce. The percentage for “All Others” was 43.7%."-8 Important Black Marriage and Divorce Metrics - Black Statistics.

"Black women divorce at a higher rate (38.9%) than women of any other race." -Divorce Rate in America: 50+ Divorce Statistics [Updated 2024].

"Don't Pass Judgment

It's easy to come in from the outside and judge another person's parenting choices, and single mothers often face scrutiny for having children outside of a traditional married couple.5

This behavior will not be welcomed or healthy for your relationship. Instead of passing judgment, do your best to acknowledge that being a single parent is very difficult, and try to view their choices and lifestyle from a place of helpfulness, compassion, restraint, and curiosity." _

Tips for Dating a Single Mom (verywellmind.com).

"But single Christians make up a large proportion of Christians, especially in their twenties and thirties. And single women are disproportionately represented, since women outnumber men in the church already.

One of the big reasons single women are often ostracized is that they are viewed as threats to men.

Men can’t look at single women because they have to “bounce their eyes” so they don’t stray.

Jesus didn’t act that way. Jesus didn’t ignore women or avoid women. Jesus sat in situations that would be socially unacceptable because He wanted people to see that He valued women as people–not as sexual commodities. He didn’t see them as threats to Him. He saw them as valuable individuals." -by Sheila Wray Gregoire.

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