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In 1991 Wendy Maltz LCSW developed the HealthySex™ nightshirt to help survivors of sexual abuse and others understand healthy sexuality. The nightshirt evolved from a workshop exercise in which participants brainstormed positive qualities of sex.

As you read the qualities below, identify which ones are present and true in your sexual relating. If you identify qualities that are often lacking, you may want to concentrate on learning more about them and integrating these qualities into your lovemaking in the future.

Healthy sex is. . .

. . . for me!

We believe that healthy sexuality requires that these five basic conditions be met:

Consent, Equality, Respect, Trust, and Safety

Let’s look at each of these conditions more closely:

CONSENT means you can freely and comfortably choose whether or not to engage in sexual activity. This means you are conscious, informed, and able to stop the activity at any time during the sexual contact.

EQUALITY means your sense of personal power is on an equal level with your partner. Neither of you dominates or intimidates the other.

RESPECT means you have positive regard for yourself and for your partner. You also feel respected by your partner based on how your partner is treating you.

TRUST means you trust your partner on physical and emotional levels. You accept each other’s needs and vulnerabilities and are able to respond to concerns with sensitivity.

SAFETY means you feel secure and safe within the sexual setting. You are comfortable with and assertive about where, when and how the sexual activity takes place. You feel safe from the possibility of negative consequences, such as unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infection, and physical injury.

Spending time together and engaging in lots of honest, open communication are good ways to make sure that the CERTS conditions are operating in your relationship. That’s why we often recommend you build a strong friendship with a partner first, before becoming lovers.

Meeting the CERTS conditions does not ensure that you’ll experience terrific sex, but it can help you feel secure knowing you’ve minimized the possibility of something bad resulting from your sexual experiences.

(These five CERTS conditions were first presented in Wendy Maltz and Beverly Holman’s Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing, Lexington, MA: Lexington Books, 1987.)"

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No illegalities allowed, and no betrayals allowed! 

I am a Kissing prodigy!

Have you ever tried to kiss someone whose lips were chapped? Yea, it's not great. So make a point of prepping your lips before a kiss by applying lip balm. If you don't have any on hand, sip some water or quickly moisten your lips before leaning in, and the kiss will be much more pleasurable.

If you know that your chance of kissing is high, you might want to skip smelly foods like garlic, raw onions, cabbage, broccoli, and excessive coffee and liquor — whiskey especially. These items, although delicious, can do a number on not just our mouths, but our stomachs.

Bad breath isn't always found on our tongue, but can make its way up the throat from the pits of the bowels, and will be extra strong after eating these foods. While it's not the end of the world, knowing your breath is fresh will make for a better kiss, because you won't be holding back.

You never know when a kiss could happen, so having mints or some sort of minty candy or gum on hand is a great idea. But, let's say for the sake of argument, your roommate stole the last of your minty freshness from your bag. In that case, a lemon is a pretty decent second choice. The citrus can neutralize bad breath. If you're in a restaurant, all you have to do is ask your serve for a slice of lemon, and drop it in your water.

Now, to get into the actual act of kissing, remember that it’s all about compromise — especially if you and your partner don’t have the same technique. Not everyone kisses the same way, which is why it's often a matter of meeting in the middle. You know, a proper give and take. So, if you notice you have different techniques, try letting your partner lead the way...

Or, if things are going in a territory that isn’t your kissing scene, then take the reins and lead the way. There's nothing wrong with taking over a bit when it comes to kissing, or showing someone what you like.

Some folks are timid with their kisses, while others have never really learned how to kiss. Think of it this way, by taking control you'll be helping your kissing partner and bringing to their life the joy of the perfect kiss.

A really awesome make-out session is about the neck, the earlobes, the collarbone, the cheeks, and maybe a bit of play-biting, too, if everyone is OK with it. It's also about occasionally stopping and looking at each other, or maybe even telling them how much you enjoy kissing them. Don't be afraid to move past the lips!

7. Educate Yourself About Other Erogenous Zones

While your lips are packed full of sensitive nerves, they're not the only erogenous zones in that general area. There's the neck and earlobes, as I mentioned above, but the shoulders and fingertips, too. Erogenous zones love as much attention as they can get, and in touching and stimulating them, you're making your kiss that much better.

If the kiss isn’t going well, don’t be afraid to say something about it and suggest trying it again. If your partner values your input, they definitely want to hear what you have to say.

In turn, open your mind (and ears) to their input on your kissing, too. Sometimes your lips and tongues can only haggle so much before you just need to stop and talk about it. It will be a learning experience for both of you.

https://dev.to/jamiepo/seven-common-characteristics-of-creative-thinking-3i94

Conviction

Complexity

Wide Range of Interests

Receptivity

Curiosity

Attentiveness

"Realizing that every experience is valuable, creative people pay attention to seemingly minor details." My belief is that everything is interconnected. I'm constantly finding myself connected to objects like paper or materials like cement, because i think, how they can be transformed. Pay attention to the details, they're how you get to a functional big picture."

Connection Seeking

"Seeing the similarity among seemingly disparate parts has often sparked a creative breakthrough." This harks back to making connections, once we are receptive to new ideas, we see how even opposites are connected."

Epiphany Jordan is a caregiver, and nurturer by nature and profession. From running a guesthouse, to hosting large events, to managing busy executives’ lives, she brings humor, wisdom, patience, and acceptance to her interactions with other people. Epiphany is the author of the forthcoming book Somebody Hold Me: The Single Person’s Guide to Nurturing Human Touch which will be published in 2019.

She has a B.A. in journalism and considers herself a grammar geek. In the past, she has worked as a bartender, journalist, cigarette girl, legal assistant, and advice columnist. She has been reading tarot for 30 years and finds it to be a fascinating study into archetypal human experiences.

In addition to Karuna Sessions, Epiphany also runs her sister business, Blue Star Temple, in Austin, TX. She has been trained by the Institute for Mind Body Therapy to work with therapists to provide integrated care to clients and has also studied with The Body Electric School.

Her favorite element is water, and she can often be found under the trees on the side of the hill at Barton Springs. Her mantra is “evolution, not revolution” and she considers herself a social artist, painting visions of how things could be on the canvas of our world.

I believe in a world where we can write our own stories. And we’re past time to make them better than the old version.

Websites: https://bluestartemple.com/about-blue-star-temple/about-me/ and https://www.nurturinghumantouch.com/

Relevant article she wrote: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/human-touch-covid19_n_5eb2da79c5b6f8deb4ead85b

Necessary Disclaimer: We are anti-racism, we appreciate white people and white allies.

Dr. Tanisha King is an Author, Public Speaker and Consultant, as well as a three-time alumna of the University of Illinois at Urbana- Champaign. Dr. King currently serves as the Chief Inclusion Officer for the Heritage College of Osteopathic Medicine at Ohio University, where she is also an Adjunct Professor

“Dr. Tanisha King is a powerful and engaging speaker. I first saw her as emcee of a Social Justice Awards dinner and I couldn’t take my eyes off her. I immediately knew that I wanted to cast her as a featured speaker in the 2019 production of “That’s What She Said” in Champaign-Urbana. Dr. King shared a captivating story of her life, enlightening the audience as to what it was like to grow up on the South Side of Chicago and find her way to maturity, independence and success. She honored the women who showed her support along the way and demonstrated to everyone in the audience that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Her delivery was passionate and deliberate and she brought the entire audience on a journey with her until the end when hundreds of women stood to cheer for her. I am grateful to know Dr. King and would encourage anyone to find a way to hear her at a speaking engagement. You will be transformed.”

Jenettee Jurczyk National Director of The She Said Project

“Tanisha King hit a homerun as the keynote speaker at the Illinois & Indiana TRiO Conference ”

Michael Jeffries, Special Assistant, Council of Opportunity in Education

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Emmy Award-winning actor Bill Myers is an accomplished actor, jazz musician, filmmaker, writer, educator, and speaker. As a bi-racial man who is both black and white, Bill leverages his background, talents, and voice through creativity, compassion, and connection as activism for social justice to focus on uniting the divide and compelling change. In a civic leadership capacity, he has served as President of the African American Jazz Caucus in NYC, member of the Indianapolis Cultural Development Committee, and served as President of the Indianapolis Downtown Optimist Club. In addition to his Emmy Award, Bill has received many awards and notable commissions for his work including being commissioned by the Indianapolis Museum of Art to create an original work for Dr. Martin Luther King Day entitled “The Music, Martin & Me.” Bill Myers seeks to encourage, enlighten, and empower others through the power of entertainment to affect social justice. 

CONTACT [email protected], 317-519-5842, Bill Myers Inspires Podcast Show

TESTIMONIALS “Could not be happier about Bill Myers Inspires being a new host on the Inspired Choices Network and coming out of the starting gate with his first show today like a rocket! Had such a powerful voice and advocate for anti-racism join him in this necessary and important conversation, Dixon White. I loved this honest show so very much! I cannot wait to hear more in the coming weeks, months and years! Thank you, gentlemen!” –Inspired Choices Network Executive Producer 

“Bill, I am still on a happiness hangover... so appreciate your authenticity and transparency... you are such a rock star in a special way.” –Suzi W. “Thank you for the light that you shine in our community!” –Richard B. “Walk the Talk wouldn't have been the same without you, Bill!” –Steven R. “Bill Myers just BLEW EVERYBODY OUT THE BUILDING! Awesome presentation!... but I didn't expect anything less!" –Kathy J.

His website: https://www.billmyersinspires.com/