Too Much, Apparently

Ever felt like you’re too sensitive to run a business?Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists trying to build something meaningful without losing themselves in the process) get real about what it’s like to run a business when you care deeply about people, ethics, and doing things in a way that actually feels right.

We explore the tension between authenticity and self-promotion, the pressure to market in ways that feel uncomfortable, and what it’s like to try and build something sustainable when your nervous system isn’t built for hustle culture.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Questioning if you’re cut out for business, feeling icky about marketing, and wondering if you’re just “too much” or not tough enough for it.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Trying to juggle all the roles of running a business, comparing yourself to people doing more, feeling pressure to say yes to everything, and struggling with the vulnerability of essentially “selling yourself.”

🧠 Why our brains do it: Strong values, empathy, fear of rejection, people-pleasing, trauma patterns, and living in a system that often rewards profit over people.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Undercharging, overworking, avoiding visibility, burnout, conflict around money, and feeling torn between helping people and needing to earn a living.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Setting boundaries, making intentional decisions, learning to say no, finding ethical ways to market, and building a business that works with your energy rather than against it.

🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe you’re not too sensitive for business — maybe you just need to do business differently. 

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→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

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→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

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🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you're too damaged to deserve nice things? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice - two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about self-sabotage - not as a character flaw or a habit you can just decide to stop, but as something that makes complete sense when you understand what's underneath it.

We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to finally get something good - a relationship, an opportunity, a quiet moment of peace - and immediately want to blow it up.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello, testing people in relationships until they leave, leaving a WhatsApp group to see who notices, and growing a podcast slowly because putting it out there felt terrifying

👀 What it looks like in real life: picking fights when things are going well, not applying for the job in the first place, staying invisible at work, and the slow passive version nobody talks about - just quietly not doing the thing

🧠 Why our brains do it: familiar feels safe, even when familiar is painful - and good things can feel more frightening than bad ones when your nervous system has no template for them

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the active kind (burning it down yourself), the passive kind (never letting yourself go for it), and the sneaky kind (blaming everyone else so you never have to look at your own patterns)

🧰 What actually helps: getting curious about the positive intention behind the behaviour, swapping affirmations for "iffirmations" (what if I am good enough for this?), and understanding that this isn't about willpower — it's about what you were taught to believe you deserved

🌱 How to make peace with it: You're not sabotaging yourself because you're broken — you're protecting yourself the only way you knew how, and that protection made complete sense once.

Thanks for listening

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→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too hard on yourself to actually enjoy your life?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists who know the “what’s next?” feeling all too well) get real about what it’s like to achieve things… and still feel flat, behind, or like it didn’t really count.

We talk about moving the goalposts, chasing the next milestone, and the quiet pressure to keep doing, achieving, and proving — even when it’s stealing your ability to feel proud, satisfied, or at peace.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello achieving something and immediately thinking about the next thing, feeling weirdly flat after success, and wondering why it never quite feels like enough.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Getting the grade, the job, the milestone… and instead of celebrating, you’re already asking “so now what?” or questioning whether it even counts.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Perfectionism, internalised “not good enough” beliefs, cultural pressure to always be achieving, and the illusion that the next success will finally make us feel different.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻The different ways it shows up: Overachieving, constant busyness, tying your worth to success, chasing status or validation, or feeling pressure to keep performing once you’ve done well.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Slowing down, questioning why you’re doing something, noticing the “next thing” urge, and allowing yourself to actually sit with what you’ve achieved.

🌱 How to make peace with it: You don’t need to earn your worth through achievement — and nothing you achieve will ever fix a belief that says you’re not enough

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

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→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

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→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt like you're too intentional to rush but still guilty for not doing more, achieving more, becoming more?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get honest about hustle culture, slow living, and what happens when you look up mid-sprint and think, "wait, where am I even rushing to?"

We unpack our own complicated relationships with busyness, admit we've both absolutely ignored our own advice, and talk about what it actually looks like to choose a slower, more intentional life, especially when the world keeps telling you that's not enough.

This time we talked about:

🎙 We've felt this thing too (and we still do): burnout amnesia, banning ourselves from working on Wednesdays, edging forwards at traffic lights even though it gets you absolutely nowhere

👀 What it looks like in real life: rushing through your favourite meal and forgetting to taste it, always being onto the next thing before the current thing is even finished, keeping yourself so busy you never have to sit with your own head

🧠 Why our brains do it: self-worth tied to productivity, childhood conditioning, generational messaging about hard work ethic, and busyness as a very effective way of avoiding uncomfortable feelings

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: the boom and bust cycle (hello, neurodivergent brains), performing busyness like a badge of honour, never quite giving yourself permission to stop unless you're already on the floor

🧰 Coping mechanisms: structuring your week around your actual capacity, embracing JOMO (joy of missing out), taking a proper slow walk, choosing to be somewhere intentionally rather than just "popping in," cheap flowers from Sainsbury's that last a whole week

🌱 How to make peace with it: you're not too slow. The world is just moving too fast. And you get to decide which pace is actually yours.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

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→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too imaginative to stay grounded in “real life”?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists with very busy inner worlds) get real about what it’s like to have an imagination that doesn’t switch off. The kind where you don’t just think about life — you create it, replay it, and live multiple versions of it in your head.

We explore daydreaming, storytelling, fantasy, and the quiet, often private worlds we build to process, escape, imagine, and make sense of being human — and what it’s like when your inner world sometimes feels richer than the one outside it.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do):Hello daydreaming mid-conversation, imagining entire alternate lives, and getting completely lost in books, ideas, or future scenarios.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Having a “rich inner world,” being told you’re away with the fairies or in la la land, and feeling like your imagination can sometimes feel more vivid — or even more appealing — than reality.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Curiosity, creativity, pattern-seeking, storytelling minds, and for some of us, extremely vivid mental imagery (hello hyperphantasia) that makes imagination feel almost real.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: World-building, fantasy thinking, imagining different futures, using metaphor and visual thinking, or quietly living many different lives inside your head.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Using imagination to process emotions, to create meaning, to self-soothe, or sometimes to escape when real life feels limiting or overwhelming.

🌱 How to make peace with it: Imagination isn’t a distraction from life — it’s one of the ways we understand it, create it, and sometimes survive it.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt like you care so deeply about everyone around you that you've completely lost track of what you actually feel yourself?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice, two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about empathy, emotional contagion and compassion fatigue. Why being the one everyone comes to feels like an identity, why caring so much can quietly burn you out, and what the difference actually is between feeling with someone and drowning alongside them.

We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and get into the uncomfortable truth that being endlessly empathetic isn't always as altruistic as it feels.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Being the therapist friend as a teenager, absorbing emotions in the therapy room, and realising we were caring for others to avoid looking after ourselves

👀 What it looks like in real life: Taking on everyone's feelings as your own, not being able to feel okay unless everyone else is okay, and ending up with everyone else's balloons

🧠 Why our brains do it: Trauma histories that made hypervigilance a survival strategy, parentification, and an identity built around being the one who always shows up

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Emotional exhaustion, resentment in relationships, rescuing people who didn't ask to be rescued, and compassion fatigue you feel guilty for admitting

🧰 Coping mechanisms: The balloon and boulder metaphors, learning to hand feelings back without losing the empathy, and saying not now instead of yes when your capacity is low

🌱 How to make peace with it: Caring doesn't have to mean carrying everything, and empathy with boundaries is still empathy.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too passionate to just play it cool?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about loving things deeply. The kind of enthusiasm that makes you dive headfirst into hobbies, interests, research, fandoms, or ideas… and then suddenly wonder if you should tone it down because everyone else seems a lot more chill.

We talk about what it’s like to be the kind of people who don’t do things casually — who get excited, curious, invested, and sometimes a bit obsessive — and how that can feel embarrassing in a culture that values being cool, detached, and effortless.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello hyperfixations, falling down research rabbit holes, and accidentally making a hobby your entire personality for three months.

👀 What it looks like in real life: Getting wildly excited about things other people seem neutral about, feeling self-conscious about your enthusiasm, or trying to act less interested than you actually are.

🧠 Why our brains do it: Curiosity, pattern-seeking minds, dopamine, and the nervous-system joy that comes from deep engagement and learning.

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: For some people it’s creative projects or learning new skills, for others it’s books, fandoms, research spirals, niche interests, or intense phases of curiosity.

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Trying to play it cool, downplaying your excitement, pretending you’re less invested than you are, or saving your enthusiasm for “safe” people.

🌱 How to make peace with it: Maybe the goal isn’t becoming less passionate — it’s finding spaces where enthusiasm is welcome instead of embarrassing.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

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→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

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→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

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Ever felt too scared to be seen - like longing for connection but the moment someone actually looks at you, you want to disappear?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about vulnerability, being perceived, and why letting people truly see you can feel more like a threat than a gift — even when you desperately want it.

We unpack our own resistance, spiral in real-time, and share what it's like to want connection while also wanting the ground to swallow you whole.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We've felt this thing too (and we still do): Hello rescheduling this episode because it felt too vulnerable to record, singing perfectly alone and freezing the moment someone watches, and sharing something honest then immediately wanting to delete it

👀 What it looks like in real life: Avoiding eye contact, clamming up when eyes are on you, hiding from people after a moment of "too much," and post-socialising rumination that goes on way too long

🧠 Why our brains do it: Relational trauma and rejection experiences that taught us being seen is dangerous, internalised shame from critical or dismissive environments, and a nervous system that learned to protect you — even when you don't want it to

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Performance anxiety, hypervigilance to facial expressions and tone, grey-tinted glasses that find danger even when it isn't there, and quietly making your world smaller and smaller

🧰 Coping mechanisms: The "I am only acceptable when..." exercise to uncover your hidden rules, setting non-argumentative internal limits with your inner critic, building your compassionate voice alongside the critical one, and finding the people and spaces where it actually feels safe to try

🌱 How to make peace with it: Start with the lower-risk moments — one small, honest thing at a time — because being seen isn't something you leap into, it's something you practise slowly.

Thanks for listening

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💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected]

🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.

Ever felt like you’re too curious, too questioning, or too imaginative to just follow the rules quietly?

Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and lifelong why-askers) get real about what it’s like to move through rigid systems when your brain doesn’t think in straight lines.

We unpack what happens when creativity, curiosity and non-linear thinking are labelled “difficult,” “rebellious,” or “too much” — and the psychological cost of trying to shrink yourself to fit inside institutions that reward conformity.

This time we talked about:

Ever felt like you’re too self-aware to just relax and enjoy your life? Yeah. Us too.

In this episode of Too Much, Apparently, we (Carly and Alice — two therapists and recovering perfectionists with squishy brains) get real about overthinking, self-awareness, emotional insight and what happens when understanding yourself doesn’t automatically make you happier.

We talk about the strange place where therapy language becomes your first language, where you can explain your patterns, name your triggers and analyse every reaction… but still feel stuck, disconnected or unable to switch your brain off.

This is a conversation about overthinking, anxiety, self-analysis, perfectionism and the tension between insight and actually living.

This time we talked about:

🎙️ We’ve felt this thing too (and we still do): Being stuck in your head, analysing every feeling, knowing your patterns but repeating them anyway

👀 What it looks like in real life: Second-guessing decisions, struggling to be present, narrating your own emotions instead of feeling them, relationship friction, feeling lonely when your awareness changes faster than your relationships

🧠 Why our brains do it: Hypervigilance, trauma responses, perfectionism, therapist or high-insight brains, self-protection through analysis and the need to feel safe through understanding

🧍🏽‍♀️🧍🏻 The different ways it shows up: Spectator mode versus participant mode, self-monitoring, analytical spirals, identity confusion and the pressure to “know better” once you have insight

🧰 Coping mechanisms: Self-analysis, intellectualising emotions, trying to find the perfect explanation, over-reflecting instead of taking action, using awareness as control

🌱 How to make peace with it: Self-awareness helps most when it’s paired with self-compassion and small moments of just being human.

Thanks for listening

           💛💜🩷🩵🧡

💬 New episodes every Monday.

🎧 Follow now to join the conversation.

🧡 CONNECT WITH US

🎙️ Podcast socials:

→ Instagram: @toomuchapparently

→ TikTok: @toomuchapparently

→ YouTube: Too Much, Apparently

→ Website: www.toomuchapparently.com

👩‍💻 Carly Radford:

→ Website: www.carlyradford.com

→ Instagram: @the_sensitivity_therapist

👩🏻‍💻 Alice Tew:

→ Website: www.alicetew.com

→ Instagram: @reparentingwithalice

📩 Email us: [email protected] 🗓️ New episodes every Monday

This is a podcast that says: bring your too-muchness… we’re here for it.

Disclaimer: Just a quick note to say this podcast isn’t therapy, and it’s not a substitute for professional support. We’re here to share ideas and experiences, but if you’re struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional or a support service near you.