How to be a Dangerous Woman

Toxic Main Character Energy


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Have you ever wondered what the boundary between self-love and selfishness is? If so, this episode is for you. I'll be talking about how to be the shining star of your very own life without making everyone else in your life your supporting cast.

Main character energy is a trend that originated on Tiktok. It's where you see your life as a movie, and you're the main character in that movie. It began as a display of self-love, self-recognition, and self-respect. It's all about focusing on you, your dreams, putting yourself first, and how to create the life you love. 

Dangerous women are all about creating a life you love, and I love the idea of the main character energy. Just watch out for the downside. If we assume we are the main character, we could cast others as the background characters or the supporting cast. A true dangerous woman takes care of herself while being present for others. 

Episode Highlights: 

  • [02:27] I 100% believe that self-love isn't selfish. There's no way you can be the amazing woman that you are without taking care of yourself.
  • [02:47] There's a fine line between self-love and selfishness. Dangerous women operate in the space of loving ourselves fully while at the same time being present for others. We don't put ourselves last. We decide how we will show up for others and what type of partner we will be.
  • [03:29] How do you put yourself first without being selfish?
  • [03:54] 1. Learn to find the fun, joy, and peace in the everyday parts of your life. What would make your daily life 1% better?
  • [05:16] 2. Use your main character energy to create positives from negatives. Good and bad things happen, but you don't quit on your dream. 
  • [06:11] You take what would seem like a negative for other people and turn it into something amazing. You have the ability to look at life from the perspective of every event happening for a purpose.
  • [06:51] You become more resilient, strong and powerful as you look at everything as happening for a reason to benefit you.
  • [07:08] 3. Main character energy knows when to show up as a cast member in someone else's movie to help its main character shine.
  • [07:33] Dangerous women thrive on helping other main characters shine because we know it doesn't take away from our light. It only creates brighter light by supporting each other and building each other up.
  • [08:18] We are calling all the women we know to be their main character and embrace that woman. 
  • [08:32] We avoid toxic main character energy when we use it to find the strength and courage to do the things that we want to do in life. 
  • [09:35] Something amazing happens when we use our main character energy to bust through the status quo. We show other women that it is possible.
  • [09:50] Be the main character among the main characters. When it looks like it's over, the theme music is just queuing up for your comeback. Pick your theme music now!

Links and Resources:

  • Dr. Krystal Conner
  • Dr. Krystal Conner Instagram
  • Dangerous Woman Manifesto
  • Optional Excellence
  • The Lexicon Of Feeling Offended
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