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Why do women double their chances of divorce after winning the lottery, while men are 30% more likely to tie the knot?" Join us as we dig into the surprising and often overlooked effects of financial windfalls on relationships. We explore the statistics and discuss the emotional disconnect that can arise when men focus on material fulfillment at the expense of their relationships. This episode kicks off with a thought-provoking video and an engaging discussion about the different marital outcomes for lottery winners based on gender.

 Plus, we brainstorm actionable solutions for addressing gender inequalities at work, emphasizing the importance of salary transparency and supportive men advocating for their female colleagues. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand and navigate the complex landscape of gender dynamics in both their personal and professional lives.

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Why do female-dominated fields often require advanced degrees yet offer starting salaries comparable to jobs needing less formal education? In this episode, we promise to uncover the deep-rooted gender disparities in career salaries by examining the educational requirements and initial pay scales of male-dominated and female-dominated professions. From construction workers and plumbers to social workers and teachers, we'll discuss the societal expectations and financial challenges young professionals face in these fields.

We'll also walk you through the arduous journey of becoming a licensed social worker, detailing the 3,000 hours of work and 150 hours of supervision needed for an LCSW. Plus, we’ll explore the continuous education, specialized training costs, and the role social media plays in maintaining a professional image. By the end of this episode, you'll have a comprehensive understanding of the financial and societal hurdles in these careers, making it clear just how demanding and undervalued certain professions can be.

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Can traditional gender roles be the hidden root of toxic relationships?" On this thought-provoking episode of the Toxic Cooking Show, Lindsay McLean and Christopher Patchett, LCSW, wrap up their deep dive into toxic archetypes by shedding light on the often-overlooked concept of "bang maids." These women juggle domestic chores and sexual services without receiving any form of reciprocity. We begin by revisiting our discussions on Pick Me's, N-logs, and Tradwives, underscoring how societal expectations can conceal these harmful dynamics. Through cultural references and recent events, we illustrate how outdated conservative viewpoints subtly infiltrate modern society.

Lastly, we tackle the critical issue of addressing consent and gender roles within relationships. We urge men to reflect on and correct their behaviors and expectations, while encouraging women to assert their needs and boundaries. By fostering supportive family environments and advocating for open conversations about compatibility and respect, we aim to help our listeners build healthier, more equitable partnerships. Tune in for an eye-opening and essential discussion on overcoming toxic dynamics and cultivating relationships rooted in mutual understanding.

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Can the allure of a perfectly baked sourdough starter lead you into the clutches of far-right ideologies? On this episode of the Toxic Cooking Show, we navigate the seemingly wholesome world of the "trad wife" movement, a growing online trend that romanticizes a return to 1950s domesticity and traditional gender roles. Lindsay McClane along with her trusty side kick, Christopher Patchet, LCSW, we unpack how these meticulously crafted videos subtly promote a more sinister agenda, including white supremacism and the glorification of a past that wasn’t as idyllic as it seems.

Our conversation doesn't stop at just analyzing the facade of the trad wife lifestyle; we critique its sustainability and the unrealistic promises it makes. We also delve into the darker implications for women who buy into these narratives, often finding themselves in precarious situations with little room for escape. Listen in as we challenge the glossy, curated images of trad wives and expose the dangerous, underlying messages they propagate, encouraging listeners to stay critical and informed.

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This week we take a look at giving the spotlight to the "influencers" of social media that, despite having a message of toxic outlooks, continue to have a platform that only grows. We dive deep into Gypsy Rose, (no longer a doctor) Jordan Peterson, and Andrew (tater tot) Tate. We look at the messages they prove and talk about how their toxic messages are not just layered in like an onion, but woven into the people they actually take pride in being. 
Also we look at those who listen, enjoy, and share their messages even thought the person that they are sharing goes against every fiber of the sharer's beliefs. 

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Have you ever caught yourself vying for attention in a way that makes you cringe in hindsight? Well, we've all been there, and this episode, Lindsay McLean, along with Christopher Patchet, are pulling back the curtain on the social labyrinth of the "pick me girl", right from its roots in the playground dynamics of early girlhood. We share our personal blunders and missteps as a springboard to dissect the 'pick me' phenomenon and the pressure to proclaim how we're 'not like other girls'. Meanwhile, Christopher, as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, adds depth to the conversation, confirming that this struggle for uniqueness isn't just a female venture but a human one.

Through our candid discussion, we peel away at the layers of seeking validation and the traps that come with it, especially as women navigate the treacherous waters of social validation while men wrestle with their own version of this - the 'simp' behavior. We take a hard look at how social media can twist our genuine attempts at self-expression into a desperate sprint for approval and wrap up by holding up a mirror to our own attitudes with a nod to Taylor Swift's lyrics. Get ready to explore the intricate dance of identity, acceptance, and the quest for a uniqueness that sometimes has us teetering on the edge of toxicity. Christopher brings his professional insights into the mix, making this a conversation you won't want to miss.

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Have you ever witnessed the struggle many men face when it comes to sharing their deepest emotions, even with those they hold dear? This week we have  a revelatory discussion that peels back the layers of why men often bottle up their feelings of sadness or depression. We take a look at factors that set up the stage to repressing men's emotions, from childhood conditioning that equates vulnerability with weakness, to sports and ingrained gender roles reinforcing the facade of stoicism.

Together, we navigate the complex landscape of gendered expectations and emotional expression, examining how these societal norms uniquely challenge both men and women. While women are discouraged from showing anger, men face a reality where sadness is often only recognized when it reaches a breaking point, a conditioning that undeniably contributes to the rising problem of men not seeking help for emotional issues. The evolution of therapy and its growing acceptance emerges as a beacon of hope in our conversation, underscoring the critical importance of addressing and maintaining emotional health for all.

Wrapping up our deep dive, we critique the damaging stereotypes that shape modern masculinity, including the extreme views of public figures who dismiss men's emotional needs. The stark reality of gendered expectations and their impact on mental health is laid bare as we unpack the ideologies that contribute to a society in which emotional suppression is often mistaken for strength. The episode concludes with a resounding call to action: it's time to dismantle toxic norms and foster an environment where emotional honesty isn't just allowed, but encouraged, for everyone, regardless of gender. Join us in this critical exploration of what it means to be emotionally expressive in a world still grappling with outdated definitions of strength.

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Ever found yourself chuckling at the wisdom buried within Urban Dictionary? That's where we kick things off, unraveling the fabric of 'alpha widows' and 'hypergamy' with humor yet a keen eye on their serious repercussions on modern dating and self-worth. Our latest episode peels back the layers of these potent social dynamics, as we navigate a world where rating human desirability, albeit controversially, can influence our relationships and personal growth.

Rounding off, we question whether an obsession with a past high-status partner truly makes one an 'alpha widow,' or if it's an unhelpful label that distracts from deeper relationship issues. Through personal anecdotes, we highlight the importance of intellectual matchmaking, and playfully assess the toxicity of the 'alpha widow' phenomenon on a scale from 'green potato' to 'antifreeze.' It's a candid look at the ties that bind us to our past and the quest for meaningful connections in the tapestry of life.

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Last week we talked about pretty privilege. This week we look at the total other end of the spectrum, the forgotten fuglies. Why are we, your lovely hosts, coining the term "the forgotten fuglies"? Well, apparently, unlike the pretty people that have all the research on their mental health, social ranks, and acceptabilities in the world, ugly people, well, they are kinda forgotten about by even psychologists. So to all those who are going to the bars on their own without attention, and to those sitting at home with zero messages on your dating apps, we see you. 

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Pretty privilege brings nothing but advantages to someone who has conventional attractiveness, right? There are the advantages of free drinks, easier to find a partner. But, with pretty privilege comes the unprivileges of unwanted attention, and over-looked mental health problems. This week we dive into the good, the bad, and the ugly (no pun intended) of what all is included in pretty privilege, and see where it falls on our scale of toxicity.